1. There are some variations for the woman such as wrapping your legs around his waist instead of laying flat. You can even wrap them around his neck. Or, place your feet flat on the bed and elevate your knees.

There are several variations to the Missionary position for the man. He might try resting on his forearms rather than hands. He might try crouching lower and just above your body without actually laying on you (don't want to crush you).

If you are having intercourse on the sofa, he can try placing his feet on the arm.

In a lot of cases because a person's body and muscles are not used to being in a particular position for a prolong period of time, they just have to be conditioned and this takes time and practice.

2, If you do not know if you have had an orgasm then you most likely have not. Before you can expect to have an orgasm through his efforts, you absolutely must learn to masturbate and achieve them regularly and consistently on your own. I've written extensively on the matter and this is one of the most common problems that people ask about.

Please read the Sticky post: For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm? in the NEW TO SEX forum. After absorbing the information in that message, please read the next one: How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

In one of these posts I talk about the importance of etiquette and for the woman to take it upon herself to inform her partner when she has climaxed so that he does not have to ask. Read what I have to say about this.

3. The G-spot is best left for a later time and after you have learned to masturbate and know what is required of yourself to have them. Then, if you want to play with this area, use a finger to massage it instead of trying to hit it with a thrusting penis that may or may not ever contact it. The spot requires more massaging than "poking" or random touching in passing, so to speak. Work on having a clitoral orgasms.

4. Talk to each other about this and any other matter when the two of you are not planning on becoming intimate in the immediate future. Then just, say you have something to talk about doing and then discuss it. If you are worried about his fragile male ego, the preface your comments with something like, this is not about you or there is nothing wrong with you or what we are doing, or some other phrase that will put him immediatly at easy and "disarm" him.

I hope this is of help. Got more questions?

1. throw pillows are very useful when positioned below your rump
also, the man, in missionary position should not be doing just 'push-ups' but should be lower over your body and bending at the waist to move his penis in and out

2. No you haven't orgasmed yet - they are hard to miss, even the smaller and milder variety are breathtaking - so if you have to ask - no you haven't
follow Dancing doc's advice but add one little toy to make it easier - a small vibrator, very discreet, known as a clitoral stimulator - it has a flat head with perhaps a few very small bumps on it. A tiny dab of lube on its top and there you go. Run against the clit and moved a bit here and there - pow!

3. I'd leave this until later as well, it takes more skill than any other technique - not for beginners. Also you have to be totally relaxed around your fellow and he with you to pull it off and you two aren't there yet.

4. This is one fantasy that should remain a fantasy. Playing in real life has enough hazards as it is and I have found that often times reality doesn't live up to the fantasy. Not as much fun as you thought it would be. Save this for when you're masturbating.