Vette, you will not like the first part of this. The best I have experienced is from another woman.
That said, men can do a great job and a major part of that is anticipating his entering me. I am most receptive right after an orgasm and cannot wait to get him inside me.

Please do not bludgeon my clitoris with your tongue. The little girl is really sensitive and powerful. If she is not exposed, let it that way; do not go digging. I like a tongue bath of the complete pudenda with each and every fold properly licked. Then sometimes just sucking around the upper part of the genitals sets me off. A little flicking sideways across the hood. If I want the whole thing spread wide (sometimes) I'll do it. Mostly slow and gentle and respond to where I am shifting things.

I have said this many times before, "Oral sex kicks ass." With that said, honestly, I'm happy to be getting anything. Everything about oral sex feels absolutely wonderful. Just remember, you can't get better unless you practice...a lot.

SexGoddess,

You are onto a real phenomenon. Orgasm in men generates endorphins in the brain. Very pleasureable but makes them sleepy. Young sperm machines keep on going but more mature men poop out and we women get shorted.

Make sure you get yours first!!!

Mainly men. Women become relaxed as we come down but it is in the male that the endorphins become elevated in the brain. And no, there is nothing you can do about it. It is part of the extreme pleasure and anything that would decrease the endorphins, would decrease the pleasure.

There are those who advocate certain substances to enhance the pleasure of sex. And they can enhance sexual feeling in the short term. In the long term, they all have the opposite action.

i often heard and read from women that the best oral sex they get is from other women. I guess is because they exactly now what to do and where to do it (like in the very instructive post from Brandye, thanks for the tip!).
But i wonder ... could it be that a blow job from a man could is better than one from a woman? Hmm, i'm not sure if want to say that i'm curious LOL.

And for the original question, well, i always listen to my g/f, if the sounds of pleasure are getting louder it means i'm doing something good, if not, i move to some other place.

I for once would prefer a man who actually would mean and do as he says or boasts about when it comes to giving oral sex.

I love when a man can insert a finger or two inside me while he's licking on my clit. it makes me all the more sensitive. but my problem is that once I've performed oral sex on a man he will STOP giving me oral sex or drastically decrease the time and effort put into pleasing me because he desperately wants me to perform oral sex on him.

I love giving but ####! WTF? LOL

hey Brandye, do you know any way to avoid geting sleepy after sex? i always want to continue having sex with my gf after i ejaculate, but is hard to doit when you feel so sleepy, sometimes i don't even lose my erection but i can't do very good because i just feel so weak.

Do women get tired as well as men after oral or fingering? Or is it just men???

I personally do not like a guy to stick his tongue in and out of my vagina, it doesn't do much for me, I'd rather him just lick my clit and around it, start off slow then as I start to feel good then go a little fast, but he has to mix it up a little bit, slow fast slow fast, you get the point, right?

I knew this married lady i was 18,at the time ,all she wanted was oral ,she did me too . i asked her why not sex she said i would problay bang her five or six times ,and when she went home her husband would want sex and she would be sore where as with oral , no soreness could screw him silly ,i use to see her a t least once a week she was great did a great blow job too , she was a wonderful experience.

Well, this is my opinion.  A little bit of everything is best.  Start GENTLE.  Be caring and delicate.  As I get further a long, I like my boyfried to start licking faster, and taking in my clit to suck it relatively firmly.  Tongue insertion feels very good, and should be used, but it won't get me to orgasm.  Fingering also feels good, but not at the expense of the clit.  If you can't do both at once, just stick with the tongue.  Also, I like to be licked quickly, ie. flicking, but licking it long and firm, kinda like ice cream, also feels really good.  I hope there's nothing I'm forgetting.
In summary, a bit of everything, finishing with constant clitoral stimulation.
IMHO...
P.S. I actually get tired quite easily - much more than my boyfriend. I have to have at least a half hour after an orgasm before I can really go at it again.

I wish i was a girl!! It sounds so much fun. *sigh*

Vette,

You have not been very active lately. I miss you. And SexGoddess. We need all the knowledge we can get and so do a few new young questers.

Cunnilingus? Between girlfriends? Sigh! Heaven! More should really try it but according to Cosmo, about 40% of us do.

Right side up, upside down, on top, on bottom, inside out, outside in, front first, back first, start in the middle, fast, slow, soft, hard, with tongue tip, with whole mouth, nibbling, licking ….you get the picture. But after much kissing, caressing, breast play, tummy play, 28 days a month but only about once a week.

For me? Thanks for asking!! During my period I love slow tongue baths treating every crease and fold, getting firmer as it progresses with a finger approaching my anus to enter in rhythm with my contractions.

In our relationship, whoever has her period gets to be queen.

Sven,
That is why I say rather typical. In this context that can lead to risky behavior - the male showing sexual prowess and the female showing desire and submission but neither remembered the condoms. "Once will be OK." And neither has the process quite figured out.

Not to sound like a pig, but isn't that wht nature intended. I mean men being macho and women trying to please. I am not a maccho type and I believe in mutual pleasure, but you do need to consider instinct.

It's kinda hard to explain, most girls, I know I do, like to be licked starting off slowly and not too much pressure with the tongue, on the top in the middle, (on the clit). Don't put pressure on it cause it may tend to hurt a little bit, you have to be careful with that one.

Well there is a link on this website with lots of good in-depth information, found here. I'm sure you can also do various searches on the internet to find other information.

Just keep in the mind to play off of her reactions, and have fun.

first u have to finger her a little bit to start off then u lick around the clit real slow and then run ure tongue across it but not too hard then once u got ure momentum started u will know what to do from their "response".

I know that all women are different. I know that something that works on one girl might not work on the other. I just wondered some possible things I could try; just so I'm not just shooin' in the dark. I just want for her to enjoy it, and if I can get sompe possible techiniques that might help achieve that then I would be sooo happy. Like I said before, any advice is very appreciated.

JRobida999

yo all females are not the same like stephanie said so asking other women what they like might not necessairly help you with your girl.what i do with my girlfriend is tell her to go down there with you and guide you,have her play around with your fingers on top of hers find out what she likes and doesn't. Then when you think its time to go on (on your own) tell her to feel free to tell you if she feels uncomfortable or if it hurts. If she doesn't feel right tuching her self then you might have to do all that on your own(exploring). if your doing that then you are not trying to please but just finding out wat feels good to her asking her if this feels good as you go along.

Hi,
I am going to visit my girlfriend in a few weeks, and since the last time we saw each other we have been talkng. We have both decided we want to experiment with sexual activities more. I have fingered her once, but I didnt know how. I talked to her afterword and she said I hurt her and I did some research and found out some possible reasons why it hurt. I am definitely going to be more careful next time we do that kind of thing. Anyway... We also were talking about doing more than just fingering. She asked me if I would ever go down on her and I said yes, but only if she wanted me to. I kind of took that as a hint to maybe try it. Of course, if she says no, or pushes me away, I will stop on a dime. I would do anything for this girl. I did some research, but I had a question for all you girls(and women).

Are there any techniques for fingering or oral that really REALLY hit the spot for you? you know, ones that give you fist clenching orgasms? I wondered because i dont care about me getting "relieved" as along as she gets off first. I really want to please her but I dont really know what would really do the trick. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

JRobida999

It is good that you waited on her, and you're not pushing her to do anything she don't want to do.
When fingering her don't go crazy with the clit, (you know that it has more nerves in the clit then on an entire penis), it is very sensitive so don't push hard on it.
Personally I don't like fingering inside, I like to be played with on the outside. But every girl is different.
If you do plan on going down on her, make sure she is ready and also use ice cubes, it feels so good. and again, the clit is very sensitive.

Hi,

Now, I have read a lot of sites on the internet, and in magazines, about going down on a woman. It sounds really great, but the sites and mags only really talked about how much women like it, not how you do it to max effect.

I am a young male, currently with no girlfriend. But hopefully this will change in the near future. In the event of me eventually having a girlfriend, I feel this would be a interesting area to know a bit more about.

Can anyone give me a full explanation on how to go down on a woman to the best effect possible? I would be very grateful, thank you.

Steve

Click on the link to Cunnilingus to read the site section for tips and techniques on this topic.

this is going to sound odd.. but go onto a p2p file sharing program such as kazaa or morpheus. and look for a video called Oral Sex Training Video. A girl explains what everything is and where to focus on the most. thats how i learned and ive never gotten any complaints.

that video was alot of help to me thanks even though im not the one who made this thread

the best way to find out what a woman wants is to ask...if she's too scared to tell then maybe she doesn't really mind what you do...pretty much any tongue to vagina contact will be pleasing to her

If a girls's clit is sensative should I go around it like in a circle or something? What should I do?

[QUOTE=Quote (HSsucks @ Aug. 10 2003,21:54)]If a girls's clit is sensative should I go around it like in a circle or something? What should I do?[/QUOTE]
The most sensative part of the clit is the head. If her clit is too sensative, focus more on the stem of her clitoris and other parts of the vulva.

I, personally, like when they switch off sucking and licking lightly or hard and also fingering.... NOW THAT IS PLEASURE.

Read all you can and listen to these tips ... but I think you also just have to pay attention to her body.  Don't treat it like a performance where you have to do everything "right" .... treat it like a non-verbal, physical dialogue ....

Find out how much response you can get with the minimum of contact with her clitoris.  My boyfriend can just move his tongue AROUND it, without quite touching it, and once he gets the rhythm right I can have multiple orgasms just from that.  (The value of not touching it directly is it doesn't become overly-sensitive.  Also, when he goes down on me, I like to have him insert two fingers into my vagina .... He doesn't have to move them, in fact I prefer if he doesn't ... I just like that pressure ...)

But there are no black-and-white rules, and if you're receptive to her body and what it's telling you, sometimes you can break the "rules" with stunning results.  A while ago my guy was going down on me like I just described, not quite touching my clit, and I'd had like two or three nice little orgasms, and then -- inspired, I guess -- he suddenly wrapped his whole mouth over my clit and sucked it and sucked it and sucked it in a totally shocking and violent maneuver.  This gave me the biggest, most incredible, earth-shattering orgasm I've ever had in my life, which ended with me literally fainting dead away. It was amazing.

So, bottom line:  educate yourself, but be receptive to her ...

[QUOTE=Quote (moose_hd @ May 01 2005,01:26)]Though I am wondering about something else on this topic: When I am eating her, it is better for her to be lying down or sitting on something that allows her to spread her legs and recline, or some other position? We are both very new at this sort of thing, so we really don't know what is the most effective method (if there is one at all.)[/QUOTE]
As far as positioning, when you're starting out, keep it simple. Have her lay on her back on a bed and spread her legs. You go inbetween her legs and do your things. It might also help if she has a pillow under her butt so it's easier for you to get at.

My other tips as a girl to guys:
Don't be frustrated if she doesn't cum right away, especially if she's younger. First of all, girls can be inherently very insecure about this, to the point that they will stop themselves from enjoying it because they are so worried about what the guy will think. So help her out, tell her you love going down on her, that she tastes so good, etc. Tell her it turns you on. Don't lie, but be sure to tell her what you like about it and keep reassuring her about this. It can takes girls a while to be able to cum from oral, but the pleasure can still be very intense. If she doesn't cum from it, that's fine. A good way to help her cum is to finger her while sucking on her clit (gently). This way she can get the harder penetration too.

In a relationship, please be sure to try and keep the blow job to eating out ratio as equal as possible. I love going down on my boyfriend. And my boyfriend enjoys going down on me. But I think sometimes guys just kind of....I don't know, don't really think about it...and they don't do it unless specifically asked. Don't make her ask. Depending on how much she enjoys it, make it a fairly usual part of your routine.

Some people find this gross, but my boyfriend and I are very close, and I get turned on when he kisses me during oral on me. Sometimes when he's fingering he'll make me lick his fingers too. If you guys enjoy this, it can be a fun addition and makes it hotter.

[QUOTE=Quote (cunnuslover @ May 21 2003,08:01)]I knew this married lady i was 18,at the time ,all she wanted was oral ,she did me too . i asked her  why not sex  she said i would problay bang her five or six times ,and when she went home her husband would want sex and she would be sore where as with oral , no soreness could screw him silly ,i use to see her a t least once a week she was great did a great blow job too , she was a wonderful experience.[/QUOTE]
Lucky son of a bitch ive always wanted an older woman experience

[QUOTE=Quote (Don_One @ Nov. 27 2004,15:16)]One thing that I find that amazes me is how many women don't like men going down on them. I personally like going down on a woman, but for some reason a lot of women are insecure about receiving head.[/QUOTE]
to answer this, i think it's cuz they're insecure...insecure their partner wont think they smell good or taste delectable down there...they dont know if their own smell down there's normal etc. etc. and this makes them paranoid and unwilling to receive oral even if the girl gives it to her partner! all a girl should EVER need to think about before oral is cleanliness. have a shower/bath a few hours be4 oral and u shd smell of ur natural smell...this avoids any yeasty yucky smells when he peels ur pants off! (lol) evry1 tastes different and if ur worried, taste urself...it does no harm! i actually dont mind my own taste that much and tbh my boyfriend (when i finally let him give me oral - he was more desperate than me lol), he was like "u taste rly good"! just b confident..it's not like all guys have delectable cum anyway!

uncreativename

I guess for this I'm sending it out towards the guys..my boyfriend and I have been experimenting on each other since Jan and he loves it when I go down on him. I want him to go down on me, but it makes him gag and can't go through with it. I know he really REALLY wants to too...any suggestions as to what I can do to make it better for him??? thanks guys

SexKitty

I have one big no no and one big yes yes:

No no - Hard tongue flipping over clitoris million miles an hour. I think they've got that from a porn movie, where girls moarn for pleasure what ever guys do. I have a couple of words for that person who ever thought that looks sexy!

Yes yes - sucking in the clitoris and surroundings. Gently though, no need to turn on the vacuum cleaner for that. Sucking in, and simultaniously playing around with a soft tongue. Yappee!

Hey all! I'm a bit new here. I have no idea how I came across this site but it has kept me riveted for the last few hours.

Oral techniques on the female genitilia.........

It brings me waaaay back to an old Sam Kinison routine where he would give guys advice. And hot damn! It worked!

His best advice was licking the alphabet. I was hanging out with a guy (I was 15 and he was 18--and he was extremely talented to begin with) when we watched that special. We experimented and ended up diving into full scale research. Needless to say, I was extremely pleased with the results.

Many years later, it is my best advice to a guy when he is going down.

about the positioning thing, is there really like "the position" to try this in? I mean theres always her laying there legs spread and the guy laying there face in. but, what do you females prefer? I know every female is different so please dont give me that. I want an opinion from you females, and males from what there females like the most.

Well I am sorry but men just can't fufill as much as a women can.

[QUOTE=Quote (LovelyRita @ Aug. 28 2002,18:33)]I have said this many times before, "Oral sex kicks ass." With that said, honestly, I'm happy to be getting anything. Everything about oral sex feels absolutely wonderful. Just remember, you can't get better unless you practice...a lot.[/QUOTE]
"... you can't get better unless you practice...a lot ..."

...only wish that I could....

WOW, there's tons of valuable info here and I can guarantee it will be put to good use the next time I see my gf!

Though I am wondering about something else on this topic: When I am eating her, it is better for her to be lying down or sitting on something that allows her to spread her legs and recline, or some other position? We are both very new at this sort of thing, so we really don't know what is the most effective method (if there is one at all.)

Men don't take hints too well ( at least the ones that I have been with) you need to take his hand his face, what ever and say: "There, right there don't stop" and he will listen. Guys don't know they aren't us, so we have to teach them and be strait forward, the last thing you need to do when you are close, is think about how you are going to sugar coat, "don't move or don't stop" just say it. you and he will be gald you did. Outside of the intimate moment you might want to talk about what turns you on to the point of orgasm, for both you and him to know about each other. It's good to know the tricks, but that is with time, teaching, trying, learing and discussion.

[QUOTE=Quote ]They just all seem to change pace or intensity or something, and it kind of slips away. you know? [/QUOTE]

When you feel like you're getting close to cumming let them know that and tell them to keep doing whatever they're doing at the time to get you to this point. When I start to feel like I'm about to cum I grab the back of my boyfriend's head, pull his hair, and make sure his mouth isn't going anywhere. I tell him that I'm about to cum and beg him to keep going and not to stop. The begging has an added bonus. Not only does it get me what I want, he loves it and it really gets him hot.

ok, I CANT have an orgasm thorugh oral. I went out with a guy all through high school, and we did it hundreds of times, ive since had a guys try, and nothing. it feels good, but I cant come, it just gets me really horny and I want to have sex because i cant stand the teasing any more. I have gotten to the point where my legs are shaking, and I'm arching my back, and its all tingly, but then nothing. They just all seem to change pace or intensity or something, and it kind of slips away. you know? Many of my friends say that its an awasome kind of orgasm, and I really want to experience it. how do I tell a guy what will make me come?

[QUOTE=Quote ]love kisssing, and slididng my fingers up and down her back, and not diggin my nails into her back but more of a fingertip grasp, and just using my whole body all over her body, being close and soft and slow, [/QUOTE]

mmmmm yeah, total sensual stimulation overload. mmmmm
you are much more than ok.

ok, im very sexual and very into sex, both sensual and hardcore and i feel that when im tongueing around the vaginal area it is less satisfying for me becaus ei feel i can give more....i love kisssing, and slididng my fingers up and down her back, and not diggin my nails into her back but more of a fingertip grasp, and just using my whole body all over her body, being close and soft and slow, it is the shit, and its very sensual, and i like that better than fast, hardcore sexual....i feel it makes out better in the long run...if im wrong ladies tell em, caus ei think im ok where i stand

... *clears throat*...
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trust me, youre more than ok...
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if youre serious that is

my personal opinion is that when my boyfriend flicks his tongue across my clit while fingering my vagina this builds up the excitement after teasing my clit with his tongue he swaps so that his fingers are teasing my clit and his tongue is inside me,it deffinately works for me.

First and foremost, remember you can't MAKE anyone give you something they don't want to.

You can however drop hints that it's something you'd like. You can even tell him that you'd wash yourself down there before hand. That seems to be the problem with a lot of guys. They don't think we're clean down there so they don't want to perform it.

Or, you can do a bit of a compromise. That was my situation.
He wanted to do anal on me, and I wanted oral. So, he gave me what I wanted, and I gave him what he wanted.
He did make me wash down there but I didn't find it as big of a deal as some people do. Sure, it's a bit annoying he doesn't think I'm clean and before it now he asks if I've washed.. but hey, I'm getting what I want, so if all I have to do is wash a little bit beforehand, then so be it.

ok well i just started having sex about 2 monhs ago .. i very much enjoy it .. i have no problems with giving my botfriend oral .. it actually turns me on .. my boyfriend dont like giving oral .. he said he has had a bad experience with it .. all my girl friend yell at me bc i dont make him give it to me .. n tell me how much i would enjoy it .. i want to make him feel comfortable with me enough to perform oral on me .. how can i talk to him about it n make him feel ok with giving me oral