Lasting Longer & Harder Erection

[homeytheclown]

1. how can i last longer me & my girl had fooled around one night having oral for about onehour or hour and a half then i think she got so horny she wanted to have sexual intercors so i got a rubber and got to it but soon as i put it in after coming in and out 2times i was finshed it was the first time i ever did it. i would like to know is it because we had oral for bout an hour or hour and a half and i did not last long or what else can it be or will it just take time?

2. And how can u get a harder erection casue for some reason when we fool around im not as hard as i want to be for her And for some days when i do get one it happens onec a blue moon can some one help me out plz?

[dancingdoc2]

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Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

> 2. And how can u get a harder erection casue for some reason when we fool around im not as hard as i want to be for her

Generally this is a function of pheromones, the chemistry between a man and a woman. The firmness of the erections we experience daily when home alone or walking around are generally not nearly as hard as when we are in the loving company of our partner. Usually a penis will feel like it is about to burst just before reaching the peak and point of no return.

If there is no "chemistry" between you and the girl then this can have an influence. If there is, then making sure you are being stimulated right up to the brink of a climax will certainly be the next key.

If you are doing these things and still not all that hard, then the likely culprit is Performance Anxiety. The cure for this is to quite literally (although not necessarily simple) is to stop worrying.

If you are expecting to become hard from lots of stroking (assuming you are having intercourse) then you are going about things backwards. If you just want to be harder than softer, devote more time to making out and fondling and just enjoy it without worrying about "what ifs".

> And for some days when i do get one it happens onec a blue moon can some one help me out plz?

Please clarify this. It makes no sense as stated.

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[Brandye]

Do not assume that getting harder is what your g/f wants. At some point, it feels more like we are getting impaled than screwed.

[arutha]

Smoking can make you less hard if you smoke... As can alcohol, but I'm assuming you weren't drunk.

And yes, the 90 minutes of foreplay was most likely what caused you to come quickly. Do less of that, or focus on her for a while if you are feeling close before sex, and don't be afraid to stop during sex and return to other things to cool down a bit before continuing. You should be able to tell when you are really close.

[Mr. Saint]

When my partner and I practice oral before sex, I would always go down on her last before penetration. That way I have some time to cool down so I can last longer. Also if i came before her then I would always go down on her after to finish her off.

[dlb]

Many women want lots of foreplay most of the time. It helps them reach orgasm during the main event. For many of us guys foreplay makes it easier for us to reach orgasm also-unfortunately leading to premature ejaculation.

Try to pace yourself. Give her more stimulation during foreplay, allow yourself less. Be careful about having your penis rubbing against the sheets, inside of your pants, whatever while you are performing cunnilingus. All these are stimulations that can make you shoot before you are psychologically ready.

Also if your foreplay is going to last an hour or more you could just let her bring you to orgasm from a handjob,blowjob, etc. and then you concentrate on her. By the time she is ready you will probably be ready to go again.

Every man's penis is different. Some get really hard immediately every time. Some requier more direct stimulation. Some are half hard during foreplay. As long as you can get it up and stiff enough for intromission you are fine.

[homeytheclown]

ya i did smoke b4 but only sometimes but i have stoped that do u think it will get better that i stoped?

[dancingdoc2]

Your lungs will repair themselves. As for the ability to last longer, this is why we have the techniques described.

[arutha]

In this case it isn't neccesarily the lungs that are the problem. Smoking constricts blood vessels and obviously over time can clog them up. Reduction of blood flow and blood pressure means less blood is getting to the penis to make it hard. Being a non smoker, my last two gf's have commented that I am much harder than what they were used to with a smoker.

I imagine that if you have quit it would get better over time, I guess the amount of time would change from person to person and how much/how often you smoked.

[homeytheclown]

thanks that was helpful