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[j.d_22]

ok here's the thing i have no problem having an erection when im by my self but when im with my girlfriend i just cant seem to get a full erection. now i find my girlfriend very attractive so i know it isnt her. this is a more recent thing as iv never had this problem b4 as the last year i have been single and slept with sevral women with out this problem

[dancingdoc2]

Are any of your spontaneous erections full/hard?

How much time do the two of you spend making out?

Were these "half-hearted" erections evident from the beginning of your relationship or did they come along later when the two of you began doing things?

Because your penis does firm up when alone my guess is that you are experiencing anxiety and this is quite sufficient to stifle an erection. I have two suggestions, the first one being harder than the second. First, stop fretting over the lack of firmness; second, spend much more time kissing and caressing before getting to the foreplay. When you do get around to the foreplay, continue to include all the kissing and caressing of the rest of you in order to maintain your high state of arousal.

You will probably find that you will become hard immediately before climaxing. Also, you do not need an erection or one to be hard to climax. I believe you just have a good case of nerves, so this is why you should try to relax and not worry because worrying just prolongs the situation. Concentrate on and get into the moment. Do this and your "Performance Anxiety" will soon be a thing of the past.

[justaLUVR]

have no worries, i had this EXACT PROBLEM, girlfriend and everything. trust me it is anxiety, or nervousness. Try taking DEEP BREATHS, same as you would if you were trying to relax. Also, when you are masturbating, wehter looking at porn or not, imagine its just you and her. Then focus and look at your erection, enjoy what it feels and looks like. Practice this, and this will boost your confidince.