Am i a sadist?

[weasel]

So a while back i was working knots out of my girlfriends back and whenever she let out a wimper of pain i found it really sexy, does this mean that i am a sadist?

[lnt1103]

Precisely what did you find sexy about it? Causing pain, or the sound itself? Sadism is about the act of causing pain. If it was the sound itself that turned you on...then....my guess would be the sound just turned you on. And I know that's circular, but you know what I mean.

[dlb]

Weasel, I would say that to some degree you are a sadist. I like the streamlined dlb definition of sadist: one who becomes sexually aroused and7or obtains a greater degree of sexual satisfaction from causing pain on others.
There are other definitions. You are better off ignoring them because they might make you feel guilty about your sexual response or will mislead you.

I had six other sadists and six masochists standing around in my kitchen last night talking about sadism and masochism as sexual tastes. The consensus was that while we may be a minority within society we just as worthy individuals as anyone else.

What is important about sadistic sex, as with any kind of sex, is that it should only occur between consenting adult humans. As long as you have another adult human as a partner who willingly participates in your sadistic sex ( and if said partner enjoys it even better) and you are both aware of the risks involved- go for it.

int1103 poses an interesting question: was it the pain or the sound that turned you on? Results may vary from person to person. I am turned on by the knowledge that I am causing "pain" to someone who wants to experience it and by the sounds my "victim" emits; sounds which usually sound more like pleasure than suffering. As stated before. It is always better to "hurt" someone who enjoys it.

[Pill]

As is usually the case, I agree with DLB on all points.

[Browser]

Causation != correlation.

We can't accurately give you a convenient label from one isolated incident that none of us were present for. Want to know about what labels may apply to you? Talk to a shrink.

[dlb]

Sadism and Masochism are about to be purged from DSM IV so talking to a "shrink" is no longer considered necessary for people whose sexual experience is enhanced by causing pain.