How come my gf can only orgasm when she's on top?
She moans wen im on top and says she gets close, but never there. Same with doggie.
When i'm on top,she says sometiems it feels like she needs to pee. I know thats only cuz im hittin the gspot.
Thu, 11/12/2009 - 00:07
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Orgasm on top only
I am told that this was not helpful. It is gone. And so am I.
;) i can work the tongue too, so leaving her unsatisfied is never a problem. It'd just be be nice for her not to have to get on top all the time.
Sometimes she's horny, but too tired to be on top. So, just trying to help her out.
Depending on the logistics of things, you could try reaching around and rubbing her clit when doing it doggy style. Likewise, if you're on top but have her feet on your shoulders/chest then she might be able play with herself while you're on top. Introducing a toy might not be a bad idea either.
It's best to think of this not as a problem, but as how you two can have even BETTER sex!
Spaced is not "spaced", AND IS EXACTLY CORRECT. The problem is not with "logistics", it is because very few sexual positions place a woman's pieces parts in close constant contact with a man's pubic mound sufficient to generate the necessary friction. The Woman Superior position or Cowgirl position is the best and is why she is happy with it.
What a caring considerate lover will do is to reach around and finger her while stroking away. Take your cues for how to stimulate her clitoris and vulva from her reactions. Ask her to show you how to stimulate her by taking your fingers in hers and moving them all the while learning to mimic her specific technique. Add to that, her giving you feedback, verbal or non-verbal on how she is responding to your caresses. (The same holds true for you with her.)
"logistics" actually refers to body type and how you two fit together.
I'm speaking to myself, I just know it. But I will try again.
The Program & Body Worship
Talking with her about Female Ejaculation would also help; of course, she's close but that program in her mind is wrecking the orgasm because she just is not letting the orgasm happen because she thinks it is urination and not ejaculation and Brandye, you're not helping here with this.
You're going to have to talk, buddy!
I have removed the offending post.
[QUOTE=Brandye;247954]I have removed the offending post.[/QUOTE]
OMG how on earth can you have made an offending post?
You are never offensive ... lol
It was addressed to adjusting male expectations; virtually identical to many others I have posted on orgasms for women. Maybe I am getting tired of this.
[QUOTE=Brandye;247956]It was addressed to adjusting male expectations; virtually identical to many others I have posted on orgasms for women. Maybe I am getting tired of this.[/QUOTE]
Gawd.. thats a little bit stupid :rolleyes: I would say it would be very frustrating to you as a Dr and a woman, that some of the posters don't take your advise or warnings seriously. I think you are an asset here.. bugga the moaners and keep up your great work...:D
Yes, it can get tedious. I do have to agree with you there.
I especially hate doing their homework for them by posting links to threads they should have read before asking the same question.
If you can't say something nice...
Doc- you kinda turn me on. I bet sex with you would be awesome! Anyway, I wanna be a sex therapist, and you are my new role model!
[QUOTE=and2premiere;247893]How come my gf can only orgasm when she's on top?
She moans wen im on top and says she gets close, but never there. Same with doggie.
When i'm on top,she says sometiems it feels like she needs to pee. I know thats only cuz im hittin the gspot.[/QUOTE]
Considering many woman are lucky if they are able to orgasm at all during sex, I don't understand the problem with this. I would simply take it in turns - sometimes let her go wild on top and other times you be on top and if she fails to orgasm, help her along afterwards with your mouth or fingers. I don't always orgasm during penetration but love "finishing myself off" while my partner snuggles up close and caresses my body. He loves being able to fully observe my body responses and listening to my heart rate.:p
"If you can't say something nice" - has been one the biggest poblems with women finding satisfaction with sex and with their partners.
Women already do not say enough and have to be encouraged to speak while men have to be stopped from sucking all of the oxygen out of the room. It is the women who answer "I don' t know what I want." while men have a luandry list of things they want to try.
Because "nice girls don't".
Fortunately there are women in this world who gave up being "nice" years ago.