Too much masterbation...

[BlackFire4]

I like to think of myself as a pretty sexual person. When single and not in a sexual relationship I masterbate anywhere from once to four times a day. Recently I've become involved in a sexual relationship and because I used to masterbate so much and I am used to that particular stimulation, I have no problem getting it up and going at it for ever but when it comes time to ejaculate I usually have to pull it out and masterbate for a minute or longer before I can get off. Does anybody know a way to "retrain" my sexual drive into being able to get off during sex or during oral sex instead of having to do it myself all the time?

[dancingdoc2]

I've said it many times, that stroking during intercourse is not the way to build up to an orgasm. Stroking is for maintining an already existing high state of arousal. Thrusting, takes this over the top to trigger an orgasm. That you have to pull out and do some additional stroking means that you were not at the trigger point of an orgasm when you initially began intercourse. If you were, then you might have dallied too long; either way what you are doing is not wrong, although I would suggest letting her have a hand in (re)building your arousal.

If you want to be aroused to the brink of an orgasm, then two things are generally required. First; that the two of you devote lots and lots of time to making out; second, that the two of you teach each other how you masturbate and then guide each other's hand several times until you learn to mimic his/her specific and unique movements, rhythms, and pressures. Let her do the mechanics before entering. Once in, stroking will maintain, and then when you are ready, thrusting will trigger the orgasm.