Is it normal?

[Tezabelle]

I seem to only be able to reach orgasms through clitoral stimilation....... My boyfriend kinda just goes straight into penetration... I don't mind it, it's just that it doesn't feel AS good. I will give him oral, and he will give me it for a little bit, but I don't think he likes giving oral very much. And also when he does he doesn't like the same oral positions as me.

He is wondering why he can't please me... and I am just wondering if it's normal to only be able to have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation, so I can tell him what the problem is lol.

[dancingdoc2]

Very few positions provide the orientation that provides the necessary and ongoing stimulation to the clitoris and surrounding pieces-parts; therefore, what most knowledgeable and skilled and loving men do is to reach around and finger the woman while engaged in intercourse.

The most popular positions that do bring the two bodies into nearly constant contact are the Woman Superior, Missionary (in which the man rides high(er) up on her torso, and the "X" and "Y". With the last two the couple reclines on their sides facing each other. The difference between the two is in the orientation of the legs.

Ya gotta have constant friction of the genitals. If the position you are using does not involve the clitoris and labia then of course there will not be enough rubbing going on to affect an orgasm. This is one reason a guy will finger his lover while stroking.

[Brandye]

Tez,

Please read around. This has been discussed extrensively. One-quarter of all women never have orgasms. 50% do not reach orgasm through vaginal penetration. Only a quarter of us reach orgasm through penile thrusting.

You are with the majority of women.

[coveresid]

You should experiment and try what is suggested. Sounds to me that your bf is selfish though and needs some teaching. Unfortunately some men may not like being told they aren't satisfying their woman and react negatively. Others may just not know what needs to be done and are anxious to learn and love the input from their partner. Oral sex is one way to give the woman the extra stimulation she needs. I love giving oral sex and sometimes need to be dragged up for intercourse by my woman because she needs my penis in her. If he gets upset about the lessons, may be time to find a new bf.