Define "I dont want a boyfriend right now"

[Killaj]

ok so my girlfriend last friday the 9th.My girlfriend broke up with me and she went to doing this by saying "i dont want a boyfriend right now".We been goin out that whole week and when i asked her out she said ok.So i just wanna know what the whole thing saying "i dont want a boyfriend right now" means becuase it really didnt make any since to me.I mean does it mean she just wants me to be her sex partner becuase she still likes me though.

[demonbuttercup]

i dunno
maybe she just doesn't want to be "exclusive" w/ you and wants to see other people.
it might not even be right away, but if the opportunity arises then she might like having that option.

[Tjdude]

I don't know man. It seem's pretty clear to me.
If a girl said that to me i'll take it as: "I don't love you".
Maybe she likes you and maybe she even cares about you, but it seems she doesn't love you. Of course thats just my translation.

[oberon]

Okay, I'm a little confused. How long have the two of you been seeing each other? To be honest, it sounded to me like a week. My response would be much different if she said this after a week of dating, than if you had be going out for a while and she suddenly said it. I really would like to help, but I need a little more info please. Thanks, and take care.

[Killaj]

yeah we were goin out for a week and then she broke up with me last friday.i mean she still likes me right now im just confused becuase ive never heard a girl say that.

[demonbuttercup]

well if its only been a week i wouldn't dwell too much on it.
whats wrong w/ a girl saying that? like i said maybe she just doesn't want to be exclusive...she wants to date and have fun. meet new people, etc.
how old are you and this girl?

[thetease13]

i don't want a boyfriend right now means...well... i don't want a boyfriend right now.

i "went out" with someone for a day and a half. the ONLY reason i said yes to the little twat was because he wouldn't leave me the hell alone. seriously. i was trying to get ready for a photoshoot and he just kept following me everywhere and pestering me about so i just said yes to make the twat leave me alone.
i wrote a letter later that night that said i wasn't interested in a boyfriend right now and that i didn't want to have a boyfriend right now...because i meant just that. i didn't want one at the time.

he didn't quite understand it but i honestly don't know how to dumb it down anymore. if you don't want something, you don't want something. *shrug*

[Killaj]

im 14 and shes 14 and im just really into her

[oberon]

Okay, killaj, without sounding too harsh I hope, this girl was not your girlfriend. *She was a girl you had dated (for a week). *Building up to girlfriend (or boyfriend) takes time. *Sounds to me like you are a little anxious. *Slow down. *Get to know different girls. *When you meet one you really like and she really likes you, then you can start thinking about boyfriend/girlfriend. *But if you continue to think of a girl you've been out with for a week as a girlfriend, chances are you will scare a lot of them off. *"I don't want a boyfriend right now" could simply be a reaction to the pressure that you seem to want a girlfriend RIGHT NOW.

Hey, girlfriends will come in time, but right now try being their friend. *Just their friend. *If you get to hang out with the girls, you will learn what you like and what to look for. *And you might also learn what they are looking for- and try to be that. *

Relationships will develop in time, but no one says you can't have fun while you are looking. *Take care.

[mels'A'flirt]

IMO-- "i dont want a boyfriend right now" means exactly what it looks like. its the same as like "i dont want to be friends with you" or "i do NOT want to have sex with you". she just does not want to.

yall are young, and yall only dated for 1 week.
my boyfriend & i have been together for 3 1/2 years, & he has never ONCE said "i dont want a girlfriend". although he wont find anyone better then me. lol jk

but 1 piece of advice--if she does NOT want to date you--your best bet is to NOT pressure her into going BACK out with you again..thats a total turn off...

about 2 yrs ago, i had the unfortunate opportunity to meet this guy--he was so ugly, talked weird, was not my type--and i knew my BF wouldnt approve (long story lol), anyways, i went out to dinner w/the guy 1 time, he spent like 5 hrs at my apartment then he went on his merry way. WELL, it took me OVER a year to get that little sh*t off my back. he was harassing me, stalking me, you name it--he did it--from bringing his little "friends" to my apartment, to calling me @ all times of the night. i told him i wasnt into him--and he DIDNT get the point..and it turned me off--of dating OTHER guys for a while...

so please, do me a favor--and dont be like that little sh*t that got too attached to me..if she isnt interrested in dating--leave it at that..

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