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[TommyXXX]

I Have A Really Close Friend I've known Since Seventh Grade That I Sleep With, We've Never Actually Dated But Neither Of Us Has "Been" With Anyone Else.

And I Wouldnt Call It Friends With Benifits Because Its Not Just that, That Only Started Last Year. Its Not All We Do together Either, Its Almost Like that Episode Of Sienfeld, Where Jerry & Elane Work Out the System. "This And That" I Dont Know If Anyone remembers that one, but its a decent comparison.

Is This Unusual Or Uncommon? Anyone Else have A Similar Situation?

And Are There Any Problems that Could Occur In Our Relationship?

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Originally Posted by TommyXXX

I Have A Really Close Friend I've known Since Seventh Grade That I Sleep With, We've Never Actually Dated But Neither Of Us Has "Been" With Anyone Else.

Do you live together or just get together whenever one of you has an "itch"?

Are you free to date others or just have an understanding between you?

Is This Unusual Or Uncommon? Anyone Else have A Similar Situation?

I have heard of FWB+M(ore) and wouldn't think it uncommon to do more with each other when out of bed. Also, I wouldn't be surprised that after an attempt to make a relationship work fails, because one person loves yet is not in love with the other this is what their relationship actually is until it does in fact end because it is not going anywhere. This does not seem to be what is happening with the two of you.

And Are There Any Problems that Could Occur In Our Relationship? And I Wouldnt Call It Friends With Benifits Because Its Not Just that, That Only Started Last Year. Its Not All We Do together Either,

It sounds to me like you can consider your arrangement as FWB whether there is a "+" following or not. As such it is a relationship that seems to satisfy the two of you for now, perhaps longer term. Dating? Maybe not formally, although, if the two of you are going places and doing things together and by one or the other of you calling and extending an invitation--what would you call it? How do you feel about each other? If anything, you probably are fond of each other, perhaps even love each other, yet are you "in love"? My guess is that you are either deciding if this is the case, or, you are not and probably will never be.

If true, then when one of you finds Ms./Mr. Right, and goes about dating properly, then your relationship as it exists will probably end. Be prepared for this eventuality and do not be devastated by it.

As it stands, your arrangement is satisfying your respective needs. One problem that might arise out of this is if one or the other of you wants to up the level of commitment and the other has not developed the same level of feelings. If or when this happens it is time to move on and date others.