"Evil Evil Thoughts..."

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What follows are a few of the typical questions and concerns we receive from members in which EvilEvilKitten {EEK) has chosen to respond. If you would like short answers with wit, wisdom, and, common sense, {EEKisms) to some common concerns, begin looking here.


> Dylan79: How do I get my wife more wet

Ahem..are you listening?

You're NOT thrilling her, buddy, therefore she's not getting wet.

First thing is to read my two articles. Next thing is to get the right attitude which is a combination of masculine heat tempered with a respect for the feminine. You must understand that if unleashed, her desires can completely overwhelm you.

The trick is to unleash her desires. You cannot DEMAND this, you can only INVITE her.

So while you are moving through the steps outlined in The Program esp during the body worship murmur gently how desirable she is, how absolutely wonderful you find her, and yet, do NOT let her reach orgasm. What you want her to do is to get so frustrated that she attacks you.

Poke the tigress with a stick in the hope of getting her to pounce upon you.

Afterwards, scoop her up into your big strong arms say WOW! and swing her around whilst laughing - CELEBRATE! REJOICE!

and then tell her she needs never hide from you again, you can take all she cares to give you.

Got it?


> Mr. Saint: Is it a Joke
So I am kind of dating this girl.

You should stop JOKING and start taking yourself and your relationships seriously. Because if you don't, no one else will. This is why your relationship fizzled out in the first place. Learn to never say something you do not mean. If you play games then so will she and you'll be back here asking questions...again. So are you a man who values his time, his relationships, and his friends or are you just some kid pretending to be grown up?


> duh477: How to not seem needy...

You want to hang out once a week and build a relationship with a girl by doing that. You ask girls out and they say no. Girls date/go out with you once or twice and then pass you by. Have I got it all?

OK

1. You're asking the wrong girls out.

2. They are not interested in you and it is no good asking them why because they're trying to be nice and won't tell you that you're BORING.

3. Hanging out is NOT the way to ask any girl out as it implies you're not serious. You just want any warm body next to you so you don't get lonely.

What to do:

1. Look for those girls who are interested in you, They will show it in their body language, mannerisms, and glances. Some might even ask you out. Those are the girls with whoom you should be dealing.

2. Stop boring her to tears! Find out, by listening to her, what she likes and then go and do that! Since most girls have more than one interest, you can mix it up - doing interest A one week and interest B the next and so on. Ask her questions, talk with her, interact and respond.

3. Ask her out to a specific event at a specific place, date, and time based upon step 2 above - in line with her interests and/or yours. Yes, you do get to reveal your likes too. Treat her as important by dating as a man dates, not as a kid 'just hanging out'.

Do you understand?


> Anonyme: Inexperience with dating & sex, questions

Your error has been to swallow all the trash you have been taught about sex. Sex does not mean love. Love does not mean sex. The two are separate until you choose to join them together. Love is the deep and abiding emotional bond between people. Sex is the physical expression of desire. Do NOT confuse the two. Sex does not make anyone fall in love with anyone. It is entirely possible to enjoy sex with someone you do not even like let alone love. You can have and enjoy sex with more than one person simultaneously - it is just adult playtime.

Slut is a term used to denigrate a woman who enjoys sex with whomever she pleases, when and where and how she pleases, by those who have issues about sex. They think she's debased. They think sex is debasing. Oddly enough, they do not apply the same disgust to men who do the same sexual thing so there is more than a little sexism involved. Stop using the term yourself.

The reason why sex is 'not so great' according to your friends, is that they and/or their lovers are so very BAD at it. Sorry, but you wuld be dismayed to find how bad most people are at sex. They spend so little time studying it, so little time exploring their partners, and so little time discussing ways, means, aspects, etc. Hence the very real need for this forum. Please also understand that everyone has his/her own sexual style. This is over and above their level of sex drive.

Virginity is something of a handicap, as you have found, but NEVER lie to anyone ever again about your sexual status. It is unfair to do so. MEn are perfectly aware thta women will hold any poor outcomes against not only them but also against any other subsequent man that woman may encounter because women do. They have heard it all before. Naturally, a man would hesitate to "deflower" you unless he was a complete uncaring lout.

What you need now is a "skilled practioner" who will treat you with the consideration that you require, teach you the ropes, and discuss with you all of those ways, means, and aspects I mentioned earlier. For this, forget men of your own age. They don't know enough yet. What you want is a nice male about 10 years older than you who has been divorced for about two years now. There are plenty of them about and you should be able to pick one up very easily. Run through approximately two of them, maybe three, and then go back to the men your own age for your husband-material.


> duh477: dating 2 girls
I have casually been dating 2 girls for a few weeks and I would like to have a relationship with one of them how do I tell the other girl that ive decided to become a couple with the other girl?

A few weeks? That's all?!?!?! Aren't you rushing things a bit??

Buddy, the best way to go here is for you to chill and let the ladies choose you, or not, as they will. Give it two years before you decide on this "being a couple" thing.

Because it takes that long for something this important.

STOP RUSHING IT and KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT.


> duh477: will this be a problem
I have been going out with one girl and recently had sex with her for the first time and soon I would like to ask her for a blow job the only problem is I dont want to return the favor.

To ask to receive when you will not give is being UNFAIR & SELFISH and you MUST talk with her about this BEFORE you ask for fellatio. That way, she can decide whether or not to keep you as her lover or to trade you in on someone else.

If it were me, I'd kick you to the curb. I do NOT tolerate selfishness in my lovers.


> ClulessAce: Oral Sex

I've been with my bf for a year and he brought oral sex, but I avoided it. He's knows I've been sexual abused but we havent' went into detail.

{I]Please understand that the abuse is NOT your fault and that sex is NOT the problem. When someone hits you with a hammer, you do not blame the hammer and refuse to use it, right? Same thing here with sex. Get counseling for the abuse (may your abuser rot in hell btw) it will help you to stop making your abuser's problem your problem. His/her flaw doesn't have to be yours as well.

I say this because you're making this man here pay for something some other person did to you and that is being unfair.[/I]


> Dylan79: How do I get my wife more wet. I would like a female viewpoint

Ahem..are you listening?

You're NOT thrilling her, buddy, therefore she's not getting wet.

First thing is to read my two articles. Next thing is to get the right attitude which is a combination of masculine heat tempered with a respect for the feminine. You must understand that if unleashed, her desires can completely overwhelm you.

The trick is to unleash her desires. You cannot DEMAND this, you can only INVITE her.

So while you are moving through the steps outlined in The Program esp during the body worship murmur gently how desirable she is, how absolutely wonderful you find her, and yet, do NOT let her reach orgasm. What you want her to do is to get so frustrated that she attacks you.

Poke the tigress with a stick in the hope of getting her to pounce upon you.

Afterwards, scoop her up into your big strong arms say WOW! and swing her around whilst laughing - CELEBRATE! REJOICE!

and then tell her she needs never hide from you again, you can take all she cares to give you.
Got it?


> Is the cart before the horse?

Hang on, hang on - have you quite mastered sex or are you two just leaping to kink prematurely? I have known it to happen which is why I ask. Sex ONLY becomes boring when one isn't terribly good at it. Then people bring in lingerie, role-play, kink, etc. in a vain effort to rekindle what needs more than rekindling.

Please find and read the two sticky posts entitled The Program and Body Worship. Follow them.

Superb sex is a practice of nuance and subtlety with each person delighting their partner(s). If you pay attention - there is absolutely no way sex could be boring because it is different each and every time even with the same partner(s) as the dynamics between you change over time.

If you aren't exciting her to the point where even the slightest breath of wind against her skin is enough to give her an orgasm, you're not doing it well enough. If her lightly removing lint from your suitcoat sleeve doesn't make you groan with remembered pleasure and anticipatory delight, then you're both not doing it well enough.

Explore what you have and master your skills before moving onward.

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> Babyk1zz3r: I can't help it... Im more horny than him...

Baby - you need to learn Management as well as Communication.

Study up so you know when he's about to have his orgasm, then learn to stop it. Most men have a 'second gear' when moving to attain orgasm - watch for this and then move to slow him down back into 'first gear' to prolong the sexual interlude.

Of course you will have discussed this him before you do it. Talk about sex. Explore him and have him explore you. Please see the sticky posts entitled The Program and the one entitled Body Worship. They both give you an idea of how to FULLY satisfy each other.

> lil_crick25: Our first time
he knows i want to go to the next level, and he says hes ready too, but he never takes it to the next level and we have had plenty of private times to do so. should i wait for him to make the move or take things into my own hands?

Birth control, condoms, lubricant and then - TAKE HIM! Jeez! Stop being shy and go get what you want.

> bkwrmz7 Sexually starved & neglected

And if, in a reaction to being sexually teased, she took him down in a flying tackle, I'm sure he'd...ahem...comply with her desires.

The problem, of course, is that most women, for one reason or another, think unleashing their sexuality makes them "less" of a person. "He won't respect me." "He'll think I'm a slut." = whatever.

Ladies the truth is if you blow his doors off - he'll be impressed. But, if you rip his doors of their hinges..now there! He'll respect you until the day he dies. So unleash your desires and overwhelm the man repeatedly. You CAN do it.


> Normenbatez: Getting Her ready for Sex

OMG - you really DON'T have a clue!
You're rushing the process something dreadfully!!

Delay, wait, caress, until SHE'S jumping YOUR bones and NOT the other way around.


> Sexually starved & neglected

...Any woman interested in "getting some" has only to 'show up'.


> Im A Big Boy: cant last long/sensitivity

WEAR A CONDOM

problem solved


> PleasureMAX101: my question is how many position switches is to many during a 45 minute sex session?

pleasure Max - just forget "positions" and go with whatever is at hand. All you really have to do is to pay attention to your partner.


> BeachBoy: Avoiding the "Friend Zone"
Ok so I have had a few friendships in the past that I have tried to move onto an actual relationship. Every time I have been met with the same reaction. "I dont see you in that way." "Your like my brother." "I dont want to risk our friendship."

Pay attention and learn how to tell when a woman is interested in dating you - such as mirroring your body language, leaning toward you when speaking with you, touching you when she talks, and so on. If she's not physically showing such signs of interest - don't "go there".

BTW just because she calls you friend - doesn't mean she'll be happy to set to you up. Some females compete socially, which is wrong but just warning you, and will either set you up with those who make you go eeeeeeek! or wouldn't have you on a bet.

So, a successful hunt begins with proper prior planning. What kind of lady are you seeking and where is such a lady likely to be found? (A religious lady is most likely not going out to the clubs dancing every night, so if that's who you want, don't go out to the clubs.) Mingle, talk to everyone, be male and yet sound like a sensible, reasonable person, and look for thhe signs of interest, including those above. If you see them, respond and ask her out on a date.


> arutha: Dealing with someone less experienced
So if you find yourself with someone much less experienced than you, and not very sexually aggressive (ie. passive) how can you direct them to do more things in bed

Don't discuss sex re: specific skills or acts but rather sex as in her attitude towards sex. Does she think women are not supposed to be aggressive? In other words, don't ask us - ASK HER!


> love2please: What is the best way to stimulate the anterior and posterior fornix?how deep in is it

The cervix is lightly covered bone so hitting it is very painful. Some women think sex should come with some pain, their reasons for this need not be considered here, and want a man to do that but most do not enjoy it. The lateral fornices also need not concern you.

Now with her on back before you on the bed, the G-Spot is just inside the entrance and up. Further back, just above where the cervix juts into the vagina, is the anterior fornix. The vagina does not expand above the cervix so there isn't a lot of room - you must be very careful when stimulating here. For both the G-Spot and the anterior fornix a man has to think "up" to get the correct angle.

The posterior fornix is below the cervix, way down in the back of the vagina. When caressing here, a man has to think "down" to get the correct angle.

Before going for the fornices, it is recommended that she have at least one orgasm to make sure her vagina is "primed" and ready. To help her along the way, please read and follow the steps outlined in the sticky post entitled The Program found elsewhere in this forum.


> brownhairedgirl: Problems Orgasming
So my boyfriend and I have been having sex for over a year but he can not get me to orgasm. I know what the feel like because I masterbate regularly when he is not around.

M-A-S-T-U-R-B-A-T-E with a U, please remember it.

It is NOT HIS JOB to make/give you orgasms. THAT'S YOUR JOB. He merely assists. We each are responsible for our own orgasms.

Sex begins in your brain. So what's stopping you? Examine the contents of your mind first. Check your beliefs and attitudes about sex. Double check how you feel about this fellow of yours. Next, reconsider your sexual techniques.

Are you one of those women who hold your breath or pant? Do you tense up every muscle and try to orgasm? Do you get angry or start to cry when you don't orgasm? Is your brain full of anxiety "will I orgasm this time?" during sex?

All of the above will literally STOP your orgasm before it happens.

Relax both body and mind. Breathe deeply and calmly. Think of yourself as lying on an inflatable raft out at the beach just riding the swells before they break. It is hot, the sun is shinging brightly and you're just soooo relaxed. I you can induce that state of mind and body - you will orgasm. Just relax and let the feelings roll on through you.

> JS5240: Making Her Orgasm More Frequently

Look, some women like to keep masturbating "just for them" something personal and private - and THAT'S FINE. Men would do better to stop pushing for new indulgences and instead work at getting very, very good with what they're doing now. Because most of them aren't as good as they like to think - I can tell you.


> j56h: heated oil & lotion
My wife and I enjoy oil and lotion sometimes during sex....but the problem is that it kills the fun if it is too cold before applied.
What's the easiest way to warm up oils and lotions? I was thinking of the microwave, but is that a good idea or not?

Rub your hands together rapidly.
Also see the sticky post entitled Body Worship which requires that you use only what's edible.


> Gibson52: Women, what do u want
I am seeking a new twist to get me wife in the mood.

He wants what he cannot have and she's thinking he's some kind of lower life form for wanting to express his love for her physically.

I'd say DIVORCE.

Okay - then how about separating for a time. Right now and tell her it is precisely because you see the rest of your life stretching out before you as nothing more than a wasteland of blighted hopes, desires, and dreams.

Yes, women like to make light of this - but it is very, very real to men. Not all of them, certainly, but most men do equate withholding sex with going immediately to nuclear warfare. Instead of small skirmishes, she's gone to having her finger over red button right away.

Essentially there is nothing to discuss - so cut your losses now, buddy.

She doesn't love you - she's just comfortable.


> 007: No recovery Time
Is it common for men to have no recovery time after having an orgasm? I have no recovery time after I orgasm. It could be my 2nd or 3rd orgasm and it's still the same.

That is age and fitness level dependent. Younger and/or fitter = none required; older and/or not so fit = longer.

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> Arutha: The Pill Question
I am not sure I completely trust the pill as an effective form of birth control on its own, but she is more than willing to just use it and doesn't want to go back to using condoms as well...

Arutha - you don't entirely trust The Pill and yet you don't use condoms?

You, sir, are an IDIOT.

In addition to the above, you're also not a man. Why? Because you will let her take the risks associated with pumping her body full of hormones and yet you, big tough guy, cannot wear a simple condom? FOR SHAME.

"Man up or get out."


> ClulessAce: Oral Sex
I've been with my bf for a year and he brought oral sex, but I avoided it. He's knows I've been sexual abused but we havent' went into detail. We have a very healthy sex life and he's been very understanding knows what I like and dislike. We have tried new things that I never thought I would before.

I'm afraid to give him a blow job because it brings back bad memories.

Yes, he does sound like a most considerate male. Excellent choice, OP!

For women the number one issue is her physical security. She must not only feel safe, she must be safe. A man cannot be threatening or even pushy and with a woman who has been traumatized via sexual abuse - he has to be extremely careful and put her physical and mental well-being above all else.

For a large man, this means he cannot even stand too close to her if she's much smaller than he is. Just his physical presence will be intimidating. This is why jealousy in a male has got to squashed - because she will not see it as a anything other than a threat esp. if some man has previously put her through hell with it. Such a woman will be hyper-sensitive.

So when we counsel you men to back off, keep it in your pants, and just talk to her in a non-sexual setting/situation - we're giving you excellent guidance.


> arutha: Increasing sex drive
...my gf has a really low sex drive at the moment, most likely due to the implanon she has in. ...I kinda feel like we are drifting apart physically, and I don't want to put pressure on her while the extra hormones of the implanon are doing weird things (I think its coming out soon) and I will talk to her soon. Just wondering if there is much I can try in the meantime.

At this point, be a "teddybear" for her (good thing for all men to learn). Think about the stufffed animal for a moment - she talks to it, holds it, carries it around, snuggles with it. It is a bit of security in an uncertain world. Try taking that stuffed animal's place with the addition of just a touch of masculine heat - she still eeds to know that you desire her.

Understand?


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FEW women ever consider a man's looks when she's seriously seeking a partner. What she's looking at is how he sits, how he moves, how he holds himself, what he's wearing, how he talks to others, even if he talks to others - how he 'presents' himself. Not his looks but his demeanor. You might think she's gawking at his pecs - and she might even say she is - but that's a lie. She wants a confident male who has self-respect as shown by all of the above. Confidence = yes. Timidity/shyness = no.

You could take the same man and change how he presents himself, his demeanor, and get two different reactions out of the same woman.

We keep telling you guys that it isn't what you've got but how you use it that matters - about time you LISTENED.

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First - you have to TALK WITH HER about this issue.

Is there a medical issue?
Was she 'circumcised'?
Has she ever been abused?
Is she tired, over-worked, stressed?
Does she like you at all?
Does she enjoy sex with you?
Has she ever orgasmed?

IF you CAN'T answer any of the above, then YOU need to get to know your wife.

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You simply have to find what he especially [ed] likes and make sure to give him whatever it is periodically to help him get and keep his erection. You ARE supposed to be an ACTIVE participant in sex - not just some receptive female who expects him to do all of the work.

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You get bored by sex??? Then you aren't paying close enough attention to the details of what you're doing.

> Dating Expectations:

"I'm just hoping for the best of us, but of course, I expect the worst."

Sorry, you're almost there but the above - wrong attitude!

Life is a party! - you just went to the wrong one.

JOY attracts. Confidence attracts! Being FUN attracts.
So go forth and seek to CONQUER!

THAT'S the right attitude.
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> No matter what I do, it just won't come

In the absence of physical/medical issues - any problem with orgasms is in your head.

1. What is your attitude about sex? A poor attitude will kill orgasms.
2. Do you tense up, hold your breath, worry about having an orgasm? If so you are stopping yourself from having one even before it begins and there is nothing anyone can do to get you off.
3. Were you abused, sexually or otherwise? You will need professional help to fix this.
4. Do you want to retain power over yourself and/or over your bf? Based upon it felt odd so I pulled bacl" I'd say YES. To which Id' say: GROW UP & LET IT GO. Because you're ruinning your relationship with him and you're cheating/hurting yourself.
5. There is something wrong in your relationship that you are unwilling to acknowledge, discuss, and solve.

Do not blame him - it is not his job to give you anything beyond a helping hand/penis/mouth. YOU have to decide for yourself that sex is grand, sex is glorious, and my sexuality is my birthright!

Face Up, 'Fess Up, then Fix Up!
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> G-spot technique to orgasm

Yes, zero to 60 is reserved for us more experienced women. But that is rather the point: you still need at least 20 minutes of foreplay for the average woman to rev up her engines even for G-Spot caressing.

Or what did you think The Program was for??

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Palm upwards, using two fingers, curl the fingrtips upward and gently caress with those fingertips in a come hithe motion on her G-Spot (feels rather like a washboard) while moving your entire hand in and out - the speed depending upon her degree of arousal.

You will know when you have it right by her reaction.

Medical community or not - it is there and that is how you stimulate

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As a general rule - all pornography is fake until proven otherwise.

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> Results of choosing the wrong guy

You chose the wrong partner for the job and yes, men and women do that, but that does not mean the practice is wrong - it means you picked the wrong partner and some people are just louts. I have done it too but not for a while now, having developed my radar.

Which is the best reason to go out and play - radar development. Yes, it can be dangerous and you can get hurt - a misfortune of life really since I can't think of any activity where you can't get hurt.

And now, looking back, can you see how you yourself have changed by having been through the crucible? Now you stand up for yourself, know who and what you want, and have courage. *evil grin* Which I think is excellent!

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> EEK on virginity

Please stop thinking virginity is something precious and important - it isn't.
Unskilled labor on the one hand and the weak ego desiring to be the only one 'to possess' on the other - hardly an edifying combination.
Someone who knows what they want, who they want and knows what they're doing is much better and much more fun.

What you mean to say is a guy who is skilled enough to do it correctly and decent enough to give a damn about how you feel about it and isn't just in it for himself.

Correect?

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the reason I take it seriously is because there are far too many women who should know better who still believe that their pudenda is made of gold and should be worshipped by each and every male - just isn't going to happen and will wreck your love life.
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There is no "right guy" - not unless it is marriage. But when it is just for fun n games - almost any guy will do.
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> Unprotected sex - are you insane???

She needs to switch pills and you need to get your head examined.

NEVER have sex without wearing a condom - until you are married and trying to have children. PERIOD.

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> If you're going to indulge in adult fun, you'd best be adult about it.
YOU stay on the Pill and HE always wears a condom - each and every time and always a fresh one!
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> TEENAGE VIRGINITY--and, losing or keeping it

...that's not how SHE sees it.

In her mind, since she's menstruating, she's "ready to go!" - which is rather Medieval of her but, hey, some people are very 'historical'.

Let me remind all of you that the best time for a female to bear her children is during her 20's. ALL liasons during your teens should be considered 'learning opportunities' and nothing more.

To this end, the requirements are very strict.
1. School comes first. ALWAYS.
2. Birth Control is MANDATORY - you WILL be on The Pill - no arguments.
3. He WILL use condoms - again - ALWAYS - no arguments.
4. It is NOT love. - no matter what he says
5. YOU pick HIM - it is your sexuality - own it. If you want to say NO then say it and mean it and be prepared to walk home in the driving snowstorm if need be. NO DOORMATS.

If you cannot abide by ALL of the above - then stay a virgin until you are ready. Indulging in adult play require you to be adult about it. THINK it through BEFOREHAND.

And remember - just because you want to and/or you can does not mean that you should.
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> BigAznMan: I haven't got any sex for few years ;(

BigA, then improve yourself and your technique! No Whining!!
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> Places outside to have sex?

But all fantasies have to be tempered by reality - to keep yourself out of jail if nothing else.

Ticks, flies, mosquitoes, gila monsters, snakes, spiders, bears and bobcats, skunks, racoons, bats, posion oak/ivy/sumac, outraged landowners - all are hazards of outside recreation. Hypothermia in winter and hyperthermia in summer.

All of which is why I drive a big, and very well equipped, SUV.
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> EEK on Porn:

STOP IT.

This moaning over his pornography is the same as a man bitching about your romance novels.

This is fantasy escapism and has NOTHING to do with his committment to you. You aren't going to ditch him over that lovely hero from your latest romance are you? Of course not! So what are you complaining about??? He knows you are the best thing that ever happened to him and he's not about to ditch you for the latest porn star.

The problem here isn't him, dear, it is you.
You're being jealous of something that isn't real.

Stop it.

Instead of complaining - do The Program and blow his doors off sexually speaking. That should give him enough foreplay.
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> A Young Girl's Concerns for the First Time

Actually it won't be all that great because this is a classic case of the blind leading the blind as both of you have no idea of what you're doing.

So, there are several questions that must be asked:

1. have you masturbated on your own to orgasm?
2. have you had a gyne exam?
3. have you both done your blood work?
4. were you ever exposed to abuse between the ages of 4 to 7?

There are important reasons for each question.

BTW there is no need to 'make it special' for him - it already is 'special' for him and he's most likely worrying himself to death over it "performance anxiety" being what it is. Find, read, and then do (the best you can) the sticky post entitled The Program. It works very very well and will help you both get off on the right foot.
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> About being whole with yourself, first, before being whole within a relationship.

You have to be a whole person in your own right with a satisfying individual life before you can ask anyone else to join with you.
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> Sex becomes routine? HUH? Who says?

NOT ME!

Even after 30 years married and the only thing in my hand is a small bottle of lubricant as I LEAP into joyous union. The only thing a person needs is enthusiasm! Pony up, baby!
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> EEK on spellling

SPELL THE WORD CORRECTLY

M-A-S-T-U-R-B-A-T-E

Jeez!
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> How about the shape (of a penis)?

Doesn't matter.
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> Her old boyfriends

> This girl ive been starting to go out with has told me that her 2 old boyfriends are trying to get back with her and texting and calling her all the time. Is there any way I should handle this or should I just stay out of the way and tell her to be with whoever makes her happy? I dont know what to do?

This is her problem to deal with. None of your business at all. As far as you are concerned, they do not exist.

So, carry on as you normally would with her or any other girl.

IF she wants you do to something about it, however, that is a very BAD sign and you should get rid of her at that point.
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> EEK on dating with a clear head

STOP DRINKING.
&
STOP BEING EXCLUSIVE WHEN DATING.

There. Problem solved.
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People - you have to understand that you're special because you are you - not because someone is just "with" you and you alone.

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> EEK on Prenuptial agreements:
If you want to really protect your assets - don't get divorced or don't get married in the first place..

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> EEK on Spice:

The Program, The Four Hotspots and Body Worship are all articles you should be reading and then using - because it may not be her, it may be you sucking up all the oxygen in the room so she figures why bother he's not listening to me anyway.

Because if your sex life needs spicing up - you're not doing it right.

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> EEK on Child development and maturity:

My daughter and I simply do not understand how mothers and daughters can have such horrible relationships. Sure, I yelled a lot and yes, she was boneheaded periodically but neither of us doubted that we would back each other to the hilt, loved and cared for each other.

Honor your mother.

Give your daughter room to breathe.

Daughters have to make their mistakes during her teen years when Mom & Dad are there as a safety net. Both daughters and sons need room to try their wings, learn, and yes, even fail, if they are to become sane, sensible yet humorously inclined, and happy adults.

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> Evil thoughts about a teen not wearing a condom

The idea that YOUR pleasure takes precedence over HER safety is repugnant and unworthy of anyone who wants to be, or be thought of as, a man.

Are there any more questions on this topic?

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> EEK's thoughts on "Pick-up lines"

The most effective 'line' of all time is "Hello. I'm (insert your name here)."

But you don't just toss that up into the blue. No. You go to whereever, scan the available persons, then you make and hold eye contact with the few you like for 20 seconds. You then, within 30 minutes of eye contact, wander up (do not rush up to her) to her and introduce yourself. Smile. You have some conversation for about 20 minutes and you get her phone numbers,email whatever then you say "It has been nice meeting you, (insert her name here)." And you go away. Call her later and ask her out to a specific event at a specific date and time. Make it something like coffee. Something non-threatening, in public, and during the daytime.

Got all of that?