I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. We have been having sex for the 10 months or so. The other night she told me that she has never had an orgasim before. She told me that sometimes when we are having sex she can tell that she is getting really close but then it just gets stuck at that point. I think she is starting to get discouraged that she wont be able to have one at all. I talked to her about it and assured her that it was something we could work on. We talked about masterbation and she said that it wasn't something she had done much before but she would try it.
I guess the question is, is there anything else that I should be doing or talking to her about? Also is the problem of coming close to having an orgasim and then getting stuck a comon problem?
Thank you for your help
Alex
for this problem wyy dont u go for a mouth action first and then give her your action so she will be ready for it and ur timing of organism can be in match with hers or a bit later
[QUOTE=chethan111084;152372]for this problem wyy dont u go for a mouth action first and then give her your action so she will be ready for it and ur timing of organism can be in match with hers or a bit later[/QUOTE]
This is a good answer; however, it is placing the proverbial cart before the horse. I recommend that both of you use the Advanced Search feature of the Board using my name and the topic: connect the dots
You will find several posts giving a complete explanation of the problem and what to do about it. Each is a bit different so read more than one. The reason I say that you have the cart before the horse, Chethan, is because for a woman to experience a climax she must first learn how on her own in the privacy of her room. This is not an inherent ability for any of us, although for us guys it does seem to happen much more matter of factly. So, once a woman learns how to "connect the dots" or establish the connections between the nerves and the pleasure center of the brain via the autonomic nervous system she will then understand and know what is required to bring about orgasms and can then show her lover. Read my posts, please.
The problem is not yours; it is hers. It is nice that you are concerned but you cannot solve the problem. If she wants to solve the problem she can; if she does not, there is nothing you can do.
Thank you all for your help, another concern that she had was that she was coming really close to having an orgasim and then she would get stuck at this point. I'm hoping that this is just something she can figure out and workout but is it physiologically possible for a person to be able to come really close and not have an orgasim?
i have the same problem. what makes it even worse is that she says another guy did give her an orgasm.. when she was 14ish.. she hasnt had one since and shes been with me 6 mnths now. (shes 17 now) i duno if this will help you, but i made the mistake of letting her kno it concerns me. if u make it an issue its gonan have a psycological impact and make it harder for her to have one with you.rite?. my advice is keep going normally and use this sites sex tips. also dont tell her u got ur sex tips online.. v embarassing. im just hopin my own advice will sort my own problem out. it should work.. shouldnt it??