At what age did everyone here experience their first anything?

[Hex-258]

Well, pretty much my first anything was very recent.

1st boyfriend: 17
1st kiss (regular & Frenching): 17
1st time giving oral: 17
1st time receiving: 18
1st time having sex: 18

[nikkijz]

Date: 15
Kiss (passionate kiss): 18
Intercourse: 18

I grew up in a small town, waited til college before i got freaky

[ShadowLynnParker]

My first kiss was at twelve, my first heavy petting was at thirteen. My first boyfriend was at fifteen and he was twenty. Oh yeah that was my first sexual encounter. I was a wild child in those days, um and still am.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by nursefluffykins

first bf: just turned 17
vitginity : 17 (well about a week before my 18th bday)Oral: somewhere in between lol..
swallowing came after a few years of experience
anal play: about 21
anal virginity : still there lol

here's an odd question directed perhaps to moose hd or any other guy
with a more limited repertoire ... ok so ive had 3 serious bf's in my life , a few years each... but my current bf has only had one.. me... we've been dating over a year... we have talked about plans of moving in together, saving for a house, etc.... its kind of weird to say but some part of me is just like paranoid that he has never been with anybody else before....
cuz when i was 19 and had only been with the 1 bf, my mind kinda wandered and i started to wonder what it would be like to have sex with a different person... is that a curiosity that happens alot? or am i just weird... well mind u there were other problems in that relationship that may have lead to me wanted to be with someone else , but still.... i really love my bf and part of me thinks its really sweet that he waited till he found someone he really wanted to be with (well that plus he's really shy) but part of me worries he may eventually feel like he "missed out" or something for not being with other people... i kinda brought it up once to him but he was like nah thats not going to happen to me... but i mean i dunno what can u do ...

I can kinda relate to the situation. I will tell you this: the average guy - especially a shy type - will at some time be uncomfortable with the fact that other guys have had you and yet he has not experienced anyone else.

That is not to say that it will happen with him because I don't know him; everyone is wired differently. And even if he did end up feeling that way, that does not mean that he won't be able to work through it.

But you are smart to at least be aware of the fact that it may become an issue at some point in time.

[bigpimpinbigbird]

umm...
date-15
kiss-15
oral(give)-16
oral(recieve)-16
sex-16
all w the same girl and i only wish she could have waited for me
i love her but i always think that i will never have that special first for her

[jay-girl]

Date - 15
Kiss - 15
Oral - 17
sex - 18

all w/ the same guy

[nursefluffykins]

"other guys have had me"... oh gee now , thanks UA, now i feel so used... :P
well, yah... thanks for your insight, we'll see what happens...but at least im not weird for thinking about what i mentioned earlier ... not much i can do about it reallly...

[Pheonix_DeLoures]

date-14 I wasn't allowed to date till I was 14.
kiss-14
oral(give)-16
oral(recieve)-14 (the next time I was 18)
sex-14
Age- 19

I was a messed up child. But I'm still best friends with my first, so I don't entrely regret it. *shrug* you live and learn.

[Iris]

first masturbation: 14 (But I really didnt learn how too until I was 17 or so)
first date: 15
first kiss: 15
first french kiss: 15 (I dove right in)
first handjob given: 15 (Mmm... and I admit to being scared of hurting him too, cuz I didn't have a clue)
first fingering recieved: 16 (right after I turned sixteen... and didn't do that again until age 18)
first oral recieved: 18
first time having sex: 18
first oral given: 16
first boyfriend: 15
current age: 18

Oh and I went through an expirementational phase so...
First kiss with a girl: 15
First Make-out with a girl: 16
First Date with a girl: 16
{But then I found out it didn't work for me}

[moose_hd]

Originally Posted by nursefluffykins

moose (and anyone else reading this lol) i read the post about that lady who has only been with her husband and is considering having sex with another man and has discussed it with her husband yada yada... whoa, certainly not my cup of tea... ! ... i can only hope to keep the communication (and sex!) open with my bf and not let his curiosity escalade to that point...talk about feelings and stuff along the way, which is not always easy... of course i cant predict what could happen 18 years down the line but that just seems so extreme...
its like being stuck between a rock and a hard place ; the previous sex partners ive had in my life all helped me become who i am today, but i love my bf very much and have no desire to be with anyone else ever again. Is part of my certainty in saying that because ive been with other people? Who knows. I really think if i had been with only him id feel the same way but of course its one thing to say how you would feel in a particular situation and another to live it... well over a year into it and we're both still relatively happy ; sure if i consider some of the other things ive posted about, our relationship isnt perfect lol, but i think it has lasting power...

I must have missed your post the first time around...

Not really sure exactly what you're asking here, but I sense you're insecure about your bf's ability to fully commit to a person when he hasn't experienced much and "calibrated" his senses that tell him how he feels about women. I think the desire to spend your life with only 1 person can be equally strong and developed among people who have and only 1 partner and those who have had many. I do absolutely believe that he can fully feel the need deep down to spend his life with his first lover if he believes she's The One.

Hypothetically, if he had been with other people first, his desires may have been more refined and his preferences about who he wants to spend his life with may have been altered, but the "certainty" of the desire and ability to make the commitment would be constant. If anything, being more experienced may give him a better ability to "know" what he's feeling and recognise that someone is The One.

(Side story ... five years before I met my first girlfriend, I met a girl at school. She was special and I had never felt that way about anyone. Back then I didn't know that I could actually date girls or anything like that so I let her slip by, even though she clearly liked me. My ability to "know" someone is The One wasn't properly honed at that point, and I only realised all of this after I had started dating my first gf and learned what it felt like to want someone and be wanted in return. That was me at age 18. Too cute. Now that woman in question is dating one of my childhood friends ... go figure.)

I think the best piece of advice I can give is to take your own advice... keep the lines of communication open. I think this goes for any woman who wants to hold onto her man: Be aware of how he's feeling, and if he's feeling trapped, you may need to help make him comfortable and feel somewhat in control again. A man who feels "trapped" in a relationship situation is dangerous... unstable, resentful, much more prone to cheating, etc.

As one of the less experienced guys, the only things I would want from a more experienced partner (that relate to largely different experience levels) are 1) acceptance of my inexperience and 2) willingness to take (both physical and emotional) things slow if I feel the need.