My girlfriend is 23, she has never orgasmed during sex or forplay with anyone, ever. Is the orgasms she gives herself during masturbation the same 'quality' as the ones she may get from me? She has a lot of trouble letting go, I just dont know how to make her cum if she wont let go. Its as if she doesn't want to experienct a 'proper' orgasm (if you know what i mean!).
Mon, 01/01/2007 - 19:48
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Orgasms the same?
I have addressed this matter from the male perspective in other threads. As good as orgasms are through masturbation, they are much more intense and satisfying because of the emotional connection and pheromones when in the company of a lover. EEK, wouldn't this be the same for women?
I would say that try to get it going slow..
Don't get her to excited.. Keep her a little for a while and then slowly a little more.. You kindda buildup the feeling.. If you do this slowly she wount be able to feel so much difference right away so therefor be more acceptible..
And you can hope for that eventually she will get to the point of no return where SHE wan't to cum and orgasm and it feels that good so she can't hold back or say no..
But also try to just make it spontaniusly.. Make it romantic and do this some times and dont let it lead to anything except cuddle and carresing each other.. And then little by little arouse her more and more and then one day arouse her so much so she woun't be able to say no.. This is good because then there's no pressure on her and she will be comfortable and will not expect anything..
Usually the orgasms are similar but it depends. Vibes are intense but impersonal while men are much more fun because they are mutual.
If she has trouble 'letting go' then no, she will never experience orgasm with a man. Sorry.
Thanks for your advice. I guess i can help her to 'let go'? I.E Relaxing situations, reassurance, talking to her?
Yes and also asking her what's she's so afraid of.
It all depends on the woman. If she has hang ups about sexual issues or maybe she might feel ashamed of her own reactions if she truly let herself go. A lot of the time you have to get into her head and figure out what mental game she's running with herself that's holding her back. I can not stress how important communication is and a solid trust in your partner.