I have great clitoral stimulation orgasms, but have never had an orgasm from intercourse alone. I have a new lover and when having sex doggie style my skin tingles all over and the feeling of his penis penetrating me is almost unbearable (I scream in pleasure with each thrust). Here's the thing, I keep thinking an orgasm during intercourse will feel the same as a clitoral orgasm - an intense pulsating release. I'm not feeling that - he keeps pumping me and I keep screaming (in a good way) - until he stops. I feel completely satisfied, but keep wondering if this is a vaginal orgasm. Can anyone tell me if this is it or not? Does an orgasm during intercourse feel the same as a clitoral stimulation orgasm?
Thu, 02/21/2008 - 05:37
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Orgasm during intercourse
Yup! If you have not taken matters into your own hands so to speak, give it a try, because you know what works better than he--even if given feedback.
Be prepared, though, that your guy might possibly be intimidated or feel inadequate from this so you may have to reassure him that he is doing nothing wrong and that you are simply helping him out.
Here's the thing SoCal, 75 percent of woman dont orgasm from just thrusting (so if your feeling odd about not coming from penetration dont worry your not alone.) that being said 50 % need clitoral stimulation (whether with or without penetration).
(quoted from brandye)
Only you will know if you have an orgasm or not. My girlfriend sometimes finds herself unable to get past the "hill" so to speak and just hits a plateau of bliss sorta like what you are talking about (feels amazing, but never actually comes.
i don't come every time but i don't need to. you said you're satisfied so what does it matter?
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I often reply to posts like this that there are only a few sexual positions that place a woman's vulva and pieces-parts in constant contact with the man's body in order to generate the required friction necessary to build arousal and trigger a climax. That said, what a knowledgeable, skilled, caring, lover will do is to reach around and finger his partner while stroking away. Therein lies the secret and the answer to your situation.
It likely is an orgasm and if you feel completely satisfied, it makes no difference. I have been sexually active for decades. I can count the few times I have reached orgasm through penetration and thrusting. Most of us require additional stimulation. And it takes a while to realize the various forms orgasm takes for women. The variety is wonderful.
I like the "Ladies first" approach. We usually take a little longer with more specific manipulation. And I am most receptive immediately after orgasm. But I do not want that all the time. Keep experimenting and you will have a lovely love life.
For me, a vaginal orgasm does not feel the same as a clitoral orgasm, but there is no question whether or not I have had one. You still get the "release" that accompanies, but it is definitely a different sensation. You can also have a clitoral orgasm during IC if you stimulate yourself manually, and some women even have "blended" orgasms this way. Congratulations on finding your new lover.
I am most fortunate then as I can orgasm if the wind blows correctly. Yes, they all have a different 'flavor' to them and they all satisfy. The more you like sex, the more sex likes you - I am firmly convinced!
Thanks for all the great responses. I read many of the posts before asking my question. We'll be incorporating a nice new toy which is expected any day now. The reach around method has never worked for me as I need persistent and consistent stimulation to orgasm and all the activity of intercourse usually gets in the way.
Have you ever tried self stimulation, though? It is always easier if you do it yourself, I think. :)
Well, the journey continues
After tonights session I'm convinced that even if I never had a "real" orgasm during sex it won't matter! An orgasm before or after works just as well. I can't seem to cum with self-stimulation during sex. I seem to need a lot of focus and the sex itself it a little distracting. Feels good though!
Have you asked him to experiment with different angles and motions? Has he been able to find your G-spot?
One of my Ex's couldn't reach orgasm with intercourse alone unless I was sitting with her on my lap, facing each other. I reckon it has to do with the size of the G-spot.
If you are really desperate for intercourse-orgasm, there is apparently an operation that can be done to increase the size and sensitivity of the G-Spot by a small, localized injection of silicone. Not the most pleasant sounding operation, but apparently the results are very much worth it for the ladies in question.
I would strongly advise against the injection - just heard about it earlier tonight. First of all, it hasn't even been approved by the FDA, not to mention it is brand new and experimental. That means, no one knows what long term or even short term effects it will have on your vagina. Really, REALLY bad idea, IMO.
Having an O with a partner during partnered sex is certainly not a simple matter. It usually takes many hours of practice together to achieve, and that is only if it even can be achieved. Most do the before or after thing. But, yah, keep trying different positions and techniques. Even self-stimulation during IC takes practice.
It is not the same when you do not reach the peak of your stimulation. There is a difference because you are considering your partner already in the intercourse and could not control what he does. He may stop with you still hangin and you may never really have finished what you have started initially. That makes the ejaculation different. Sometimes, you might not even feel it because of the overwhelming excitement that you have. :)