I have been talking to my girlfriend and i found out then she really has only had one orgasm while we have had sex. Now i do no know if it's me? or if it's because we have only been having sex for four months. But i was wondering if it could because i am only about 5" and maybe that could be the reason? Or maybe could it be to positions? i just want to know if this is normal considering we have sex about two times a week?
Wed, 02/11/2004 - 01:57
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Orgasm while having sex?
hello anyone first post ever so hope it sounds ok. I just wanted u to know Kmel that your girlfriend is absolutly normal ive been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and I have only ever had two orgasms through sex alone i have no problem having them when we have oral sex too but with just sex i find it really difficult, i think what our problem is, is that he comes alot quicker than i do so when he comes sex is over so i have to come in a different way (through oral). i hope this advice makes u realise ur not alone most girls have the same problem. xxxxx
There ain't nothing wrong with you. A lot of times girls can't come from just intercourse, so don't worry. Also, just cause she doesn't orgasm, doesn't mean that she can't enjoy the act anyways. Also, you say that Trojan Etrra pleasure feels tight...try Trojan magnum, those are a bit bigger, and that could work. IF you don't want to buy a whole pack imeediatly, check out a near sex store, a lot of times they sell them separatly.
what i have noticed she likes the best is when she is laying down kind of like the missionary position but she puts her legs up on my sholders and it allows for dees penitration. from this i thrust upwords, and when i come down i try to rub against her pelves in hopes of trying to hit the clit.
if u konw where teh g-spot is, try and push towards it with a kind of upward movement (im htikning bout wen your in the missionary position)
I agree with you 100% but if you are 18 and end up doing it but dont have all that time then you try to make it good and fast, for fear of parents waking up or what not. i always love spending time with her it's just hard to find a spot that we can enjoy it and take out time. So for velentines day i am getting a hotel room
. But it just came as a suprise to me when i heard she didn't get a orgasm, because it looks and sounds like she enjoys it verymuch. In addition i am a guy and i really have not experienced something that is full filling with out getting off.
what is a good one to hit the G spot?
if ur 6.5 inches ...there's nothing wrong wif ya. i guess you can kind of make it up to her after sex (after you have cum) and you can go down on her and do wat she likes...that way both of you can have wat u like, and you also know that she had a good time.
this takes a long time of experimenting, and know htat wat works wif ur current g/f wont work with another girl. all u can do is take plenty of time, keep on trying, but make sure wen your having sex its more about being together rather than making each other orgasm and thats it. that makes the whole act seem so much shallower. the more the put love and being together on top of hte list teh better the sex will be, and im sure teh orgasm will come.
i remember hte first time i made my g/f cum through her g-spot, it wasnt through fast thrusting and hot n heavy steamy positions. it was just a standard missionary i just lay on top of her and rocked slowly and just loved being with her, and payed attention to every part of her body, i was prolly inside of her for like 1 and a half hours just rocking, "making love", then she said i hit something, then i just kept doing teh same thing, slowly, teasingly, lovingly, and she had a really intense orgasm.
every1 has to stop thinking sex in bang bang bang n takes like 15 min. sex is apart of soemthing much grander and you can do it for so much longer. (and once u know wat u do that makes her cum really easialy and uve perfected it, then sure why not go for the quickies in risky places
) Also , yes it is normal for girls not to have orgasms ALL the time, but do try and satisfy them if it suits the mood.
oh yeah i have even rubbed her clit when having sex, and she loved it. I can make her orgasm with my hands and mouth, no problem. But we try all different types of positions and i guess i always thought having sex would hit the G spot and after awhile with rubbing it she would have a orgasm. I just didn't know if this was normal. and oh yes i just measured my self and i am actually 6 1/2" long.
Its not always about size, and alot of girls dont have an orgasm while having sex. Some need oral pleasure to achieve the orgasm. Also position has a lot to do with it... try going doggystlye so you touch the clit on your way in. Or try a position were you could hit the g-spot. Experiment im sure she wont mind.
Ok just puttin it up in there.. and moving it back adn forth and around.. isnt usally gona get a girl off... it can SOME but.. not many at all, try rubbin her clit? oral?? cause really its not about the man hood. lol its about knowing where to touch and when.
jamie
ok nevermind i now know she has not been close to having a orgasm while having sex, so what could this mean? Am i to small or something? I always make sure she gets off after sex by either going down on her or playing with her clit. I am just worried that it's something with me. And oh yes i am not skinny i use the trojen extra pleasure condoms and the seem to be very tight at the base, it actually leaves a red ring around my penis. so i do not know if i am overthinking this or if it has something to do with me being to small.
Well women being able to have orgasms from just penetrative sex is hardly universal as others have pointed out. Also might be a good idea to try mixing up the positions, edge of the bed reserve cowgirls works pretty good for me, since it gives me and gf plenty of maneuverability