Older men/younger women

[bacchusella]

During the Katrina tragedy, I read the blog of a man who was in a building in the middle of the city and was posting hourly about everything as it was happening. He kept referring to his girlfriend and eventually in the midst of everything, she became his fiance. When things died down, I took the time to look through his user info and discovered that he was in his late 20s and his fiance was a 21 year old model. Then I found out that he was pretty proud of this fact and was in a community of older men who prided themselves on dating younger women. (Some made it a rule to not date any woman over 21) It bugged me a little and I brought up with a male friend of mine. He saw these men are heroes and hoped that he could be like that one day. He said he worked with quite a few older guys who were like this. I guess it's a lot more common than I had thought or hoped.

I tried to rationalize by saying that one day, the 21 year-olds wouldn't want these men and the women their own age wouldn't want someone that piggish by that time, and the men would die alone. (Assuming they aren't rich and get a young gold digger)

But it still bother me. I am in a secure, loving relationship that at this point is permanent. However, I still worry about if something should happen to my boyfriend and I have to date again. I turn 22 in three months. Does this leave me almost completely worthless? I am also just curious to hear some other thoughts on this, particularly from older men.

[Luvs2plzU]

That's all personal choice.....what works for that dude doesn't apply to the rest of mankind...don't fret it bacchusella .....carpe diem

[WallyLlama]

You wouldn't have to look too far to discover that it works in reverse as well... there are any number of older women who prefer younger men. And younger men who prefer older women... and...

Ultimately, relationships are about people; they are not about age.

[bacchusella]

Originally Posted by WallyLlama

You wouldn't have to look too far to discover that it works in reverse as well... there are any number of older women who prefer younger men. And younger men who prefer older women... and...

Ultimately, relationships are about people; they are not about age.

Well, I wish it were about relationships. Unfortunately, it seems to be about having a trophy.

[Talie]

Why should that small age gap make a difference. My ex was 27 and i was 20 it was no different 2 dating someone the same age as me. I don't agree when it is a 16 or 17 year old being dated by someone much older but by the time your not a teenager a few years doesn't make a difference.

Not all men want a younger woman u have nothing 2 worry about. They are not all the same.

[bacchusella]

The point was that it was a RULE of theirs not to date anyone over 21...no matter how old they personally got.

[WallyLlama]

I believe that would be called "closed-minded." LOL I'd recommend not dating anyone who had that rule! I seriously doubt that this "club" or whatever it is does NOT represent society at large.

[constantlylearning]

Wally is so so right in his response to this thread. Relationships ultimately boil down to "people." Maybe, it is old fashioned to believe that true love can bridge any gap no matter how far or wide it is. To merely want a "trophy" is, In My Opinion, a tad bit shallow--- I have lots of "trophies" and over time they tend to tarnish. Perhaps, time would be better spent looking for a "love" that makes time stand still and one that has the power to light the world around them. I not sure that was the intended response that was desired when this thread originated.

[WallyLlama]

Yep, I'm a little confused by this thread myself. LOL In the interest of adding to the confusion... the love of my life is considerably younger than I. While I didn't pick her because she's young and beautiful and... (insert all sorts of mushy stuff here) I guess I consider her something of a "trophy" in that she's a realy prize... a keeper... I'm proud of her and I hope she feels special!

[constantlylearning]

Good For you Wally. If you are Happy and content then all is well in my book.
Maybe, it was me that added to the confusion of the thread and if so I apologize. I got off onto another subject entirely I do believe. Cheers to you Wally and I hope you are well.