Small penis size & women

[Javid]

Hello,

* * Well here it is...I have a very sick situation. I am a man who stands 6 foot 3" or 190cm and weighs 225lbs or 103kg. I'm a fairly "big" man. However I have a very small penis. It is 4" or 10cm. And to be honest I hate myself so much for it.
* * Now before you roll your eyes and start sending info about how it's not a real problem or that there are other techniques to please a woman or that size does not make a man, please spare yourself this wasted time. Believe me, I have poured over the material and research and all other things related to this matter and have found no solution.
* * The simple facts are these: 1. We live in a society where the size of a man's penis is related to his "Malehood" The bigger the penis the bigger the man. 2. Yes women all agree that skill is more important and oral and fingers and all that...but that's only if she sticks around long enough after seeing you naked. 3. Women do prefer bigger to smaller, or at least average! No girl has ever been sexually aroused by the thought of a small, thin penis.
4. Even if she loves you there will always be that part of her that feels some dissapointment that you were not bigger even if she does not express it.
5. There is to date absolutly nothing that can solve this problem. Women can have breast enhancments, men can have surgery which is rarely effective and only lengthens the flacid state of the penis, the errect penis is almost unaffected. This is entirely beyong my control to fix...

6. In the end I don't want to find a girl to love me and accept me and all that crap. I want to sleep with many many many girls, beautiful girls, sexy girls, the kind of girls that real men get to sleep with. And I hate that I can not. I hate that I have to look at that terrible flash of dissapointment that slips across their faces...a big man should = a big penis. It has begun to leave me cold towards women. Of a disturbing nature.

* I have recently begun to hate women. I think more and more of them as "whores" who only care about the cock size rather than the man. I look at each girl and imagine all the times they sit around a coffee table and brag about what big cocks they can get inside of them....And I know this is absolutly not true. It's stupid. Girls wouldn't be so insensitive that they would hold discussions in public about how much they like a bigger cock, or write articals in the magazines about "Can a small man really fulfill you?" or any of that other crap.

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* *I've already tried help. It's all crap. the same old "Change your priorities, you don't need the type of girls who care about size, use different techniques" etc. I am through compromising. I'm always so aroused...I have to masterbate nearly 7 times a day to keep my sexual frustration in check. I simply want to f*** and f*** and f***. But I can't and it's making my head explode. I want to be the man women want, and the man that men want to be. It'll never happen. I can't even be an average man.... I've been cursed by God.

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* Anyway, I just had to tell someone. I needed to get it off my chest.

[demonbuttercup]

hmmm
im sorry javid
im not quite sure how to respond to this post.
im sorry for these feelings you have and me not being a man can't begin to know how you feel.
but as being a woman i can say we all aren't as you said you were starting to feel towards women.
that all they talk about is the size of the cocks they've had.

[deroxor]

cmon man, a small cock aint worth suicide, there are allways pills to add size also. there have been people in worse situations then you are too, i remember on tv sum guy loosing his penis, and then he used his thumb to replace it, and there is allways a way to solve a problem you just gotta find the way. youl eventualy find a woman for you.
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TRY and work on being the man women want, go to the gym and work out, go out and party, just have fun. make it a goal to become the ideal man, and if that still fails, then i guess that would make me wrong. in the end atleast know that you have givin life the most effort you can, thats all i can say for now.

[mike]

I too am not quite sure how to respond.

It seems that you're obsessed with having something unrealistic. I know very, very few guys who " f*** and f*** and f***", whatever size their penis is. But if sex is all you have to live for, I don't really know what to say.

[Chiharu]

Ah.....


* * If he works out and gets a great body, or becomes a suave party guy then women who see him naked will chalk it all up to OVERCOMPENSATION. No matter how it works out self improvement in other areas is exactly that.

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He'll never have real respect from other men or women. Only pity or jokes at his expense.

[hanksnow]

Calm down, dude. There's millions of things in this world more important than the size of your cock.

There's also billions of women in the world. Read the thread on penis size, female preferences. Some like big, some like average and some prefer small.

I was once with woman who was had a lot of trouble handling my small/normal sized penis. She actually thought it was enormous. I had to work for a long time to get her worked up enough to insert it and she definitely did not enjoy it in spite of her desire to make it work. I'm sure you would have been perfect for her.

That great philosopher, (and possessor of a small one), Sam Kinison, had a routine about cock size. Paraphrasing: The next time you're told it's too small, just say- "Oh yeah, you're right, honey. It's real small. So I guess you won't mind it when I stick it up your ass?" Suddenly you're the biggest one she's ever seen- hung like a horse!

[Rawbob]

I wanted to wait and see how others responded to this post first before i chimed in myself!

Here's the deal...as far as looks and body and cock size go, all you have to do is look around you! How many times have you seen 2 hugely fat people walking hand in hand with 4 kids in tow....i say to myself..my god, how the hell did he even FIND her vagina...but then i say, well...it just goes to show there's someone for everyone!

You can look on every street in every town and see people with very bad deformaties on their face or body, and they have spouses, lovers and/or significant others.

If you're giving up because you don't have a big penis, it dosn't say much for the reality of genetics. You have what you are born with. If you think life and love is about your genetalia, perhaps THAT is why u are so lonely!

you have to love yourself before you can love others...don't throw the world under the bus because its overly focused on sex appeal! There are tens of millions of women in this country, and if u think EVERY ONE OF THEM is gonna look at your penis first, you're just wrong!

So, if you're going to walk the pity parade then do so, or, you can hit the gym, get in shape, go to school and get a good job, build a career and surround yourself with people who view life as soemthing that provides endless possibilities!

Oh, and one more thing. Why don't u take a trip to Africa and tell the people there who have NO FOOD, NO RUNNING WATER, NO JOB and virtually NO HOPE, your problems! I think any of those men there with huge penis' would glady trade places with u!

Just some perspective!

[Tjdude]

I don't know dude, your problem seems to be real, but you get out of reality some how. I mean, yes, let's say, you have a problem, but i think you are just blaming your penis, and god, and the women, and the rest of the world, for it.

The problem is not that u have a small penis, the problem is that, in the way you want to live your life, your small penis seems like a problem to you. It's like the guy who wants to be a NBA player and he is only 5'4". He can follow his dream if he want to, but in the end he will most likely fail, and it's his fault. The most logical thing to do will be that he'll change his dream for another dream. Something that he can do with what he has.

Realy dude, u don't need a 6 -7 inch tool to f*** f*** and f***, if you realy want to do that, at least stop blaming god or your penis or other people. What ever you need to fix is inside you. I know a guy who is fat, short, ugly, and for what i've heard very lowsy in bed. But you always see him with a lot of different pretty girls. His secret is that he can sweet talk any girl he wants in to bed, i don't know how but he does. Of course the guy is funny and charming and he has some money. But you can take a similar aproach.

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You just need to realize that u have a problem of identity or something else i mean, YOU ARE NOT YOUR PENIS.

I hope i did help you in any way, and i hope you think it better about your life. There is some good advice in the other posts (except for Chiharu, IMHO his post don't help too much), but that's life such it is, and i think you should enjoy what you can.

C ya

[cool macs]

Javid,

Holy crap man, get a hold of yourself... penis size does matter, but it is only one 100's of factors for woman on whether or not a man is good for them. The fact that you think this is what is stopping you from sleeping with tons of girls is ridiculous, as one usually requires personality and looks to get to the naked stage. You seem to have some serious bitterness to the world beacuse you feel that your DNA ripped you off... well, I don't hate the world because I can't dunk a basketball, I don't hate the world because I didn't grow to 6 feet, and I don't hate the world because I don't look like Val Kilmer or whoever is "hot" right now.... For your reasons, I could hate the world, because all of these short comings reduce the amount of women I could have sex with. Instead of focusing on things that I can't do anything about, I spend my time worrying about the things I can change.

You have a small dick, cry me a river man, play your violin, and have some cheese with the whine. I have friends who are well endowed, and those who "were ripped off by god" as you like to put it. Beleive it or not, there are dudes on the shorter side who do 10 times better then the dudes with bigger dicks. They do better because of their personality. They are happy, funny, and positive people, and those are qualities that go ten times further then a 9" dick.

Why is that men keep thinking that their ability to please a woman is based on their size? You've probably heard numbers on how many woman have not had vaginal/gspot orgasms through intercourse, even with dudes with large dicks... Have you ever wondered why? Sex is a lot more then a pounding to most woman! For woman to get there, it takes emotional factors like comfort, trust, respect, and for some reason, men keep acting like cave men thinking its all in their cock.

Lets go through your "facts"

1) Correction, we live in a society where the size of a man's EGO is based on his size. The bigger the dick, the bigger the ego.

2) Have you ever done marketing before? you don't waste time trying to sell ice to eskimo's. If the women you are with leave you when they see your dick, you are either marketing yourself to the wrong crowd, or you are marketing yourself the wrong way. You have a short coming, face it, accept it, and find other ways to get girls to stick around, humour is a great one.

3) Correction, no woman will ever be aroused by a depressed asshole who thinks the world screwed him over. Just because a small penis isn't a good thing, doesn't make it a bad thing. Consider getting an arsenal of toys that can help the woman your with feel fullfilled. A hollowed out strap-on dildo can do it quite nicely.

4) Unless you have a Cinderella fantasy of meeting the perfect person, No Shit Sherlock. The reason all the bald, overweight, small penised men find someone is because they have qualities that are more important. The moral of the story is that relationships are about loving people for who they are and compromise, you seem to have this mixed up with random hot anamalistic sex.

5) When the hell are you going to stop considering this a problem? No penis, only a nut sack, that is a problem. You've read it before, so you know nerve endings are in the first inch or two of the vagina... I think your problem could be you don't have enough ego to play up this image of a person you are pretending to be. Buy a sports car and some shiny jewlery, you'll be able to inflate your ego in no time. Instead of playing up this image, you should take some time to figure out who you really are, and then start living a real life.

6) Real men do get to sleep with higher quality and quantity of woman. I think I would be giving you too much credit to call you a half man, and I say this completely outside of your dick size. Change your attitudes, learn to be happy, positive, sensitive, and confident, and you'll see what being a REAL MAN is really about.

Who is Calling who a Whore?
Javid, calling woman whores completely contradicts everything you define yourself to be. Isn't it Ironic? Woman who care about sleeping with tons of "hot men" with "large dicks" are whores according to you, but wait a second, that is exactly what you want to do yourself... you whore.

Rape has nothing to do with punishing someone for not loving your little wang. Why is it everything you talk about returns to cock size??? You seem to be obsessed with dick...

You seem to have received just about every peice of advice, but its all crap you say... Perhaps its not the advice thats wrong, but the fact that you can't stop thinking about your dick long enough to process a real thought. Perhaps your definition of what a real man is, is FUCKED. Perhaps you have been worried about cock size for so long, you have lost touch with everything else.

Killing yourself over this issue has to be the stupidest thing I have ever heard, and I mean stupid. You need to do some serious soul searching, and figure out who you really are, and what it is that you want to give/take to/from this world. If I may say, your life will be much more rewarding if you give more then what you take.

[NewbieDude]

uhh... id lie like most ppl do and say that its not big deal... but im just not that kind of person...

to be honest... i think you are screwed man...