Hi everyone. My boyfriend and I are going to have our first make out session soon. What tips/advice can you provide to help me please him the most? :confused: By the way, I have no idea how far it'll go but I doubt it'll escalate into sex because he has said he is not yet ready for sex.
Mon, 09/24/2007 - 23:53
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Our First Make Out Session - tips/advice?
Well, you really dont please someone through makeing out...unless its not with there lips ;)...the only things that I can really suggest to you is to be somewhere private, (in case it goes into someting more than making out) be in a comfortable position, laying down or sitting in his lap are probably the best. Move your hands, all over, up his back, behind his head etc. start off slow and build up to more passion. Dont just go straight into cleaning their tonsils.
You can choose to set limits before hand, or simply tell him to stop you if it gets too far....starts simple...take off his shirt...then let him undress you as you see fit...touch his crotch, rub tug just be gentle and take it slow, then take off the pants...if he starts to hesitate, or asks you to stop then stop...Have a condom ready, but avoid sex unless you and him really really really want it...cuz you and him dont want to regret it later on...and since he has told you, and since you havent even made out with him before, then you really shouldnt until you talk about it at a time in which your hormones are level and not in "reproduction" mode.
Also read Doc's stickey:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/22722-kissing_and_caressing--a_y...
[QUOTE=Ducy;194127]Well, you really dont please someone through makeing out...unless its not with there lips ;)...[/QUOTE]
Trust me, kid, there's a lot more to pleasure than just your pee-pee and her wee-wee. If you can't be pleased by kissing, there's something seriously wrong with you. Sounds like you need to get back to the basics...
Anyway, on to the question - I don't have any "secret moves" to give you. Just make damn sure you stop thinking about "pleasing him" and get lost in the passion. Stop trying to plan out every single movement - the important thing is being in the moment. You'll know what to do.
[quote=oedipussy;194134]Trust me, kid, there's a lot more to pleasure than just your pee-pee and her wee-wee. If you can't be pleased by kissing, there's something seriously wrong with you. Sounds like you need to get back to the basics...
Anyway, on to the question - I don't have any "secret moves" to give you. Just make damn sure you stop thinking about "pleasing him" and get lost in the passion. Stop trying to plan out every single movement - the important thing is being in the moment. You'll know what to do.[/quote]
Okay Oedi...now you are the king of planning? LOL? Did you read through the meaning of roses (your thread on is this love)?
Nope, I'm not the king of planning - I'm the king of NOT planning. Which was basically the advice I was giving her. Take life as it comes, rely on your insticts, etc. etc....
Yep, read it and replied a few days ago in fact. Guess you missed it... It's there in my thread.
[QUOTE=oedipussy;194134]Trust me, kid, there's a lot more to pleasure than just your pee-pee and her wee-wee. If you can't be pleased by kissing, there's something seriously wrong with you. Sounds like you need to get back to the basics...[/QUOTE]
See sera this is what i was talking about in my message...
Oed...i stand by what i posted....And i know that there is more about my "pee-pee" and her "wee-wee"...trust me i know...oh and btw im an adult so dont be afraid to say penis and vagina or dick and pussy...whatever floats your boat...it is after all a website about sex!
Look at what the OP put she talked about wanting to "please" him and then she talked about sex...yes she said she didnt know if it would lead to it, but she mentioned it...the way i took this was that she wanted to please him in a sexual way.
You can please someone with a kiss...believe me ive had my share of mind blowing kisses, but considering that i thought she wanted to please him in a sexual way, i find it hard to do that with something as non-erotic (although it can be) as a kiss....
Now ladybug if you want to please your boyfriend in a non sexual way, and make it something he wont forget, dont kiss him all day, talk about kissing him, move to kiss him but pull away...make him want to kiss you. By the end of the day he will be so wound up wanting to kiss you, that when you do it will be one to remember.
You talk about me in your messages? How flattering...
I'm not exactly very observant but even I could tell that she was asking how to make her make-out session as enjoyable as possible, not how to get him off.
OK, so you're 17? I guess that's close to being an adult. No reason to get an attitude over language - I was just trying to be colorful.
Anyway, this is the problem I have with the teenage mindset on sex. You're oversimplifying by placing things into two groups - "things that make me blow my load are sexual" and "things that don't are not". Two people can be "sexual" with each other without either of them having an orgasm. It's not about crossing a finish line. Enjoy the moment. Smell the damn roses! Kissing someone is just as sexual as penetration is... Possibly more so.
Ladybug - Do NOT talk about kissing him beforehand. Just do it. He'll appreciate the spontaneity...
[QUOTE=oedipussy;194143]You talk about me in your messages? How flattering...
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No not you...just about the situation. That is how i interpreted the post. yes i look at it as two different things, getting off and enjoying the moment. I love making out...more than anything else...I know that teens oversimplify things, and i do this at times too. i dont think that getting off is neccessarily the only kind of sexual I know that a kiss can be but but at the same time ive never heard of people being charged with sexual harassment for a kiss but i have for touching. :p
Alright. Not sure what situation it is that you're talking about, but OK.
Well you're young yet - you've got your whole life ahead of you to get it down. I know that when I was 17 I was always in a rush to "take it to the next level". After a while though I started to be able to seperate being intimate with someone from having sex with them. I'm still completely at the mercy of my hormones, but believe me, you have no idea how much better everything is when you stop looking at it with the perspective that having an orgasm is the goal.
As far as your sexual assault reference, surely you wouldn't walk up to a random woman on the street and shove your tongue down her throat, just as you probably wouldn't grab her ass either. Same thing, just different methods...
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As far as your sexual assault reference, surely you wouldn't walk up to a random woman on the street and shove your tongue down her throat, just as you probably wouldn't grab her ass either. Same thing, just different methods...[/QUOTE]
lol that is true...haha...i just like to use the extremes when it comes to comparison lol. yeah i know that i still have time to grow, but i do already understand the diff between being intimate and having sex....and i must say having sex to have sex is fun...but i like intimacy a great deal more.
oh and orgasms not being the goal is great fun. I mean if your talking about things like making out, full body massages things like that...its always fun...especially turning each other on just for the sake of it...thats always entertaining lol :D
Just relax and have fun. enjoy the sensations of kissing! and be yourself. that always helps!
Well everyone, we didn't exactly make out but we did have a bit of fun. We french kissed and I licked and nibbled on his ear a little bit. He said it felt good but it didn't turn him on. I thought that was weird because that usually turns every guy on. He said it'll probably take some work for me to get him turned on (in the future). So, thanks everyone!