How should i get my wife to have a threesome

[alan1969]

I have always talked nerver forced my wife into doing any thing if my wife did change her mind it would be done slowly and make sure she wanted to do this not just for me

[secretly_shy]

If your wife isnt confortable with the idea then you may has to come to terms with the fact it may not happen.

[oberon]

Secretly shy is absolutely right.

If there is any doubt about having a threesome, then it can do far more damage than any "fun" you might get out of it. If your wife isn't comfortable, then I think you have to respect that and keep the threesome idea as just a fantasy.

[Skyby]

i agree, threesomes are something not to be taken lightly, she said not with another guy, have you considered two girls? but then you have to take into account the jealousy factor

[MizMinx555]

What disturbs me is that even though you knew how your wife felt about it, instead of respecting her point of view and letting it be, you came here to try and find away around it, which to me seems rather callous. Other than that.... (you know me.... just have to add my 2 cents, no matter what) I agree with everyone else

[alan1969]

Thankyou all for your comments but is`nt live to be enjoyed and experienced inside the bedroom and outside too. Thats why we go skydiving,moutain climbing,Have sex on the beach,in the car is it. I dont know mybe im wong but i bet we have all done things we did`nt won`t and some we enjoy and some we did`nt but we tried.

[HngLkAMouse]

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POSTER'S ORIGINAL QUESTION WAS HEAVILY MODIFIED, MAKING MY RESPONSE LOOK OUT OF CONTEXT, BUT I AM STILL LEAVING MY ORIGINAL REPLY BELOW.
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If that's the case, you should have married someone that shares the same belief(s) as you in those regards. It is unfair to impose YOUR ideas of what is acceptable onto someone else... especially the one you love.

If she is not comfortable with it - THAT is her choice. You should respect that choice and either (a) not pursue it further unless her views change or (b) end your relationship with her and find someone in your life that shares your views of open-relationships and multiple partners.

If my wife approached me out-of-the-blue saying that she wanted to sleep (mess-around) with other guys - and that "life was meant to be lived to the fullest" - I would say... "That's great! Let's get this whole divorce thing underway and you can get started when it's all said & done!"

That's not something you can expect ANYONE to be okay with against their will. They are either fine with it - or not.

(just my opinion)

I may be putting my own feelings into this by imagining the same happening to me, but I think it is selfish and inconsiderate to try to convince her if she has already stated her position and was honest with you. Let it go.

Peace.

[Tessie]

I got to agree with everyone else. There is a big difference in having fun with your wife and expecting her to have sex with another person. For women it is usually wrapped up with their emotions and we can't just have sex for the sake of sex alone.

I let my husband push me into swinging. I wanted to make him happy and allowed myself to do it even though I always knew it was wrong for me.

When I refused to do it anymore there was a lot of anger from him. There still it alot of anger. I just don't care anymore.

Keep the sex between you two and learn to be more creative without actually adding another person to your bed. Trust me you might really live to regret it.

[lilly2279]

My ex husband wanted me to get into swinging too. I was a virgin before him and was not comfortable at all about being with other people. Plus I thought that would just be an open door for him to cheat. I considered it an uncaring request. I mean there comes a time when you need to accept the fact that you're married. Be faithful to her and enjoy life with her in all the other ways. Fulfull sexual fantasies together in the bedroom - alone!!

Ha ha. My ex sure was upset when he learned I went to a swing club when we were in our separation before our divorce. He was like "no way!! You wouldn't do it with me!!" Well that's because I was married, I happened to have taken our vows seriously.

Now that I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend i would NOT want to see him with another woman or be with another man besides him. I'm way too stingy to share!

If you're a couple that talked about swinging and both enjoyed it from the beginning and agreed upon it, then that's great!! Have fun! Enjoy it.

Asking her to do this when she has said she does not want to is wrong and disrespectful. Period.

[Sailormanjack]

I agree with those who have already posted on this topic.

My wife and I enjoyed many threesomes with other women. She was enthusiastic about these trysts and often arranged them. This is not to say that we had threesomes every night or even every week -- probably we averaged a threesome about once a month. Usually we would have another girl join us for the night or for the weekend.

Lots of women enjoy threesomes. It's been a pleasant surprise to me to learn just how common an activity it is.

I'm divorced from this wonderful woman now. Our divorce had to do with matters completely unrelated to threesomes.

My girlfriend and I also like to invite another woman to be our bedmate.

For men readers who have never partcipated in a mff threesome, let me assure you that you do not have to be blessed with extraordinary sexual stamina. The situation is inspiring. Moreover, the man is not "on stage" all the time as the women will want to play with each other.

Fair winds,
Jack