So he asks me if we want sex...

[pinkchi-chan]

When me and my boyfriend are laying in bed, watching something on TV normally, he turns to me and asks if i want to have sex.

I dunno if this is just me, but when he asks, and it gives me time to think whether to or not, i end up just saying to sleep.

Part of me like to be respectfully asked if i want sex, where as another part I don't like being asked. Feels odd in some way. Or it's because it seems like a routine of sex, we lay in bed/he asks/I say yes/We have sex/Sleep..... I am 18 and only 4 months new to sex.

I told my boyfriend this, and he kinda thought i was basically tell him to start of sex all the time, when i was basically saying if HE wants sex, maybe he shouldn't always ask.

Has anyone else ever felt like this??

[dancingdoc2]

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> he kinda thought i was basically tell him to start of sex all the time, when i was basically saying if HE wants sex, maybe he shouldn't always ask.

I recommend that the two of you read these two articles, first:

Chapter Three:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST
This chapter has a section on "Implied Consent" and "boundaries" regarding making out and how far to go.
NOTE: Frequently, and depending upon the nature of a poster's question, Doc recommends the person read Chapter Three, first, and Chapter One, second--then the others in turn.

The information on Implied Consent" will confirm what you told him, and, give him permission to begin making out with you without having to ask. If there is ever a time you do not want to or cannot, or would like to--later, it is your responsibility to inform him and clearly, particularly if it is the latter, in which case give him a time and/or place. Never say "NO", unless you absolutely do not want to make out with the guy, otherwise, say not now but "when". Why? Because if you say "no", the male of the species takes this as an absolute and to mean never.

The second article the two of you should read is:
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

Follow these by reading all the other articles on making out under this heading:
A COUPLES GUIDE TO MAKING OUT
The Beginning-
Beyond Beginning-

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[Brandye]

Turn the damned telly off! That is for another room. If the two of you cannot figure out the signals each is sending to get it going, then try another approach.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Do you like sex?
Then have some sex and quit beng a WIMP.
Really!

Get your BCPs and him his condoms and forget Television ever existed.

You never ever put a television in the bedroom anyway!
What were you thinking?!!?

[Rouge]

We have one in the bedroom, but we don't end up watching a lot of what goes on it....hehe

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

Im your boyfriend would do anything for you if you asked him
just means you and him have to work it out and just cuddle when your too tired
any guy / females like to be surprised with things from their partner, I have had to ex girlfriends who used to just kiss me or put there hand over me if they wanted to do things or sit on top and be all loving
the books i have read say tv isnt a good thing to have around if your wanting to spend quality time.

[pinkchi-chan]

We watch a lot of TV together as a time to just cuddle, but before we have sex we turn it off, rather i say to turn it off, because I don't like it being on during sex.

Either way, my problem has been solved :]