It hurts Girlfriend

[Hangman]

I have been having sex with my girlfriend for the past year now. During sex it is all good we enjoy it heaps but i still have a few inchs i still want to put in. I left her legs up a bit higher to put the remaining inchs in. As it goes in further in she tells me it hurts, like a werid cramp like pain.

Im not to sure if it is me, or if its her. Or if the size of my penis. I just need a little advice.

[dancingdoc2]

Make sure each of you is well lubricated.
That said, you are entering her body and with her permission, therefore penetration is as much about her as it is you. Do what is comfortable for her.

If you are stroking away in order to build your arousal to peak, then you are going about this all wrong. Thrusting should only be necessary to take you beyond the point of no control and therefore only last a few strokes. Going deep can help a man reach peak, yet so too can just changing the angle of your body so that there is more pressure on the base of your penis at the abdomen.

If you only want to "shove it in" to get it all in there then rethink why you are doing all this. All most women require is a sensation of fullness and this can be accomplished with the first couple of inches.

[pinkFlames]

Originally Posted by Hangman

...I left her legs up a bit higher to put the remaining inchs in. As it goes in further in she tells me it hurts, like a werid cramp like pain.

Let her leave her legs down, you're probably hitting on her cervix in this position, there is no need to penetrate so deeply.

[unexperienced lover]

ok i have this same problem... my bf "shoves it in" as doc said and i too get that cramp like feeling... it makes me tense up and pull away. Doing this only makes him frustrated and makes me feel like im not good in bed. Im 18 and he is my first. What can we do that wont give me that feeling and make it better for us?

[Brandye]

The best solution, after adequate stimulation, is for the woman to get on top to control depth and other movement.

The stimulation, or arousal, is very important. The vagina is normally a very small organ. During arousal it both elongates and expands making it possible to accept the penis.

Unex,

You are not bad in bed; he is!

[EvilEvilKitten]

THE PROGRAM

Find, read, and then do THE PROGRAM! It is one of the sticky posts in this forum and it WORKS!

BTW if your bf/gfis NOT giving you what you need to be aroused to the point of you being incandescent - get a new bf/gf! Life is far too short to spend it with poor and/or selfish lovers.

[EvilEvilKitten]

HEY Hangman - learn to KNOW what you're doing BEFORE you go doing it!

Look up the post entitled The Four Hotspots and then LEARN how to stimulate each of them.

Because your desire to 'give her a few more inches' is NOT the right attitude - giving her a few ore orgasms IS.