How should i get my wife to have a threesome

[lilly2279]

Thanks Jack, But you may also want to let Alan know that you and your wife probably discussed 3somes together and both agreed you would like to do it. And apparently you made that clear with your current gf too.

Unfortunately alan is with a woman who is not comfortable with a 3some and he's looking for ways to get her to participate. He feels he can change her mind on this issue.

I am interested in how you feel about that, Jack. And I'm not being bitchy here, I know it's hard to give voice reflections or how something is meant to be read when writing on this board. I would like to know if you were dating a girl and maybe married her and she was totally against 3somes, what would you do? would you keep trying to talk her into it or just look for other ways to spice of your sexual life together?

I hope you'll write and let us know!

[Sailormanjack]

Some people are turned off by the idea of group sex and threesomes are definately not for them. Sex is an extremely important part of life. How awful it would be to spoil it for your wife by pressuring her in a threesome! If she thinks you won't enjoy it, she won't enjoy it.

I was married to a beautiful and exciting woman who loved threesomes. I was also married to a beautiful and exciting woman who abhored the very idea and I respected her wishes.

Were I to marry again, one of my requirements in a spouse is that she enjoy the occasional mff threesome. It's too important to me to deny myself this pleasure. But it absolutely is the kind of arrangement in which all parties must be enthusiatic participants. Otherwise, the result will be pain; not pleasure.

[alan1969]

The thing is my wife was a virgin and went out with only two guys before me. So its diffcult to get my wife to experance her sexulty if i took no for every thing we tried we both would have no sexual experence at all. Like i have said i do not push i only guide. people should stop being so narrow minded.


LIFE IS AN EXPERIENCE SO LIGHTING UP

[Skyby]

I agree that life is an experience, and I am onpen to all things sexual however i WILL NOT have a threesome with my current boy, maybe when we first started going out but i care way to much about him now to even consider sharing him with someone else.... and i know i would be even worse if we were married, you need to repsect your wifes wishes, even if you were to convince her chances are that she would only be doing it for you and it could end up ruining your marriage as she may come to resent you being with another woman... are you willing to loose her over this?

[alan1969]

skyby having a threesome is not about loving the other woman or man sure you have to like them but your in a marriage you love our wife or huby and i know if my wife changed her views i would make sure it was for the right reasons i can tell when she is doing things she doesnt want to do we have been married for 13 years and have two boys and if we can still be together after that im sure our marriage can survive any thing. You have to trust the person you love .

quote : dont make love to the moral police *

[Konman72]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (alan1969 @ July 04 2005,16:42)]skyby having a threesome is not about loving the other woman or man sure you have to like them but your in a marriage you love our wife or huby and i know if my wife changed her views i would make sure it was for the right reasons i can tell when she is doing things she doesnt want to do we have been married for 13 years and have two boys and if we can still be together after that im sure our marriage can survive any thing. You have to trust the person you love .

quote : dont make love to the moral police

I'm guessing that you trust your wife, but would you be willing to watch her get screwed by some other guy? My girlfriend trusts me alot, btu she won't get me a sex toy because she loves me so much that it would make her feel like I was cheating on her. She knows that I love her, and that I couldn't possibly love the friggin' toy, but her love is so bonding that it transcends reason and logic. This doesn't bother me one bit, I was just asking hypothetically, but I'm guessing that your wife loves you, and no matter how much you trust someone some people can't seperate sex and love. I sure as hell can't, and to tell the truth I don't want to.

Now, I understand that you are different than me, and you are entitled to your opinion, but I'm just saying, that you don't seem to respect your wives opinion, you just say that she could think otherwise, and that you don't understand what she is thinking. Try to understand her before you try to change her.

[Skyby]

Konman probably put it a bit better than me...Im not to good with explaining my thoughts. i know tis not about loving the other person and i know how much my boy loves me but there is some little thing inside me that makes me jealous even when i KNOW Im being silly about it... alot of girls are the same and I was just trying to give a girls point of veiw because I can see where you wife may be coming from as I feel the same way...
But anyway thats not the point, as most people here have picked up on it seems that you are not respecting your wifes decision.... maybe its just the way you worded it i dont know but you cant MAKE her do anything....

[alan1969]

respect now i cook every day clean the house look after the kids give my wife more foreplay that she thinks i give to much and i have asked her twice and have not asked her about a threesome in 4 weeks .


ps also give her flowers 5 or 6 times a year now your right i dont

[LittleFury]

A lot of us, your gf or wife, have real good memory...we don't forget things for a long time. A lot of us have big insecurities, that maybe having nothing to do with fearing that you weill be unfaitful. A lot of us are worried that there is someone who you might find more attractive or better in bed. Especially if we were a virgin before we got married. And while it might seem ok at first, talking us into a threesome is a bad bad idea. While it mgiht be fun during you do it, it's like opening a Pandora's box. It mgiht turn out to be ok, but if it's not...you will wish it never happened. If she is set in her ways, and you force the change, it has a potential of really hurting her, and for her to be hurting for a really long time. Would you really want to take that chance with a woman you say you love?

PS. Sex should never be on the same level as activities as skydiving or mountain climbing. WHat do you get after doing those things even if you didn't want to do it in the beggining? Maybe a few sore muscles, a few pics and telling yourself in amusement "I can't belive I did that". It will nto effect you after next few days. Threesome can effect her for a long time, if not for the rest of her life. Sex ain't skydiving, otherwise I doubt we would be here discuss all the emotions and resposibilities tied with it.

[alan1969]

Littlefury yes i do love my wife and like i have said it is sex not love with the other person. Like i said we have a strong marriage if it turned out bad you deal with it then and what if it turn out to be good? Have you ever had a threesome your self? But sex is an experence and so is skydiving that was my point.