Female Orgasm Question...

[kiki]

I have been sexually active for 6 years, being with two long-term partners. My current partner I have been with for 4 years. In that time, I have only had 1 vaginal orgasm. Usually the only ones I experience are clitoral orgasms. My problem is, when it seems like I might be getting close, I really feel like I'm going to pee...feels that way. I know that my guy wouldn't make a big deal of it... but it still makes me scared to go further. WHAT do I do?

[oberon]

Welcome kiki!

Sounds to me like you are just afraid to let yourself go and this is your body reacting to that fear.

You sound like you really trust your partner, so discuss this with him. Tell him you feel like it might happen and plan for it to happen. Maybe a towel or pad of some sort under you. Then give yourself permission to just let go. If it happens, it happens. You could also try sex in the shower; then it wouldn't matter-if so, be careful, showers are slippery.(lol)

I think if you do this a few times you may find out that it was just a fear. Or even if it happens, it can be something you can work through. Just talk it out, and then relax and enjoy the sex!