Sex Addiction

[EvilEvilKitten]

Is a REAL thing but it isn't him wanting more sex than she does - or vice versa - no, nothing like that. It isn't about being able to say Yes.

Sex addiction is the inability to say No to anyone, anywhere, at any time - no matter how inappropriate, disgusting or illegal. The truly sex addicted has no boundaries, no limits whatsoever. The sex they do have is also not about orgasms, pleasure, or the shared intimacy - for them sex validates/proves their existence. "I fuck, therefore I am." Unfortunately for them, this 'proof of life' doesn't last and so they must continue.

This is a very rare condition and not a happy one.

[wet_suit_one]

That's a better definition of sex addiction than the usual horse manure that I typically see.

Once again your wisdom shines through EEK.

[Brandye]

Some horse manure: Any addiction is the need or want for something to an extent that it interferes with normal relationships.

Evil gives a good operational definition with respect to sex specifically. Witness the current nonsense regarding various sport stars around the world.

[wet_suit_one]

Not sure I follow you Brandye. Are you saying Tiger is a sex addict or are you saying it is a misapplication of the term based on what we know from the media?

Personally, I have issues with the "Any addiction is the need or want for something to an extent that it interferes with normal relationships" concept of addiction.

Is work an addiction? It causes a lot of problems in many relationships. Is sex an addiction in every case of adultery? I find that hard to agree with. Also, I find it hard to buy the concept that there's an addiction which can be totally determined by another person (e.g. the spouse that only wants to have sex for reproductive purposes and no other. That person's spouse is a sex addict? Huh????)

Is money an addiction? People fight over money more than anything else and is a constant conflict in marital relationships (or so I hear, I'm not married myself, but I recall it being an issue in my parent's marriage which I did observe in person).

Please clarify.

Thanks.

[EvilEvilKitten]

WSO - Brandye did say horse manure - as in "this is BS".

Tiger Woods, et al, is easily understood. Mrs. Woods is also completely understandable. He just went 'over the limit'. Now the senator and the Brazilian involved emotions therefore his wife divorced him. Spitzer's transgression was a commercial transaction only so his wife didn't. NONE of these men are sex addicts.

The sex addict has no ego, no sense of self-worth.
The examples above have an excess of ego: hubris.

[woogydice]

Phew, I am cool then. I'd love to have more sex, but I can definitely wait on.