So, after posting a thread on here a few weeks ago about oral sex advice for a first-timer, I finally decided to "take the plunge" last night. However, I was a little surprised to discover that my boyfriend is uncircumcised, when I just assumed otherwise. ( I know, never assume. I failed to take into account that people from Latin America don't generally get circumcised, and his dad is Peruvian. )
He had never gotten head before, so I think we were both in uncharted territory. When the techniques I had read about so much didn't seem to garner much of a response ( especially because I had trouble finding the frenulum ), I asked him to show me how he got off with a hand job thrown into the mix. Unfortunately, second time around was much harder because he'd built up from the first time when I was sucking him, so sadly, no orgasm right then.
Tonight, I'd read up about the un-cut member, trying to gather some information. One of the articles I read claimed that many uncircumcised men don't particularly want oral sex because vaginal sex is more satisfying as a result of their anatomy. Also, when I was (very) gently sucking his balls, he didn't seem to like it. Are the testicles more sensitive with un-cut men? I know that there's always room for deviation in regards to what people like and dis-like, but i was under the impression that the testicles were a pretty safe bet for a pleasure-zone.
I guess I'm just looking for any insight or advice on this manner. Thanks in advance!
i dont imagine that giving head to an "un-cut" penis would be any different from a circumcised 1, although i am i straight "un-cut" male so i wouldnt really know.
u mentioned that we would prefer vaginal sex to oral... i disagree, i dont have a preference, oral as amzing cos theres no effort from me but lots of pleasure, but i love having vaginal sex too, and its just every man has a different preference, u cant really say who likes what, only they can so discard that information lol.
as for the balls question... again u cant really say "this category of men has more sensitive balls than that 1," each person has their own sensitivity, and not every man likes having their balls sucked/licked, u just have to find out what ur man likes and stick to that.
> i dont imagine that giving head to an "un-cut" penis would be any different from a circumcised 1, although i am i straight "un-cut" male so i wouldnt really know.
Being straight or not has no bearing on the discussion.
There is usually a considerable difference in how a person reacts who is intact and another person who has been circumcised. Why? Because the nerves in the Glans of a natural man have been protected from the elements all his life and are much much more reactive than those same nerves that have been exposed to rubbing against clothing, skin, and, exposed to the environment.
Illustration of foreskin retraction
> I had trouble finding the frenulum
Description of a Frenulum as well as a link to a photo.
Of all the hotspots, the Frenulum is the A#1. One or more other hotspots can be randomly distributed around the Corona Rim. Rubbing the Frenulum when a guy is on the edge will pretty much guarantee triggering a climax--even an illusive one, such as the second or third in a multiple string.
How a particular individual reacts to having his Glans manually and/or orally stimulated varies. Some guys can stand to have the foreskin retracted and the Glans stimulated directly just like a person without a foreskin does. Others find the touch, no matter how gentle just too intense. For these guys, leaving the foreskin forward is preferred. This is not unlike stimulating the clitoris indirectly through the labia that are folded over it after it becomes too sensitive to touch directly.
It is important for both the man and the woman to know that the foreskin also contains a myriad of nerves that are sensitive to the touch, so even when extended, a natural guy derives benefit from rubbing the foreskin as well as indirect stimulation of the Glans. With this fact in mind, I'm not certain why your guy didn't find any of this pleasureable.
You were right to ask him to show you how he masturbates. I'd ask him again, and then asking him to take your hand in order to guide your movements until you learn his special technique. When you do this, it is important for him to give you feedback on how he is responding to your touches and for what he may need--now. If he enjoys masturbating, then he should very much enjoy what you do for him after you learn to mimic his unique method. Why? Because as enjoyable as masturbation is, the sensations experienced as well as the level of arousal are vastly more intense when in the company of a lover. (The same holds true for you with him.)
> He had never gotten head before, so I think we were both in uncharted territory. When the techniques I had read about so much didn't seem to garner much of a response ( especially because I had trouble finding the frenulum )
As beneficial as the Frenulum is, wait on involving it until later. Concentrate on the Glans, directly or indirectly, first. You can also up the ante' so to speak with what I refer to as the "dynamic duo", in which you stroke the shaft while at the same time giving oral stimulation.
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
Following along with all this, here is some information on playing with his scrotum and testicles.
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
I'm not sure why he didn't like what you were doing for him. It could just be that your technique needs some improvement. Guys generally like scratching and fingering themselves, here, so the fact that you wanted to do do this for him and he didn't react positively is suspect. Try again, and, work together on this, asking for his suggestions and especially his feedback on how he is reacting to what you are doing.
Lastly, please understand that making love and having sex is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. The process is a partnership. Explore and learn together. The following Sticky thread has several chapters. I encourage the two of you to read all of it, beginning with the third chapter, then reading the first. The rest can be digested in any order each of you want.
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
I hope this is of help. Questions?
in england, most men are uncut and they don't seem to have too many problems enjoying oral sex ;)
Well, Greeneyedfemme...
I myself am an uncut male... I find that oral sex is very pleasing to me and the only thing you really have to do is pull on the shaft of his penis until the skin is pulled down enough to reveal the tip then hold it there, and all oral techniques apply...
As far as for a hand job you are better off with two hands on holding the skin down while the other works the head....
testicles are best cupped during oral or hand job kissing is ok but not great, at least for me, if my wife kisses my balls she usually strokes the sahft with her hands... this is great as far as intercourse over oral sex I think is a preference whether you are cut/uncut ... Uncut penises are more sensitive than cut due to the head being protected with the extra skin.
Hope this helps
I am a un-cut man. Normaly I do prefer sex than oral. Until recently. My wife has been reading some post and in the past few weeks has done a outstanding job.
As far as the balls. I love too have them licked, pulled on and so forth. Its like you said its all the prefrence of the reciver.
Just make sure he washes,lol.
u will find most males today are how u say 'un-cut' as this was traditionally a jewish tradition to 'cut' the penis..
though its more than common to find an un-cut penis nowadays and i dont really see how much difference it makes... though correct me if i am wrong ladies.
you could always pull the skin back and thus.. its practically "un-cut" as you say.