This is for us younger posters who are just now beginning the long, and often scary as hell journey into the dating and sexual spheres. Advice from more experienced members is of course wanted.
In high school and probably also early college not everyone is on the same level sexually. Many people are scared as hell of sex. It's pretty rare, it seems, that two people on exactly the same level end up getting together for relationships. It's just statistically unrealistic.
But, what are some things that, while not completley sexual, are most certainly sensual? Things that don't involve directly the sexual organs; things that people of all levels will be comfortable with.
I'm not talking about whipping out the sensual oil and giving a full body massage-- think more realistic. Nibbling on the ear, for one, works pretty well I find. Of course, paying attention to the neck... Kisses on the wrist and palm... Breathing warm air on all these places.
What are some others things you could do?
Since a person's skin is the largest sexual organ we have, learning how to touch it is very important as the examples above demonstrate. At the same time as we learn how to touch a person all over, is in connecting with our partner mentally as we apply our caresses. It is one thing to touch and quite another to connect with each other as we touch. We can watch each other's reactions to various caresses, and, we can look into their eyes and soul as we do these things so that they know that each little thing we do has them in mind. It is one thing to touch a person's skin and quite another to make love to their mind. It is the latter that involves them as a person and connects the two of you together. Your priority, then, should be to make love to the mind through the skin.
when my boyfriend has a snug grip around me while he kisses me
or when we're kissing and we breathe into eachother's mouths
those two things give me chills