Masterbation / Anal

[Deviation]

Ok,

Basically im aroused by the thought of my boyfriend masterbating but he seems uncomfortable doing it in front of me, i have masterbated infront of him a few times to urge him on but he has only responded once and for about 3 minutes.

I ask him to and he kinda goes... why?
I tell him because i would enjoy it and all that shite but it seems to tense him up the thought of it...

I was wondering how to make it more comfortable for him . He seems to really not want to and i dont want to push him into anything, and he finds it wierd and i just dont know how to 1. make it more comfortable
2. he says it doesnt do anything for him and shite... but i duno...


And He wants to try anal sex...

which sends shivers down my spine ...

we have tried twice now, and it makes me wet but i never let him go all the way in and stop him after not long.

I suggested that it became a mutal thing where i do him anal and he does me anal, therefore i would feel more comfortable. but he thinks it is wrong for a guy to recieve anal in any shape or form!
I think he jsut thinks it wrong for him !

So i was wondering, how can i make having ana sex more comfortable for me
and how can i influence him into having anal ?

[Buck Naked]

Get him to do some reading on here. If he can get over his homophobic hang ups I'm sure he will thank you for introducing him to it. I can't remember who said it on here but the quote is perfect...there's nothing that he, a man, could do with you, a woman, that would be considered gay. That may not be the exact quote, but it's pretty close. The prostate is a very important erogenous zone for men and if he denies himself of that pleasure, well...it's his loss.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by Deviation

Ok,

Basically im aroused by the thought of my boyfriend masterbating but he seems uncomfortable doing it in front of me, i have masterbated in front of him a few times to urge him on but he has only responded once and for about 3 minutes.

I ask him to and he kinda goes... why?
I tell him because i would enjoy it and all that shite but it seems to tense him up the thought of it...

This ought to be sufficient reason for him to do it; however, my guess is that he is self conscious and thus uncomfortable doing something he considers a private matter. It boils down to the fact that he is not as comfortable with intimacy as you are at this point in your relationship. Will he change? Perhaps, in time.

I was wondering how to make it more comfortable for him. He seems to really not want to and i dont want to push him into anything, and he finds it wierd and i just dont know how to 1. make it more comfortable
2. he says it doesnt do anything for him and shite... but i duno...

The "why" he should do it has been written about in this article listed in the Index:

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Please read the bottom of this section:
MANUAL/HAND STIMULATION-

The BIG answer as to why he should do this in front of you is so that you can learn his unique and specific technique for bringing about his own orgasms. We all masturbate in essentially the same ways for our gender, however, each of us has some unique variations to the theme that if miss handled by someone else, will fail to get us to the brink of an orgasm, or if we do get there, it won't be quite as expected.

I agree with BN, encourage him to read around, and especially the articles in the Index. Knowledge is empowering, so read them together or individually, but read them. When suggesting this to him, do so in a positive way, otherwise he will most likely take it as a criticism of his performance that is anything but the truth.

Let him know that by watching him masturbate and then by taking your hand in his so that you can learn his method will benefit him in the long run.

And He wants to try anal sex...which sends shivers down my spine ...

Why? What aspect of this does? Here is an article for you to read on the matter.

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

we have tried twice now, and it makes me wet but i never let him go all the way in and stop him after not long.

When I ask what aspect of this form of play bothers you, I mean-
a. giving
b. receiving
c. fingering/rimming (giving or receiving)
d. accepting dildos/toys inside (giving or receiving)
e. intercourse

Everything with the exception of (e) are normal sex play activities. You have every right to draw the line where you want and if this means his penis does not go inside you, then he will have to live with your decision.

BN noted that massaging the prostate gland is intensely pleasurable when done when he is at the top of his arousal curve and nearing the point of no return. Massaging it when he is about to climax will do two things; first, it will "kick-start" his climax; second, it will intensify his orgasm.

I suggested that it became a mutal thing where i do him anal and he does me anal, therefore i would feel more comfortable. but he thinks it is wrong for a guy to recieve anal in any shape or form!

OH! my...does he have much to understand about this!
Question: does he express any interest in locating and fingering your G-spot? His P-spot has just as much importance if he only understood. Help the lad.

I think he jsut thinks it wrong for him !

So i was wondering, how can i make having ana sex more comfortable for me
and how can i influence him into having anal ?

First by doing some reading. Understanding that knowledge is empowering.

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

Second, by deciding what sort of activities are off limits.
Anal intercourse may or may not be off limits, it's an individual call. Knowing that the anus outside and just inside are richly endowed with sensitive nerve endings that boost our responses and our orgasms gives fingering and rimming an all important purpose for increased fun and pleasure.

I often tell people the following-
"Making love is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership." "Explore and learn together."

P.S. Please do not use four letter words.