How should i get my wife to have a threesome

[LittleFury]

HAve I ever had a threesome mysef? No, I haven't. and I don't plan on it. BUt I know it would not end well, becuase I know myself well enough to know that insecurities, not about his fidelity, but about my competancy, would get to me. And yes, we have a strong relationship as well, we gotta to survive my mother and both of us going to school again.
And sex and skydiving is not the same thing. If she were to go skydiving with someone esle, a friend, that would not have been a big deal. If a partner were to have sex with someone other that their s/o, that would be cheating and in a lot of relationships would be grounds for break up or divorce.

[alan1969]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (LittleFury @ July 05 2005,14:44)]HAve I ever had a threesome mysef? No, I haven't. and I don't plan on it. BUt I know it would not end well, becuase I know myself well enough to know that insecurities, not about his fidelity, but about my competancy, would get to me. And yes, we have a strong relationship as well, we gotta to survive my mother and both of us going to school again.
And sex and skydiving is not the same thing. If she were to go skydiving with someone esle, a friend, that would not have been a big deal. If a partner were to have sex with someone other that their s/o, that would be cheating and in a lot of relationships would be grounds for break up or divorce.

cheating is when you trick ,deceive that person so if that person knows you are doing it and agree with it then its not cheating.Check the dictionary. In a open marriage you have rules and if you break them then you are cheating.

[steve1234]

dear 3some guy, if your wife don't want it you'll never get it EVER. i have always wanted to have one also but my wife has said no all four times i have asked her. but on the other hand she does really enjoy her dildos lately (tessie thanks). will your wife use a dildo? and if so would both of you go to a adult store together and pick one out?.
my wife has dated two of my friends prior to dating me and marrage many moons ago, we just went to the adult store last week and we looked around and she saw one she liked. she told me this c**k looks like cris, one of my old friends. that night she was screaming his name then asked me if it's ok to do my other friend ( the other dildo) and called it another friends name. my point is you can still have fun with out another real person. for me i thought i would love watching her with another guy with me ( i have seen her with another guy when we double dated in the past). but i REALLY enjoy watching her taking on the dildos. one pointer if you would like her to blow one put on a flovored condom.

hope this helped.

[lilly2279]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (LittleFury @ July 05 2005,11:46)]Sex ain't skydiving, otherwise I doubt we would be here discuss all the emotions and resposibilities tied with it.

Never were more truer words spoken. *What a great line Fury! *

See, the thing is that he came on here trying to get us to give him some quick tricks or ideas on how to get his wife involved in a 3some. *What he didn't know would happen is that we would actually think about his wife for a moment.

She was a virgin before you. *What makes you think she wants to do this, EVER? *She does not. *You are not going to talk her into having a 3some. *Well, maybe you could. *Here's how you do it.....

Say "hey wifey, I want to have a 3some. *If you don't do it with me, I'm going to divorce you. *I'll just walk away from you and the kids". *I bet that would get her attention and then if she was really weak willed and dependant upon you she would grudgingly comply with your request. *She would go ahead and let you set it up. *She would dully wake up the morning of, take the kids to the sitter's house while thinking "today is the day I have to break my marriage vows so my husband doesn't leave me.... I never thought it would come to this, but hopefully this will save our marriage and keep him around" *Then she will be there for the little 3some and be embarassed and insecure. *She'll want to cry because it's something she was forced into, but she's doing it for you" *

Eventually it will be over and you guys go back to your home. *She then keeps envisioning the night and feeling sick to her stomache because it's not the way she was raised and she didn't want to do it. *The marriage falls apart or weakens because she no longer trusts you. *

But in the end you got your 3some, so you're happy. *Is that how you wanted it to work?

*Sorry if this sounds terribly rude, but I'm growing tired of arguing the point that she will eventually "change her mind".

The original question was heavily modified so that it's not even a question anymore. Not quite sure why that was done???

Here's an idea. Why DON'T you guys go skydiving or something that doesn't involve her breaking her marriage vows or doing something that she would be ashamed to share with her friends the next day at lunch?? geeeeeze.

You can tell us the verbal definition of cheating, but you're really bordering on it. Sure, if you did it behind her back it would be blatantly cheating. But trying to set it up so you can do it in front her of her really doesn't make it A-OK!

[Skyby]

Notice how everyone here has told you that it aint going to happen? None of us ever said it would be cheating but none-the-less would more than likely make her feel incredibly insecure? That all of us beleive you are not respecting your wife's wishes...
respect is not cooking and cleaning by the way, that is part of living together, respect is accepting her decision which it seems you have not...
You came here for advice, we gave it... you may not like it but maybe you should listen to us instead of arguing the point with irrelevant examples