Hey guys i'm a noob, ya ya oh well...
Anyways here it is... Ive been with my g/f for almost 17 months.. but our sex is so blahhhhhhhhhhhhh... I love the girl to death but when we have sex its we're in we're out thats that.
She won't let me finger her, she wont let me eat her out, she will ONLY do it missionary and sometimes she'll ride me after im getting tired, she won't give me head, she won't do it anal.
It upsets me. Because before we started going out she had only hooked up with one other guy (more then just kissing) (she was 16), and in that one night they 69'ed. We have never 69'ed.
So when we're leaying in bed I'll start kissing her neck putting my hands on her, ill try to finger her and she'll be like "Baby No". So, i'll rub her OVER her short shorts or pants or w/e. Then she'll just be like "lets have sex." So I just go in there orgasm and get out. Why should I put effort into it when she wont?
Is there something wrong with me for getting disapointed in this? If I ask her "Hey Baby Girl... what do you think the chances are tonight of me getting lucky (getting a blow job)" and it will start a HUGE fight. I'll be dumbfounded on how pissed she gets. I get upset when she won't let me finger her or eat her out but I just swallow it and say "w/e maybe next time" But Next time hasn't came in 17 months.
I really don't know what to do? I want to have a night where she starts blowing me, a nd then I turn her over and eat her out and then we 69 and then go into having sex in all kinds of positions and ENJOY the sex. Because doing it the same way EVERY TIME is so boring.
Do you guys have any ideas? I may seem "pushy" but I really aint. I'm so good to her, and don't make her do anything. She just gets so upset when I ask her about stuff. Please help.
Talk with her. It's going to be hard not to blame, but try something like "i want to talk about this." If she's too awkward about it, maybe she's not emotionally as mature as you had hoped. If she's honest and says she just likes sex better, explain your desires to her to try new positions. A good partner is receptive to the other's needs. You sound like you are trying to be a good partner. Hopefully she will be too.
Good luck.
As wierd as this sounds me and my boyfriend had sex before we did any oral. I just found sex more pleasurable, but he gave me time to get used to the thought, and watching porn may make her a little more comfortable with it too. 17 months is a long time and maybe it is something that you just need to talk about to come to an understanding on why she isnt all for it. Good Luck
Hi Kama,
I'd say you should be able to talk these things out with her. Don't make it about blame... as in, "I don't know why you won't give me a blowjob." Just talk about the things you'd like to do and see if you can't reach some compromise. Without knowing her, it's hard to guess what the reason for her behavior might be. She's the only one who could answer that.
I'd also say if she isn't willing to talk about it, then you have to decide if this is something you can live with.
Good luck and take care.