Just a question

[wet_suit_one]

Is the kind of sexual relationship discussed here:

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/marr...e-my-wife.html

generally possible in most relationships. By that I mean more than 50%+1 of marriages?

What do you people think.

Personally, I doubt it, but that's just my opinion. What are your opinions?

[dancingdoc2]

Both individuals must want this and be willing to work on it. As I keep stating: relationships are (cooperative) partnerships. In successful relationships sex is only about ten percent of the reason; in troubled relationships, sex is about ninety percent of the reason.

One or both individuals cannot be complacent or take the other for granted. Having a relationship as described in the other thread takes work--and yes, it is definitely possible. Percentages as a whole do not much matter, what does are the two people involved making their relationship the best that it can be. This means working on all the other aspects of the relationship so that romance and sex, just follow naturally.

[wet_suit_one]

Hmmm....

SOunds like too much work.

Dang. It sucks being lazy...

[dancingdoc2]

And that is one very BIG reason why relationships fail.

[wet_suit_one]

Can't agree with you more Doc. A very wise man thou art.

[lnt1103]

Open your heart and listen to the tone of that post. That post and that relationship are about much more than sex. He's pouring his heart out with true adoration for her-as a person, as his wife, as the woman with whom he is in love. Those two people deeply love each other, and it most definitely was not an easy or dustless road that got them where they are today. True, deep love such as that is never simple to arrive at-but then, nothing truly worth it is, is it?

[dancingdoc2]

Was this thread a test?

[rosebanks]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

Was this thread a test?

what would it be a test of?

[dancingdoc2]

what would it be a test of?


>> Hmmm.... SOunds like too much work.

And that is one very BIG reason why relationships fail.

> Can't agree with you more Doc. A very wise man thou art.


He asked the question, said the answer was too much work, yet agreed with my observation. Next question: Is he going to put forth some effort into his relationships or just amble through life caring but not enough to make a difference?

[wet_suit_one]

That question still remains to be answered Doc.

Due to the laws and bad ideas running around in the western world these days, relationships and love are two things I fear most. There appears to be little hope of success.

I recognize that relationships require work, but I already work kinda hard. I don't know what relationship "work" is. I've been rather behind in my education in this area. Furthermore, there seems to be much easier ways to obtain a measure of satisfaction rather than going on bended knee, bowing and scraping to a woman (which I know isn't fair, but it does seem to be what is required these days).

I have little hope that I can successfully get to where the other poster got to.

Also, in my view, there is no such thing as making a difference. The end is certain, the question is how will it arrive? It's rather like the end of life. It is certain, but whether it is disease, car accident or homicide is unknown until life actually ends.

Anyways...