Thanks Nutsngum. Okay now at least I understand.

I would indeed try talking to her. But if this has always been a problem, maybe it's a sensitivity issue. I'm usually not one for quick fixes and I'm not sure this will even work, but I saw in Wal-mart- of all places- a product called "Finully". It is suppose to increase female sensitivity. It's located with the condoms. Maybe that would help.

[QUOTE=Quote (Nutsngum @ April 16 2004,06:13)]Me and my girlfriend have been having problems with her acheiving orgasm. Basicly she gets right on the edge of cumming but for some reason just cant get any further.

She has came before during sex. Once during anal intercourse with clitoral stimuli, once during doggy style vaginal penetration with clit stimulation and once during a T style position with clit stimuli again.

The fact she has been able to cum before, yet cant now is baffling.

Another thing is that when we do some G-spot play or when she uses a vibrator she can cum.

This is becoming really quite a problem as its making her feel depressed and inadequate.

I would really appreciate any help that you people might be able to give.

Thanks in advance.[/QUOTE]
Nutsngum, I hope you are still around somewhere, even though it would somehow seem your question got derailed.

Everyone gave an answer at the beginning, but I'd like a little more clarification.  Everyone seems to think that your girlfriend can no longer orgasm.  What I got was that she can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation.  Please correct me if I'm wrong.

If, however, this is the case, then I don't see anything too irregular.  The clitoris contains the most nerve endings and is the primary sexual stimulation center for females.  Basically what I'm saying is,"Hey if it takes a vibrator it takes a vibrator."  She has no reason to feel inadequate or depressed.  It's just a case of "whatever works". Just stock up on batteries...lol.  Once she realizes that this is no big deal and she's not at fault, I'm sure the depression will go away and who know?  Maybe she'll achieve orgasm some other way.

If I am wrong, please let us know and we'll try to offer more solutions.

***** All I'll say about the other stuff is "synthetic" seems like a perfect nom de plume.

Tease... it's not just "every time" -- this dude gets "his girl" off "20-40" timesper session! LOL

I sensed this attitude in the thread "she won't get me off" (Gee, I wonder why?LOL) which is one reason I stopped posting to it.

I've enjoyed this board because it's lacked the anger one sees on so many boards... it seems that most people who post here are genuinely interested in other's opinions and ideas; not simply interested in reading what they themselves write.

Anyway... I wish I knew everything there was to know when I was 19. LOL

Nice try, Tease!

whatever dude.
there's more to sex than just orgasms. think what you want.
perhaps this is why your girl won't get you off any more, cause you're so hung up on it.

i'm just sooo glad you can get your girl off every time. i'm just sooo glad your girl can get off that easy.
every girl is not your girl. you need to realize that just because a girl can't get an orgasm doesn't mean it's the guys fault.

and for the record, sherlock, i'm pretty sure that most of the people on this forum are sexually active or have been at some point in their life and they do know what they're talking about. and there are other ways to get off than just orgasm. but i guess you just don't know what you're missing either.

but continue to live in your own little orgasm world. i don't care. do what you want, think what you want. i'm done with this.

[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ April 17 2004,19:09)]just because you have a "lack of orgasms" doesn't mean you don't get off...and it doesn't mean it's a bad thing either.
my guy has never given me an orgasm..not yet atleast..that doesn't mean i don't enjoy what he does and that certainly doesn't mean he's bad at what he does.  i'm not frustrated that he can't get me off either.

and i'm sorry..but i don't understand what you mean by "girls try to mask the importance a lot by sayin they love the guy".  it seems to me that you're saying that orgasms should and always happen and that should be the basis of everything.
i'm sorry..but whatever dude.  that's so, narrowmindedness or something.  orgasms are great..but basing everything off of them and putting them above everything else is just no.

i love my guy to bits in pieces..in ways i can't even describe.  and i'm not trying to cover up the "importance" of orgasms when i say that either.
we don't always get each other off..but we DO get each other "off" in different ways.  and if you don't know what i mean by that, then, well, perhaps you should rethink some things in life.

yea, i'm in a cruddy mood.  i'm aware of this.  coming off your period and having your hormones out of whack will do that to you.  but it gets to you after a while when people seem to just want to base everything off like hardcore sex or something and saying that you have to get each other off or it's not worth it.  i'm sorry..but that's not what "sex" is to me.  that's not what a "relationship" is to me.
there's a lot more to sex and relationships than just getting each other off.

edit: and i can't type.[/QUOTE]
how can a lack of orgasms be anything but a bad thing? yea i am sure you enjoy what he does who doesnt enjoy getting pleasure. and he isnt necessarily bad at what he does but he is certainly far from good or even average.

the shit about girls masking importance of orgasms by saying they love the guy is true. they love him and they dont necessarily care that they never orgasm, but for the girls that are bothered by this they use as an excuse. the same thing goes for girls saying size doesnt matter because they love they guy. yet they will tell you a size can be too small or too big. lol

so now i am narrow minded simply by stating orgasms should always happen? yea who cares get the woman off at least once a love session and taht is complete release. dont tease her and get her all revved up and then not finish.

so how do you get each other "off" in different ways? an orgasm is an orgasm and they can be big or small etc. yea other ways my ass. we are talking strictly sexual on this thread not relationshipwise.

i never said i based everything off hardcore sex that is some fucked up idea in your head. now you are stating a relationship is not sex.. yea thanks obviously a relationship is not sex. "theres a lot more to sex and relationships that just getting each other off"
no shit sherlock . but strictly sexually speaking lack of orgasms is not good.

Actually no you are both completely wrong. for one i didnt say orgasms are the center of relationships EVER. you make shit up in your head. for another i get this information talking to girls who are sexually active. most of them are frustrated if their guys dotn get them off. they say oh i lov emy guy i love what he does etc. i was like does he get u off she was like hardly ever bla bla bla and acted frustrated. thats one example.
for another tease, i guess you just dont know what you are missing.

yea i read it.
and i don't think he should base everything off his own problems. not everyone is the same.

tease
have you read any of synthetics other post?
he's having trouble w/ his g/f because they used to have sex and then she said no more sex. he makes her orgasm just about everyday and she won't do anything to help him out and just leaves him frustrated. i guess thats why he thinks most girls would be frustrated...i dunno.

just because you have a "lack of orgasms" doesn't mean you don't get off...and it doesn't mean it's a bad thing either.
my guy has never given me an orgasm..not yet atleast..that doesn't mean i don't enjoy what he does and that certainly doesn't mean he's bad at what he does.  i'm not frustrated that he can't get me off either.

and i'm sorry..but i don't understand what you mean by "girls try to mask the importance a lot by sayin they love the guy".  it seems to me that you're saying that orgasms should and always happen and that should be the basis of everything.
i'm sorry..but whatever dude.  that's so, narrowmindedness or something.  orgasms are great..but basing everything off of them and putting them above everything else is just no.

i love my guy to bits in pieces..in ways i can't even describe.  and i'm not trying to cover up the "importance" of orgasms when i say that either.
we don't always get each other off..but we DO get each other "off" in different ways.  and if you don't know what i mean by that, then, well, perhaps you should rethink some things in life.

yea, i'm in a cruddy mood.  i'm aware of this.  coming off your period and having your hormones out of whack will do that to you.  but it gets to you after a while when people seem to just want to base everything off like hardcore sex or something and saying that you have to get each other off or it's not worth it.  i'm sorry..but that's not what "sex" is to me.  that's not what a "relationship" is to me.
there's a lot more to sex and relationships than just getting each other off.

edit: and i can't type.

what rawbob said is true - stess could be the problem... but also like others said, sometimes no matter how good it feels we just can't orgasm. thats true for me sometimes also. its nothing the guy is doing wrong... cuz sometimes i just give up when i'm masturbating cuz it just stays at that high point but can't go over the edge... very frustrating but just happens sometimes. i'd just say to try abstaining from anything for about a week then fool around w/ her and see how it goes. good luck

I used to base all of my sex on performance and I even counted orgasms, multiple orgasms, and orgasm quality etc. I was a really big dork for awhile and learned everythign adn tried to be the best.. I became the best. But sex is about two peopl ehaving a good time. I find it pretty effortless to give sooo many orgasms it is just part of the sex now (the sex we used to have). I found that now that I relax I perform even better than when I tried. But lack of orgasms is a bad thing and girls try to mask the importance a lot by sayin they love the guy. Get her off at least once per session and you are fine. Most girls whom I have talked with have guys who arent that great at sex and they are frustrated!

Well! I'd have to say that Synthetic's position sheds a little more light on his "problem" in the thread "she won't get me off."

When will people realize that sex is about pleasure and not about power and performance!?

Wally

OK Nuts.....clearly SOMETHING has changed.

If you have had all that sex, in all those positions, used tools and masturbation - all of which brought her to orgasm - and lately she CAN'T? SOMETHING'S UP!

Now, this could be anything from problems at home, to issue with her folks, health, money, etc....but....there has to have been SOME trigger to this change.

Remember, it dosn't have to be a "life changing" event to cause stress-related problems. Remember, there are some folks in their late teens/early 20's who go into depression because they couldn't get tickets to Brittany Spears.

TALK AND LISTEN TO HER.

Remember, the human mind is the key to true sexual fulfillment and satisfaction!

no, it's not always the guys fault.
sometimes i can't even get myself off. how in the world can that be the guys problem?

If you can't have an orgasm its the guys fault. My gf never had an orgasm her single life since she met me now I can get her off 20-40 times in a night of sex.

just read around.
if compared to a lot of posts around here she should be happy that she can at least have an orgasm.
i have those days sometimes when it just seems like no matter how good it feels i can't go all the way.
what helps me is to go awhile w/out doing anything. i dunno what is awhile for you... for me thats like a week or so. then by then im very sensitive to everything and able to come just fine.

lol whatever wally see im so good people dont even believe me... and the sad thing is.. it isnt even that hard to do.