I dont know where to start. Me and my GF havnt had sex yet, but we are in the process, she is a virgin. Sometimes i go down on her, and ive while im eating her out ill insert my finger slowly, and sometimes it hurts and sometimes it feels good, according to her. The problem is after a while ill give her an orgasm and i know shes not faking, because we communicate ALOT and ive asked her and im doing it right. but after i give her one she seems pretty wet but tired. all she wants to do is lay there and then go to sleep, but i havnt got what i want yet. Then sometimes ill go down on her again and and when i try to finger her she says it hurts. i though her orgasm made her more horny? or does it make things more sensitive? i need some help here, thanks.
Thu, 08/04/2005 - 06:44
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orgasm then sex?
I understand what you're talking about with the sensitivity. It depends, per session, as to how many orgasms I can have before my clit is too sensitive to be touched again. Sometimes it's one, sometimes it's five...all depends.
Generally, women are most relaxed in their pelvic muscles and most receptive right after orgasm. There is also a huge psychological component.
I would say your g/f just is not quite ready to complete the act.
You say you communicate a lot... part of that communication is accepting what she tells you.
Every woman is different and, to some extent, every orgasm is too... even though we think it's the guy who wants to roll over and go to sleep, sometimes women feel that way too! When it comes to sexual response... the one thing you can be sure of is that you can't be sure of anything... that's what makes it exciting and interesting!
It is good that she is able to tell you how she feels and how her body reacts. The next level might be for you and her discuss how you can get "what you want" at the same time.