Ten Rules For Anal Sex

[Sharde]

The following "Ten Rules For Anal Sex" were taken from a post I made a while back on another forum... The feedback this post generated was very positive and I felt it would be nice to post the same helpful information here...

"One of the hottest new topics of discussion these days is the talk of anal sex and the "how to's" to make it a fun activity that couples can do together to spice up their sex lives a little. Anal sex can and should add a healthly variety to a couple's sex lives to make it richer and less routine. Below are my top ten rules for great anal sex and some links below them for some extra information. Have fun trying this great variation of sexual pleasure...

1. Anal should never be a spur of the moment thing, especially if it is your first time. Much planning and talking with your partner about this has to be done if the first experience is to be pleasureable.

2. When you have decided to do anal, make sure you do not feel the need to go to the washroom. Anal sex after a particularly runny or particularly solid bowel movement is best. If you try it after a somewhat soft bowel movement, your odds of a mess are a little more likely. If there is a bit of a mess after a few minutes of anal, just go to the washroom and do a bowel movement... A more runny movement after a few minutes of anal is more likely and will clean you right up...

3. Enema's can do a good job in cleaning the area... But I have never used them (when doing solo anal) on myself... Also of note is that feces is not stored in the lower anal area. It is stored above another sphincter about 10 or so inches above the anus. So a long period of anal can be done with no problem or mess...

4. Anal forelay is a good idea especially if it your first time. If it is your first time, (as like in vaginal sex) there is a chance it could hurt a little the first time as your anus is not used to this kind of stimulation and is "tight" the way your vagina was the first time. The good news is that the anus sphincter is a muscle and can "stretch" as if you were doing exercises, and the more you exercise the more acustomed this muscle will be to the activity. That being said, this muscle will not loosen... It will simply become more used to the kind of simulation involved in anal sex.

Analingus and Circular massage (with your fingers or a vibrator) with lube, as well as some well lubed finger insertion are some really good and fun anal foreplay activities.

5. Relax. Relax. Relax. The anus needs to be relaxed and you need to be in the mindset that you are going to enjoy anal. If you aren't in this mindset and are worried that it will hurt, your anus will tighten up... And it will hurt. But this can and should be painless even the first time. Anal is a very enjoyable act...

6. Lube, Lube, Lube. You need to have good (not the cheap stuff) lube in order to do anal... And a lot of it. My recomendation is ASTROGLIDE (at least for the initial penetration and the first several minutes) as it has an amazing consistancy (almost like precum) so it feels very natural, and is also super slick. It is also water soluable, which won't break down a condom as oil based lubes will. ASTROGLIDE is also readily accesable and can be bought at any drugstore, in the same section as the condoms...

7. Reapplying the lube... You will need to use more lube as the motion tends to use up the lube. Some complain of "burn" with excessive lube... Some have no problem using a ton of it. If you do notice a little burning sensation with the application of more lube, this is where the expensive "quality" lube comes in. Pjur or Eros (made by the same company) and Pink are expensive brands that are hypoalergenic and DO NOT cause a burning sensation. These lubes are great for using for additional applications as they have no burn, but I do not recomend them for intial penetration as they are not very thick (slick, gooey) and are not as good as ASTROGLIDE or WET for initial penetration...

8. Penetration. Go slow to start off and listen to what your partner is telling you... You may want to make little circles around the anus with your penis as a little forplay to loosen your partner up and get them in the mood. Let them enjoy them erotic sensation of the anal stimulation before that actual insertion. Proceed to insert your penis slowly; stop with just the "head" of the penis in if it is not sliding right in and ask you partner how it feels. You may need to apply more lube at this point. After well lubed, proceed inserting slowly. Some good first time positions are Doggy, Mish with your partner holding their legs to their chest, and on the side as it allows your partner to relax and just take the penis in.

9. Thrust slowly when starting off. If you get to excited and just start pounding away like they do in the pornos, then you run the risk of hurting your partner and having them not want to ever do anal again with you. Remember, that first time anal has to be done with as much care as first time vaginal. Keep the mindset that you are with a virgin again. Be very gentle...

10. Have fun. Anal sex is a very fun and amazingly enjoyable act for both partners. Women have a gland very similar to the male prostrate, which when stimulated can produce mega orgasms. Stimulate her clit while you are doing anal and experiment with different positions. Done correctly with care, anal sex can and should add a healthly variety to a couple's sex lives to make it richer and less routine experience. Have Fun..."

I've posted some good links below for reference:

http://www.allsexguide.com/questions_about_anal_sex.htm
http://www.sexuality.org/morin98.html
http://www.sexuality.org/authors/morin/analrule.html
http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/elffaq.html#analsex
http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/aanal.html

Other Sources About Anal Sex:

http://www.sexhealth.org/bettersex/anal.shtml
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_anal.shtml
http://sexuality.about.com/od/analsex/
http://sexforums.com/showthread.php?t=2109
http://www.analsexyes.com/
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sext...,,4tgx,00.html

[Brandye]

Those of you considering anal, please make up your own mind but please read my discussion of the long term effects of anal in the Golden Posts.

[Sharde]

I've also done much research on this topic and also would encourage anyone to do the same... As for the long term effects Brandye, all the research I have done shows that done with proper care and technique that anal sex WILL NOT cause any adverse affects to the body and conversely will do quite the opposite by strenthening the mussles in that region in much the same way Kegels do...

Do be aware, though, that there are many misconceptions out there that foster negative and unheathy attitudes towards anal sex, some even perpetrated by the medical comunity, however authors such as Dr. Jack Morin, author of "Anal Pleasure And Health: A Guide for Men and Women" and others such as Tristan Taormino, author of "The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women" clearly with their research have dispelled these dangerous myths...

I hope the links and resources posted above will be benefitial for you in doing the research I have been able to in order to enrich my own sex life... Good luck, have fun, and play safe...

[justryme]

I am a single bloke living on my own.Is there any tips you can give me about self masturbation or using things around the house to pleasure myself analy

[Nastasia]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Those of you considering anal, please make up your own mind but please read my discussion of the long term effects of anal in the Golden Posts.

Really? I read your post on the Anal 101, why are you so hung up on there being long-term effects?
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Originally Posted by Brandye

Yes, Rawbob, you do get hemmorhoids from anal sex. No the next day but ask any 60 yo who has been having anal sex. They have either been trimmed or are about to be trimmed. The physiology is such that they are unavoidable.

I am not arguing against anything else you say.

I'm sorry but what does 60 yo + anal + hemorrhoids come together? There are no long term effects I've discussed with my doctor and he agrees as long as proper care is done then it is fine.

Sooo whatever,

[dancingdoc2]

Here is another reference for your article:


"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

[Brandye]

Well, Nastasia, you and your doctor have a ball. I would like to know how he defines "proper care."

While you are digging up old. old posts, find the one where I describe anal sex a bit more completely. Hang up? No. You will see whilst not recommending it I am accepting of the fact that many people will engage. And I, too, have some proper precautions there.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Nastasia

Really? I read your post on the Anal 101, why are you so hung up on there being long-term effects?
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I'm sorry but what does 60 yo + anal + hemorrhoids come together? There are no long term effects I've discussed with my doctor and he agrees as long as proper care is done then it is fine.

Sooo whatever,

People do engage in such regularly; however, with that said if one chooses to indulge, cation must be used. It appears you MD left out a great deal of information for you.

Hang around an ER for a long time as a Practitioner & you shall see what is being discussed by Brandye. Realize I do occasionally indulge yet demand techniques which are skilled and less harmful.