Male G Spot

[zerrichan]

Hi everyone,

I'm not sure if this has been posted before (it's bound to be somewhere!), but who here has any experience with the male G spot? I've been thinking about having a play myself to see if I like it, before possibly introducing my girlfriend to it. She's done it to guys before and apparently gotten good results from it, but i'd rather experiment myself first.

For guys: What technique did you use? How did it feel? Was it uncomfortable?

Fir girls: Same questions really, and did your guy like it? Have you ever gotten a negative reaction from it?

[dancingdoc2]

> I'm not sure if this has been posted before (it's bound to be somewhere!)

You are correct, the information is "somewhere" on the Board. In order to learn more and answer your question, please use the Search feature of the board and do an advanced search using my name and the search terms: "prostate stimulation" and "prostate massage". Hits will be highlighted in red.

> For guys: What technique did you use? How did it feel? Was it uncomfortable?

Anal play should never be uncomfortable if done properly. Properly, means:
1. using plenty of lubrication
2. inserting your finger, first, before any dildo
3. using your finger to distribute the lube along the sphincter muscles (passageway)
4. "Rimming" or fingering the outside of the anus, first, before going inside
5. pressing the finger inside. Never, shove, jab, poke, Using pressure will let the finger slip in. Relax the sphincters as this is being done
6. do all this when you are very highly aroused. The nerves of the anus and prostate only turn on and become reactive when a person is very very turned on
7. massage the prostate by rubbing it. Doing this in conjunction with other caresses will augment or make these other feelings much more intense, and that is the whole purpose.
8. the prostate is a small walnut-shaped gland about two inches inside along the front wall. It can be felt as a slightly firm bulge. You will know when you hit it because you will get an instant reaction.

[moose_hd]

This should be your starting place:

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/plea...state_101.html

[zerrichan]

Thanks for all the pointers guys, that link was awesome

I'm still a little nervous about the idea but am definetely intrigued!

[dancingdoc2]

> Thanks for all the pointers

You're welcome.

> I'm still a little nervous about the idea but am definetely intrigued

What is causing you to be nervous? If you tell me, I'll be happy to address your apprehension.

> I've been thinking about having a play myself to see if I like it, before possibly introducing my girlfriend to it

* If you are of average build, you can stimulate you own prostate thereby intensifying your own pleasure during masturbation.

* If and when your girlfriend is open and agreeable, her finger can be the source of your enjoyment.

* If and when your girlfriend is open and agreeable, your finger can be the source of her enjoyment.

There are two mistakes newbys make; first, beginning too early in the arousal process; second, forceably trying to gain entrance, often without enough lube or proper distribution.

1) As previously mentioned, the nerves of the anus, sphincters, and prostate only become reactive when the person is very very aroused. You can certainly finger or tongue the outside of each other's anus briefly and in passing early on; however, you should not give the area much time and attention until later. When you do, this playfulness should go along with whatever else you are doing to pleasure each other or yourself. The results are not unlike the effect an afterburner has on a jet engine or a turbocharger has on a gasoline engine--they enhance and give a tremendous boost to performance!!

As an aside, the female G-spot behaves the same way as it is thought by some researchers to be comprised of remnants of the same tissue that formed the prostate in males.

2) Whether you are stimulating yourself or each other, the first object to penetrate should always be a finger. If your ultimate goal is to insert a dildo, a finger should prepare the way.

Be gentle. Tease the anus, first, with a finger or tongue. Slowly build anticipation and excitement. Often when the anus begins to react it "puckers", exposing even more skin. This may or may not happen with everyone, although if it does happen to you or your partner, it is a sure sign that you are having a positive affect.

The reason for inserting a finger first before anything else is to:
a) condition the sphincters into accepting something going past them in what they consider the wrong direction
b) to spread the lubrication all around so that the passageway has no dry spots that can cause chafing, bleeding, or irritation. Any and all are no-nos.

Sometimes the person on the receiving end will automatically tense up as soon as something touches or presses against the anus. This is just a normal reaction and can be eliminated by consciously relaxing the sphincters. This is why it is important to only press against the anus, first; and to use pressure during insertion instead of just polking or prodding, or shoving.

After a finger has conditioned the sphincters, a toy can then follow. It is important to adequately and completely lubricate the finger, dildo, or penis/condom before being inserted. For anal stimulation only, the finger need only go in as far as the second knuckle. It can then wiggle around in order to spread the lubricant and to ensure that there are no dry spots that can cause discomfort if rubbed when dry. Should irritation occur, STOP! and add more lube to the affected area before proceeding.

Before all this happens:
* go to the bathroom sometime prior to your play
* bathe before making out

A word of caution for guys: if you are fingering your girlfriend/wife/s.o. DO NOT! insert the same finger that just went into her anus into her vagina. Use a different finger. It is imperative that no bugs be transferred.

Finally, a test question: When a person complains about anal intercourse being so painful, what are they doing wrong?

I hope this is of help to you and others who are reading this. Got questions?


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[zerrichan]

Finally, a test question: When a person complains about anal intercourse being so painful, what are they doing wrong?

In my book, they're not doing anything wrong - they're being honest and saying that what they are currently doing is too painful. So with more communication the couple can adjust so that it works - or, if they decide anal sex is not for them, they don't have to do it. All about communication, see.

You're been really helpful and I really appreciate it - you're a treasure trove of useful hints and tips! For me the nervousness is because it's something new, and something which up until recently I never thought i'd be interested in trying. I'm relatively new to sex and I am gradually 'unlearning' lots of old fears, insecurities and stereotypes which I was brought up with. My 'sexual awakening' so to speak It's been great because i've had a really supportive girlfriend who's helped me along the way. But your help has been much appreciated.

[dancingdoc2]

Thank you for the kudos and kind words.

> In my book, they're not doing anything wrong - they're being honest and saying that what they are currently doing is too painful. So with more communication the couple can adjust so that it works

Good answer. Here is my answer to the question:

"There are two mistakes newbys make; first, beginning too early in the arousal process; second, forceably trying to gain entrance, often without enough lube or proper distribution."
and...
"2) Whether you are stimulating yourself or each other, the first object to penetrate should always be a finger. If your ultimate goal is to insert a dildo, a finger should prepare the way."

[Maribelle]

My guy is very into anal play ... I wasn't: he warmed me up over about a year's time I finally found his G-spot a couple weeks ago while givin ghim a blow job in the bathtub It was a proud moment, LOL But, I'm still not ready to lick/nibble his anus yet, even with a dental dam & after a bath *SHRUG*