Porn

[Chickalick]

Hey so been going out with this guy a few months. Really like him and we have really enjoyable sex and good times together. Maybe im a bit conservative, but it just really bugs me. I know he enjoys watching porn when im not with him and he's told me he has always enjoyed his porn lots. Should I be annoyed that he's watching these perfect bodied women doing things that pehaps i wouldnt feel comfortable with, or what? I mean is it normal for guys to be so into their porn and do they still pleasure with porn themselves when their in a relationship. Cant help but feel annoyed and jealous

[Deadman]

Being jealous is normal. Just remember those "perfect" bodies are all surgically enhanced, and from what I have learned over time, the majority of those women would prefer to be with another women. So he jerks off when you are not with him, it's no big deal. 99% of all men masturbate and the other 1% lie about it. The porn is his way of jerking off with some visual help.

[moose_hd]

Excellent post (and entire) thread on this can be found here:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/141818-post6.html

[Chickalick]

yeh thanks for that deadman. I know you right about guys masturbating and i think thats cool and all, but i suppose im just mindful of the fact that ya know if things were to get more and more serious with us, would i always be stressing about him yanking of to some image on a computer screen or dvd and being annoyed about it i dont know i cant help but be annoyed...any guys women give me more opinions ...much appreciated

[Chickalick]

Hi moose i read that thread and you know i really dont mind him mastrubating ...its the porn equation that comes into it. It's like i go over to his and I know the night before that he's been watching a dvd with sum heavy stuff on it bcoz im clever like that ...keep my eyes and wits about me at all times... its that that annoys me more than anything, that he' s been looking at these women who take it every which and every way and indulge in fantasies albeit edited...and i guess i just feel inadequate and that it will continue and continue when im not really that comfortable about it,

[thetease13]

It's porn. It's not the end of the world. He could be off screwing someone else instead of sitting around watching porn and masturbating. Think about that.

Everyone has fantasies, including you. Maybe you should perhaps try loosening up and trying some of the things he sees and enjoys? It more than likely won't stop him from watching it but it could perhaps make things a bit more enjoyable for him and even you. You never know what you're capable of unless you try it.

I just, don't get the big deal about why people throw hissy fits and get all worked up over porn. It's porn. You can actually learn from it. I certainly have. And by watching it together and even discussing it, I know what things he likes and doesn't like and knows some of the things I like and/or am willing to try and things that I don't want him to do.

[LyingAwake]

This is kind of along the same lines... close enough that a new thread need not be created.

I don't think I have a problem with my guy watching porn, but something else kinda bugged me.

There is a message board that we are both active in, where most of the members are around the same age, and live more or less in our genral area. He is more active there than I am, and has formed friendships with many people there. One particular female member at one point took pictures of herself (not naked, but not fully clothed, and suggestive) and posted links on this forum, but they were deleted. Met with many complaints from the male population, she took more and posted that they were availble upon request, and I noticed that my guy posted a request.

I see this as completely different. This is a girl who he has had conversations with, and has basically become acquainted with over the past few years. It is so much more real than porn.

I am not angry really... just disappointed... do you think I am over-reacting? I have been considering staying away from the site, so that if that sort of thing goes on, I don't see it (out of sight, out of mind).

[Newtolove]

well bear in mind chickalack that while he's jerking off to that he is probably thinking of you ! I Know when I am a bit low on anumition I put on a clip but that is just to kick me off and a bit of audio helps enhance too. when I'm really feeliong pleasure I'm thing about a real girl that I know and not bothering much about whats on the screen, don't worry too much about it after all he could be cheating oin you instead.

[thetease13]

Originally Posted by LyingAwake

I see this as completely different. This is a girl who he has had conversations with, and has basically become acquainted with over the past few years. It is so much more real than porn.

I am not angry really... just disappointed... do you think I am over-reacting? I have been considering staying away from the site, so that if that sort of thing goes on, I don't see it (out of sight, out of mind).

How is it different? He's not touching this girl unless he's mastered the skill of reaching through the screen and doing so.

Yes, he "knows" the girl but it's the computer. What do you truly know about someone on the other side of that screen? You only know what they tell you and a lot of that is a stretch of the truth.

And, even if this girl is his friend, I still don't see much harm. Most people would like to see their friends of the opposite sex naked if given the opportunity. Seeing is a lot better than acting upon something, now isn't it?

[Newchic]

At first, I felt like I was not getting the "job" done. And BTW, everyguy I have EVER know in my life (even the remarkable one I have now) watches, has watched, will watch porn. I do not have answer's as to why but, have you tried watching with him? I am (well, was) a conservative so to say. I have been opening up more because I am comfortable with my b/f as well as myself. You would be surprised how NOT perfect these girls are. You will also be surprised at how it affects your sex life. It is a good time, I would not watch it alone but, I love to watch with him and get a few new idea's.......