demon was probably right Cumming is slang for orgasm and if there is an actual meaning or difference it still doesn’t matter because its always being used instead of orgasm so people are probably going to think of it as an orgasm

no difference in meaning at all

Orgarsms....what a delight.

demon is right. "Cumming" *is* a slang word for orgasm. It has nothing to do with whether or not you ejaculate, etc.

I'm pretty sure they're two distinct things. Guys can orgasm without ejactulating (cumming), and maybe ejaculate without an orgasm? Like 99% of the time though, they happen at the same time.

Women can orgasm, and cum (female ejaculation). But like guys, I think most of the time when a girl cums she also has an orgasm.

umm... im so confused right now i cant even figure out what we are talking about any more...

this topic is too confusing
especially since yes its is very apparent when a guy "cums" and that he also had an orgasm and that guys can sometimes have orgasms w/out shooting off.

as for females... i would think the majority would consider them both the same thing for themselves since as sexykitty stated those of us women who have never physically had an FE wouldn't recognize the difference.
i mean there are quite a number of women who never have an orgasm and even a smaller number of women are able to have a FE.

as for the original question she said she always "gets off" but isn't sure she's ever orgasmed???
now im confused what is her definition of "getting off"?
i mean theres times i have sex and it feels really good but i never hit the "peak".

from my personal experiance cumming and having an orgasam are two seperate things. However it just so happens that in most cases when you cum you have an orgasim.
My guess is that it would be that same in girls. I am a guy and i have masted a technique i read somewhere called multiple oragasams. The objective is basically to have more thatn one orgasam while having sex and keep going (with out stoping, keeping the same rythm) and have another one.
To do this it said that for the first orgasam you dont cum
but for the final one you do. I have persoanlly had an orgasam without cumming. So i can say they are different things. I imagine this is the same for a girl but dont qoute me on it im not 100% sure.
So to answer your first question (PlumMistress) id says cumming and orgasms are diffrerent things.
As for the other part to your question Id suggest you and your boyfriend just keep experimenting try different positions
etc. See what feels good and what doesnt. Having an Orgasam also has to do with your arousal so im told.
Perhaps you havent had a full orgasam. When i was learning how to do multiple orgasams i had orgasams but they werent full orgasams its a very odd feeeling. Its hard to explain but i think i know what you mean. It just doesnt feel right.
Well as i said keep at it keep experementing thats about the best way i can think of.

Here is a technique that I use on my girlfriend. I have her lay down on the couch legs slightly over the couch arm. I stand behind the couch and gently massage her clit. I do this for a little while up until she is good and wet. I then take my ring finger and index finger and slowly work them inside her. I use these to fingers to locate her g-spot a spongy like ball of tissue just inside the vagina. ( usually located about 2 inches within the vagina and just behind the clit. That means you have to curve your fingers upwards towards her pubic mound). After finding her g-spot I work my fingers around in a circular motion with moderate pressure. Mean while outside of her vagina I lick my middle finger on my left hand and massage her clit in circular motions. I do this until I feel a surge of vaginal juices inside her in and around her g-spot. From there I vigourously (sp?) start to finger her applying more and more pressure on her g-spot. (Don't stop stimulating the clit either guys). If you do this technique correctly you will give her women a earth shattering orgasam. Some people call it gushing I like to call it squirting either one is fine. But out of all the different types of orgasms a women can have I feel that this type is one that every women will love and adore. My girl does and it takes practice. Some women may not be able to ejaculate others may take a little more time. The main thing for any women willing to try this to do is to not be affraid of it. Everytime I have done this technique the women feels the sensation as if she is going to urinate. Women reading this don't worry you will not pee if your affaird of this go to the bathroom before you start the festivites. I assure you if this is done correctly you will not pee you will ejaculate a very sweet liquid that yes it comes from the urethra but has no urine content what so ever. Word of advice make sure you place a towel on the couch or bed which ever you perfer before you begin. Some women can get some really good range when ejaculating. If this technique works for anyone out there please reply to me I'd like to her back from you. Also, if you want to atempt it I have used the fingering techinque on my women while giving her oral stimulation to her clit. Believe it or not I gave her 25 gushing orgasams within 30 minutes. So what are you waiting for people get in the bedroom!

im w/ Juno on this one.
i always associated the 2 as the same thing.
in my mind "cumming" was just kind of a slang term for having an orgasm.
sounds better to say "oh im cuuumminng!!"
as to "oh im having an orgasm"...lol
just sounds too textbook.

yes during foreplay and oral ill have little flutters where i start to get close and my muscles tense up all over.
but there nothing like the grande finale.

here is an actual definition:
"intense or paroxysmal excitement; especially : an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the height of sexual arousal that is usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen in the male and by vaginal contractions in the female"

I think people who aren't able to physically cum (FE) wouldn't know the difference. If you are having FE then you are orgasming, it is just the build up to having the FE. I orgasm during sex and don't always cum (FE) but when I am fingered and my gspot/clit is stimulated the orgasm always leads to cum.

There is no difference as far as I know, "cumming" is the same as orgasming.
Live life.
Good luck.

You can orgasm without cuming, but in my experience always orgasm when you cum. An orgasm is when your muscles tighten or "throb" as I heard someone say on here. During foreplay with my husband I can have several orgasms leading up to cuming. It is not an intense feeling for me because I look forward to cuming and cuming is so much more intense.

[QUOTE=Ladysman03;100387]Here is a technique that I use on my girlfriend. I have her lay down on the couch legs slightly over the couch arm. I stand behind the couch and gently massage her clit. I do this for a little while up until she is good and wet. I then take my ring finger and index finger and slowly work them inside her. I use these to fingers to locate her g-spot a spongy like ball of tissue just inside the vagina. ( usually located about 2 inches within the vagina and just behind the clit. That means you have to curve your fingers upwards towards her pubic mound). After finding her g-spot I work my fingers around in a circular motion with moderate pressure. Mean while outside of her vagina I lick my middle finger on my left hand and massage her clit in circular motions. I do this until I feel a surge of vaginal juices inside her in and around her g-spot. From there I vigourously (sp?) start to finger her applying more and more pressure on her g-spot. (Don't stop stimulating the clit either guys). If you do this technique correctly you will give her women a earth shattering orgasam. Some people call it gushing I like to call it squirting either one is fine. But out of all the different types of orgasms a women can have I feel that this type is one that every women will love and adore. My girl does and it takes practice. Some women may not be able to ejaculate others may take a little more time. The main thing for any women willing to try this to do is to not be affraid of it. Everytime I have done this technique the women feels the sensation as if she is going to urinate. Women reading this don't worry you will not pee if your affaird of this go to the bathroom before you start the festivites. I assure you if this is done correctly you will not pee you will ejaculate a very sweet liquid that yes it comes from the urethra but has no urine content what so ever. Word of advice make sure you place a towel on the couch or bed which ever you perfer before you begin. Some women can get some really good range when ejaculating. If this technique works for anyone out there please reply to me I'd like to her back from you. Also, if you want to atempt it I have used the fingering techinque on my women while giving her oral stimulation to her clit. Believe it or not I gave her 25 gushing orgasams within 30 minutes. So what are you waiting for people get in the bedroom![/QUOTE]
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