I have had the same partner for 19 years and we have a very good sex life that has evolved well over that time. However, I only seem to be able to orgasm with me on top of him. One thing I would like to add to our repertoire is I would like to be able to orgasm in doggy style position, but can't seem to get there. We've tried fingering and I get close, but I get frustrated and can't get over the edge. Do you have any tips that I could try?
Wed, 07/19/2006 - 20:25
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orgasm from behind
Tried oral?
By now and with any research you should be aware that very few positions provide the constant and ongoing stimulation required to build an orgasm; the Woman Superior is the best for this. The "X" and "Y" are another, differing only in the placement of your legs. Another is a variation of the Missionary position in which the man "rides high" in order to bring his pieces parts into constant contact with the woman's.
With the other positions what most men do is to reach around to finger his partner while stroking/thrusting. Since you can reach an orgasm yet find it difficult to do so by fingering seems to me to be a problem with technique. Are you able to masturbate successfully to orgasm? If so, I suggest that you apply those same methods and try to focus on the building sensations. Distractions will often kill any progress.
If you can masturbate successfully, then teach your parnter your technique and guide his hand several times over a few sessions so that he can learn how to stimulate you successfully. Remember that we are each responsible for our own orgasms, all any of us can do is to help our partner achieve his/her own. So, it behooves each of us to learn what to do to help our partner reach their goal.
I hope this is of help.
You hit things right on with the distractions... when I get close, I tighten my muscles as I do when on top of him and he sometimes pops out due to the lengthened distance from my backside to the opening. Very distracting! Is there a behind position that could avoid this? Not sure how he could stand between my legs effectively. Maybe I should tighten my muscles a different way in this position? But then I'm not sure i could cum if I tighten differently.
I personally do not like the rear entry position. Many women have difficulty holding him in and any time we try to compensate, we tense our muscles and that does get in the way of orgasm. For partners who really enjoy it, I will participate but only after I have gotten mine!!!
PS: Doc, you are in the wrong place again.
So it sounds like there isn't anything we can try to get us both off in rear entry positions? It's so close we can taste it. If only he was an inch longer! Is there a way to get him around between my legs more so he won't slip out? Any thoughts on how I could train my body to get over the edge with my legs bent at the hip (they have to be more straightened now as I tighten pushing forward)? Thanks for all the help.
msabba
EVERY position is dependent upon the geometry of the two bodies involved. What is great for one couple may be difficult for either one with a different partner. The position guides give you ideas; as a couple you have to work each one out.