He's to big, I'm to small

[catone]

I've just started seeing someone, and he's quite big. I've always found sex painful at the beginning, but it goes away, and if I have sex the next day it's a bit easier again. Anyway my current guy actually couldn't even get fully inside of me initially and when he tried it really hurt. Eventually we got there, but I bled a bit afterwards and think I might have been a bit bruised inside as well. He did use alot of lubricant, on himself and me but it still took time.
We are probably only going to be seeing each other once a week due to our busy schedules, and I'm worried that I am going to have this problem every time. And apparently I freaked him out, even though I only mentioned it when he asked and I barely said a word about it.
I'm also wondering if this is the reason I don't get any pleasure out of it. That the pain ruins the moment, even though it goes away after a short while.
If there's any relevance I also find pap smears quite painful, which according to my new GP isn't normal.

Can anyone offer any advice? I not only want the pain to go away, I want to enjoy it.

[Brandye]

Couple this with your other post on the pill and it is well past time to see your gyn. All women should have a complete exam before becoming sexually active. With any issue, such as you are bringing up, you should get to it before damage is done. Tell the doctor what you are experiencing as specifically as possible. Yes, embarrassing, but the doctor needs to know to help you. I am more comfortable with women doctors but then I am prejudiced and there are many good male gyn's. It is easier to talk about the specifics of your sex with a woman; it is easier for her to understand what you are saying.

The fact that you experience pain with your annual smear indicates that you have some situation worth discussing. Tell the doctor.

95%+ of all vaginas will accommodate 95%+ of penis available. If it is uncomfortable, find out why.

[Bote]

Our first intercourse episode ended up with my gf going to the hospital. She was a virgin. We stopped for a week or so. We tried again. I ensured that she was dilated enough to get 3 fingers inside of her before penile insertion. I used this with limited penetration and gentle thrusting. The result was the same. She ended up going to the hospital again. It was at that time she told me that she had no sexual desire and only wanted to do it to please me. We stopped having intercourse so we could figure out what to do. I concentrated on helping her achieve an orgasm. She had no clue what one was and freaked out the first time and told me not to touch her, but later said it was a good feeling and wanted to try it again. A couple of days later, she had her second orgasm. That's when her sexual desire kicked in with a vengeance. She learned to relax during sex. Today we have no problem, except that I have trouble keeping up with her desire. I get no time off. The faster, harder, deeper, the better now. She can still be a little tight, but lube helps tremendously.

[catone]

Thanks for the advice. I will try and bring it up at m appointment, and it is a female gyn I will be seeing. Prior to this I have just seen male GP's, so maybe seeing a female will help.

[Libidogurl]

If using a lubricant didn't work then why don't you go to a doctor or ask some experts in this field regarding with your problem, I'm sure there's a certain explanation for this matter.

[casualsextipsdotcom]

You may have a tipped uterus! While I'm really small, it's not the only reason why penetration is difficult for me! I didn't realize it though until finally one day a doctor asked if sex was painful and I was shocked she could tell since I didn't bring it up(and I had gotten used to it hurting the first few seconds of sex!) She said it may be the tipped uterus that I have-wow,nobody ever thought to tell me I had this after all the exams I had! I guess if u don't ask, they don't normall bring it up. Also, if you do have a tipped uterus, I guess it can make it hard to see the baby early on in pregnancy and a lot of times doctors think you miscarried when really you just can't see the babe-just something to be aware of. A tipped uterus isn't a huge deal though usually and shouldn't decrease your chances of having a baby-its kind of like being left handed-less common and sometimes annoying, but not life threatening! Try man on top position that works best for me-and if he is too afraid to push it hurts, odd as it sounds! I like them to just get it over with and then it feels good once it is in! lol When I was new to sex too I would play with lube and a vibe when we weren't able to have sex every day so that when we did I would be more relaxed. The more you have sex the easier it gets! Use lots of lube too! And of course, go get checked out by a doctor like everyone suggested!

[casualsextipsdotcom]

oh,and lots of foreplay helps too-getting lots of oral sex almost works better for me than lube!!