Good place for first time sex

[maxjunk]

Okay, so I'm still a virgin. I'm only 15, so let me give you some history. One of my friends I met in school this year, we were in a relationship for 3 weeks then broke up. Things got rough, but for the last few weeks were back to being good friends. She has a messed up home life, so she finds solice in other men. She's blown 4 guys already, and been raped. But I actually kinda like her still, and she kinda likes me. I really just want to have sex right now. But my parents would flip if they found out. I can't really do it in my house. So is there a good place to have sex? I live 8 minutes from school on foot and she's been to my house before. My backyard is kind of big, but where I am thinking about doing it is kind of close to the driveway. The big problem is if my sister or parents come home while were having sex. Can you please help me think of a good place to do it? All I can think of is backyard or the school bathrooms. Maybe the forest.

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--including yours.

Please read each of the articles under this heading in the Index:

SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE

After doing your homework, if you still do not have an answer as to where to have sex, you are absolutely not ready. Personally, I believe the two of you should wait at least three more years. The two of you have a great deal of maturing to do before you are emotionally ready. Mother Nature gives us the ability to procreate right out of puberty; however, this biological fact does not mean it is practical.

I understand the curiosity about it, yet you'd be much better off waiting and this is the benefit of hindsight and paying it forward. This may not be what you want to hear, although, I gather you came here for information.

Orgasms are much more intense when in the company of someone we have an emotional connection with than they are when home alone. Orgasms are much more intense during Foreplay than they are from intercourse, so before jumping the gun on that, consider limiting your romantic activities to Foreplay.

What do you know about birth control, hers, yours, ours?
What do you know about Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, Foreplay?
What do you know about first time intercourse? Then, all those to follow?
What is important to you, making out? Making love? Confirming the feelings you have for one another? Seeking her pleasure? Seeking your pleasure, first?


Until you have information and answers to these questions, you are not ready.

[maxjunk]

Thank you for welcoming me. I have a few condoms that were kept in room temperature environment and are only a few months old, she is on birth control and has been for months, we both know each others bodies somewhat (we've made out several times and I've fingered her), and I really don't care about the emotional stuff. She doesn't either. We both just want to have sex. I am asking for advice where to have sex. Not how or when I'm ready.

[Brandye]

If you cannot figure that part out, you should give up. The bits you are dismissing are the important elements of preparation. Perhaps your mother would have some suggestions. She knows the area while we do not.

[dancingdoc2]

> I really don't care about the emotional stuff. She doesn't either. We both just want to have sex. I am asking for advice where to have sex. Not how or when I'm ready.

Have you asked your girlfriend why she wants to have sex? We know why you do. Apart from curiosity, most likely it is simply to get your rocks off regardless of what you tell her.

Are you certain she does not care for the emotional stuff? For women, sex is tied more to the psyche than it is for men, so my guess is once her curiosity has been satisfied, she will discover this fact and be more particular when and with whom and under what circumstances she has sex. At some point you must come to understand that women have a different criteria for having sex than do guys. Because of this, you must consider the emotional component of this in the future. This is partly why I suggested waiting for a few years.

That said, and falling upon deaf ears, have a look around your neighborhood and town/city. Regardless of where you opt to lose your virginity, play it safe with regard to using a condom, plus her choice of contraception, plus, a third backup method--a spermicide. At your age, all three are necessary.

> She's blown 4 guys already, and been raped. But I actually kinda like her still....

You make this sound like what she has done or has had done to her has somehow tainted her. While you have yet to acquire a "history", ya just gotta know that (most) all the people you date in the future will have, as will you someday. What is important is establishing a "history" with the the current person. There is an article listed in the Index that you should read about one person having more experience than the other.

> I really just want to have sex right now. But my parents would flip if they found out.

Have you asked yourself why we have the same opinion as your folks?

> I can't really do it in my house. The big problem is if my sister or parents come home while were having sex.

Why not? Your bedroom is a quite pleasant environment (if your room is squared away). My guess is that this experience won't require much time since you two are not interested in the "emotional stuff". Have you ever heard the old expression: "wham, bam, thank you, ma'am"? My guess is you can have this over and done with inside of fifteen minutes. Surely you know when to expect your parents and/or sister back home.......... If not, ask.

> So is there a good place to have sex? ... My backyard is kind of big, but where I am thinking about doing it is kind of close to the driveway.

How secluded is this area? Can neighbors and passersby catch a glimpse? (Don't ya just hate back yards without fences, neighbors in back with two story houses, apartment houses?)

> Can you please help me think of a good place to do it? All I can think of is backyard or the school bathrooms. Maybe the forest.

Well, forget the bathrooms. If you are worried about being discovered by family, what about people needing to use a public restroom. Even if all you're interested in is getting your rocks off, a (dirty?) stall is not a suitable place.

Forest? Now this is a good idea. Plan on taking a picnic lunch, blanket, and a couple of pillows along. Plan a day or two ahead and go find a suitable place off the trail under a tree. The same goes for a city park, possibly. (Of course, if you are still not interested in getting your emotions involved, do not include the picnic lunch.)

[maxjunk]

Thank you for the suggestions. Her plans for Monday were trashed, so I think I'll try to get her then. And after some thought I think I can just do it in my house. It shouldn't be very hard, I just think my mom might not let us be in there alone if shes at home. But I have found a good place in the forest aswell. And in my backyard, we are in the suburbs. There is a 8 foot fence around it that is pretty much blocking all vision, and where I would plan to do it is a shed that would be out of street vision. So I think we can go ahead. Wish meh luck

[maxjunk]

Ohh, and she's using birth control for the last few months, and I've gotcondoms with spermicidal lube on them.

[Mrsdeepthroat]

UGH..a bed, car, outside, 4-wheeler, pool, hottub, stairs, against a wall, etc.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by maxjunk

Ohh, and she's using birth control for the last few months, and I've got condoms with spermicidal lube on them.

Use a separate spermicide. Those condoms are not that good at providing "extra" protection. The spermicide is available over the counter at any drug store/department.

Always wear a condom, never sometimes.
Never have intercourse without a spermicide as a third line of protection.
Always insist that your partner use some form of contraceptive.

Unless one or both of you are prepared to become parents, never rely solely upon your partner for protection. Always look out for #1--you. BC is never 100% and during the teen years, people are more apt to become pregnant for a variety of reasons than at any other time in their life.

> Wish meh luck

I will, although for quite a different reason than you are requesting.

[Rich In Flavour]

Perhaps you could go camping if you have a tent, spend the night in a forest. Maybe have a sleep-over at a different friend's house and when the others are downstairs watching a film or eating pizza, you and the girl can go upstairs.

Or, do what has become a lost right of passage - wait until you are in University to have sex.