[quote=lcd37;208570]:oOK so this might sound a little weird but.....ok so ive been having sex with this guys for a couple of months now and im still pretty new to sex.

[COLOR=navy]Okay not a big deal so you are new to sex. [/COLOR]

And I would feel kinda like awkward talking about it and like telling him what to do because were not like bf, gf thing just friends with benefits i guess

[COLOR=navy]If you are willing to have sex with someone; why are you so reluctant to discuss what you do like and why you might like to try something? In any relationship; love, friends, sex buddies, etc. Communication is key, especially if you are in fact friends.[/COLOR]

...anyway I like dont know how to like orgasm with him yet. like i can make myself orgasm but when we have sex it just never happens so of course i just fake it.

[COLOR=navy]Why fake it? To get it over and done with or to make him happy? You are doing yourself & him a great disservice here.[/COLOR]

But like how long into doing it should I have orgasmed not sure if that made sense.

[COLOR=blue]There are no time frames & certainly no guarantees you can with a partner; moreover, it's not going to "magically" happen if you lie and if you do not try to convey what works for you---it's mutual. [/COLOR]

And this might be a REALLY STUPID question but after ive "orgamsed" could we still like go at it or do you just like slow it down and stop??

[COLOR=blue]Depends on the person. Some can & some cannot. If you are faking it; it's likely you will never figure out the "truth". [/COLOR]
really appreciate it if anyone could give some advice!! thanks!:)[/quote]

Start with the truth.....with him & talk.

There are many posts covering this question and situation.

I feel a smack upside the head from EEK approaching..........

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LCD:

Stop using the word "like" ....it's used improperly.

You might not have orgasmed with him yet because he already thinks he is getting it right by you faking it... You're in charge of your own orgasm, but it's not fair on each other making him think you have already.

LCD - STOP FAKING IT!!!

Jeez! *smack upside the head duly delivered*

It is YOUR body and YOUR orgasm - learn it, do it yourself, OWN IT.

Men do not "give" you orgasms, they assist you to have them and add those additional dimensions to the sexual experience. Faking it sends him false signals. Your are in effect LYING TO HIM. Stop that immediately! He's not some child who needs to be coddled.

Masturbate to the point of not just one orgasm but many. Read the books on the subject. Read the sticky posts on this subject. Learn what you are capable of and then TELL HIM.

Many don't orgasm from penetration alone. That's what oral, fingering, mutual masturbation and all those other fun activities are for! Stop faking it because a. he won't try to make it better for you because he already thinks he's doing a fabulous job, and b. you won't get ever learn to orgasm with him. Faking it also implies that there is something inherently wrong with you and that you need to cover it up. That's not the case. This isn't porn, it's real life. It won't get better until you are open and let him know what your desires are and what feels good to you. You are totally normal. You just need to learn a little more about your body and what turns you on.

[QUOTE=lcd37;208697]KK thanks for the help peoples. But like what happens when like i havent orgasmed yet but he gets just like really tired and stops. Like taht happen once that i didnt fake it yet or anything but he just kinda like stopped cause i guess he was done or whatever.[/QUOTE]

like you like the like word like lots like aye?:p

Wow....I just realized how hard it can be to read something that says like every 3rd word.

[quote=Ducy;208700]Wow....I just realized how hard it can be to read something that says like every 3rd word.[/quote]Ducy; Do you see why I am constantly on you about maintaining your education despite last semesters disaster? Clarity brings prospective...

[QUOTE=Ducy;208700]Wow....I just realized how hard it can be to read something that says like every 3rd word.[/QUOTE]

like its very annoying like lol

Well what do you expect the guy to do? Keep at it until doomsday when it appears that he can do nothing to help? His ego is also taking a beating. Men like to please but apparently this is impossible when it comes to you. So you have become 1. 'all work and no play' as well as 2. a 'personal challenge' where he forgets you and just thinks of this an something to overcome or he'll die trying.

Find out what you need and then TELL HIM or, better yet, SHOW HIM.

Haha education not only brings clarity but lower insurance cost. Found out my insurance will increase $50 since my grades werent what they usually are.

Like find out if he is done or just pausing like in order to recoup before regrouping and going on. You two need to share information about what is happening to each of you and like what you need like--NEXT.

You like need to find out if he has like actually orgasmed or not. Like what good is it to you to guess?

Very few sexual positions place a woman's pieces-parts in constant contact with a man's body in order to generate the required friction to build to an orgasm. So, what a loving, caring, knowledgeable, skilled guy will do is to reach around and finger his partner while stroking. The same rule in dancing applies here: "She goes; I go"--and again if that is what each of you wants. This means, a man should see to his partner's orgasm before his own (one or more times), then his own, then afterwards, another for her--and, after his refractory period (recuperating time between 10 and thirty minutes usually) he can have another if desired.

If he is tired out from all that stroking and wants to climax, then help him to achieve this by hand and/or oral stimulation.

If he is tired out from all that stroking and wants to climax, and this seems like a pattern, then the two of you are beginning intercourse way too soon. He should be at the brink of a climax before penetrating. Many of today's young men are operating under the misconception that lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking is the way to build to a climax. WRONG. This is the purpose of all the fooling around and the foreplay that precedes intercourse! Devote no less than half an hour to making out and longer within reason if convenient unless you're going for a Quickie.

Bottom Line:
* show him how you masturbate
* take his hand in yours and guide his movements until he learns to mimic your moves
* give him feedback on how you are responding to his caresses and for what you need next
* do not begin intercourse before he is about ready to pop yet can still maintain control
* have him show you how he masturbates and then as above, learn to mimic his moves
* talk to each other! Your post is full of questions you should have the information on. Making love is a partnership. Right now you have the blind leading the blind and who wants to guess with an activity so important that you will like likely be right about half the time?? Who wants this as their batting average?