i have a problem with orgasims, I've never had a vaginal orgasim...and i can only have a ciltoral O when I do it myself the same way... laying on my stomach. My boyfriend who has never had a problem with other girls before, is very frustrated with me. we've been together so long, our sex life feels like theres no hope. Don't get me wrong the sex is great, i just never get there, no matter how long we go for. We have tried everything, and at this point its just really discouraging. Anyone ever hear of this or have any advise? thanks.
Sat, 08/19/2006 - 03:46
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orgasims,or lack there of
This is a slightly different spin on an ongoing theme. I have answered this problem several times this week.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_her/18128-so_close.html?highlig...
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_her/18234-faking_cant_get_off.h...
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/18131-help_sex_isnt_working...
...just for openers.
While some of this is written about the male problem, the information also pertains to women so just change the pronouns.
It is important to know and understand that very few positions place your genitals against some part of his body enough to provide the constant and ongoing contact required to generate the friction necessary to build and then trigger an orgasm. So, what most guys do is to reach around and finger the clitoris and adjoining pieces parts while stroking. If it is your desire, you can have an orgasm before and/or after intercourse.
Vaginal orgasms are an acquired "skill". You may or may not experience them.
So, plan on showing him how you masturbate and then work with him several times guiding his movements so he can learn your specific technique. Expect that with most positions, you will need a finger to reach an orgasm.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
One-quarter of all women never experience orgasm; half of us need some stimulation beyond penile thrusting. There is no problem here; you need to learn what works for you.
[QUOTE=cassidy0]i have a problem with orgasims, I've never had a vaginal orgasim...and i can only have a ciltoral O when I do it myself the same way... laying on my stomach. My boyfriend who has never had a problem with other girls before, is very frustrated with me. we've been together so long, our sex life feels like theres no hope. Don't get me wrong the sex is great, i just never get there, no matter how long we go for. We have tried everything, and at this point its just really discouraging. Anyone ever hear of this or have any advise? thanks.[/QUOTE]
i have the exact same problem and was planning on asking this question too!i can get off on my stomach too and with clothes on..which is kinda weird... but i will tell you that there is one position that i use to get off during intercourse. if your man sits up like on a couch or up against the headboard or wall or something and you sit in his lap facing him with your fet on the floor next to his hips and alternate between grinding and bouncing it usually can hit those same spots. most of the time i get off...and it makes my man so proud! :) try this it may work for you too.
[QUOTE=fireblaze14]i have the exact same problem and was planning on asking this question too!i can get off on my stomach too and with clothes on..which is kinda weird... but i will tell you that there is one position that i use to get off during intercourse. if your man sits up like on a couch or up against the headboard or wall or something and you sit in his lap facing him with your fet on the floor next to his hips and alternate between grinding and bouncing it usually can hit those same spots. most of the time i get off...and it makes my man so proud! :) try this it may work for you too.[/QUOTE]
me to i have the exact same problem.... with clothes on as well..... and the guy im wth and the guys i have been with i have never been able to give me an orgasm..... wonder if there are many others out there like us??