[SIZE="1"]My boyfriend and I are in a very serious relationship, but we've only been dating for about nine months and at this point it doesn't seem like it's going to end anytime soon (which is quite fine with both of us :) ). It can seem strange to imagine an intense relationship in such short a time, but we had known each other for four years previous to our dating.
Anyways, we've experimented a lot in our time together, and even lost our virginity to one another. The thing is, I know that I've been able to reach my climax during masturbation -- mostly through clitoral stimulation -- and I haven't been able to tell if I've actually hit climax during our intercourse. I know that I've felt my body peaking, but my boyfriend always has to stop right before I hit actual orgasm. I've asked him if he could keep going, but he usually gets tender, and by the time he's able to get going again, the feeling is gone.
My boyfriend is a bit overweight, and his penis isn't the largest one out there, but I'm wondering if maybe the reason he has to stop or gets tender could be a factor that he has control of. He has been able to cum three times before, in one "session", with little to no tenderness, but that's still rare.
I would love to enjoy when we make love more, but it can be hard when he's pumping and I'm peaking and then he cums and it's all over for him and I'm left with a feeling of disappointment. If a girl could blue-ball, I bet I would have done it several times.
Forgive me if this topic has been posted before -- it's so hard to read through everything. But I guess my question is: What can I/he do to help him go longer during intercourse without a feeling of tenderness?
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But wait! I have another question! -- Haha, bet you're sick of reading this, aren't you?
What can *I* specifically do to help him climax? I don't think he has ever orgasmed, and I'm not exactly sure how to help him get there. Sure he cums, but it's as if it's just something he does. I'd really like to give him a big eye-opening to the world of pleasure, whether through anal or oral play, or regular vaginal intercourse, so if anyone could give some advice, I'm open to it.
I'd like some feedback from both genders, if possible.
Thanks, everyone!
-- Charlaten Angel[/SIZE]
are you usually on top or on the bottom?
once i tried sthing different with my bf and it totally blew him away....he still says it was the best thing he ever felt to this day..... i got a pair of handcuffs (just find sthing to tie him if u dont have) and i tied his arms behind his head to the bed. then it was all a matter of teasing. first i unbottoned his shirt and started kissing,licking sucking all over his chest and his lips... and teasing by going in for a kiss but pulling back at the last second to make him long for you.
slowly start teasing further down... start kissing,licking, touching AROUND his penis...but don't touch it.... you can start first with clothes on then slowly start stripping him, well then its really up to you and your imagination.... the most important is the teasing... start doing sthing and stop, then pretend you're going to do it again but stop short.... don't over do it however coz you'll get him too frustrated.... when you seem him about to blow then go ahead and give him all the pleasure he deserves....its up to you if you want to go down on him or have sex with him....you're in control!!! ;)
[QUOTE=charlatenangel]He has been able to cum three times before, in one "session", with little to no tenderness, but that's still rare.[/quote]
[quote=charlatenangel]What can *I* specifically do to help him climax? I don't think he has ever orgasmed, and I'm not exactly sure how to help him get there.[/QUOTE]
Tada. The male orgasm is ejaculation.
To answer your first question, not all women can orgasm from intercourse alone. Experiment. Also, there's an informative and in-depth section of this site dedicated to lasting longer during intercourse. Read up!
Edit: Could you use a larger font size in the future, so all of us old foggies don't kill our eyes trying to read your posts? :)
Thanks!