Hey, you are haing orgasms!! Read some of the adjacent posts. If that is what works, talk to him and use that approach. Perhaps some fingers or a tingue could be helpful.

Nature has built humans to guarantee the continuity of the species. Men must reach orgasm for this to happen so the process and mechanics favor them. Things are not all in the right position for many of us so we have to learn alternative approaches. You have found one which makes it likely you will find more.