How can I make my sex life more interesting...

[Garysgirl_02]

I have two kids and my sex life has gone to shit, I just dont know what to do to make it better??? Does anyone have any advice on how to spice up a realationship thats going nowhere fast? Im afraid Im going to lose my husband if I dont do somthing PLEASE HELP !!!!!
GArysgirl_02
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[Tessie]

Prioritize your life and make time for the most important relationship. Do you think your children are better off having a father who is sexually frustrated? You will lose him if he continue to put others (including your children) ahead of him.

Get your kids to have a normal bedtime and stay there, get a babysitter, rent a really long video to keep them busy, etc. There are always ways of working around the kids. I have never bought into that excuse. You just need to rethink the way you’re doing things in your life.

Good luck.

[Rawbob]

I agree with tessie!

I have a teen age son (15) and have never had a problem either letting him go with friends (with adult supervision) to the mall, movies, sleep-overs.

Now, even if you have younger kids, its as tessie said, you have to make it a priority. You make sure you get food on the table, that the bills are paid, etc....you have to make "couple time" a priority as well.

Oh, one big addition.....don't make this a HUGE deal with him.....if you've been strugggling with getting alone time for a long time......there are a few things to keep in mind:

1) Don't think one time is going to make it all better, this has to be a committment on both your parts.
2) Don't put alot of stress on the first times you get to be alone. You might just want to take a long bath with each other in a hotel room.....or both get a massage..or both give each other a massage (thats a great idea and has worked for me alot). If you make it ONLY about sex, you're going to send the wrong message - it's about COUPLE TIME..not just f***ing.
3) Make it fun......take turns setting the day/time and theme of your "alone time".

That's whats worked for me!

[ShadowLynnParker]

I agree with the others. Alone time and this doesn't mean sex time. Do things together. Make her see the exciting man you are and not the same old same old you were. Read erotic things together at night. put the idea of sex back into the relationship without having sex. That will come when she is ready. If she feels like a mother more then a sexual goddess then that is what she will be. Flirt with her a lot. Make her feel sexy then she will be sexy. Your rewards will be greater then you know.