Hiya! New Here and my boyfriend and I are having some troubles, of which I would greatly appreciate any advice!
It's both of our first times, doing anything with anyone, and we're having some peculiar troubles. I've tried to give him oral sex a few times, but it just isn't working out. Granted, I've never done it before, but that doesn't seem to be the problem. He can't feel anything. Or, at least, nothing pleasurable. (A lil bit at times, nothing to write home about.)
We've tried a bunch of things, but nothing seems to work. He's not circumsized; so the first time we pulled the foreskin down and he says it felt good for a little while, but he must've been too sensitive because after a while it went numb. The second time we kept the foreskin up, but still nothing. I'm doing a ton of different things and he's just as confused as I am! We can't figure it out. He says it should feel great! Sometimes I even play with his fingers, lick them and such, and he says he feels really nice. When I do the same to his penis, though, nothing happens.
He's never had trouble masturbating, but the other day he couldn't even get himself off (or was too tired to) after another failed attempt at oral sex.
I hate this. I want to pleasure him, but nothing seems to be working! Any advice, please?
Thanks!
ok well I am circumsized, I dont know what difference tha makes, however I would suggest to him to not masterbate for at least 3 weeks and when he does start again only use light pressure and or only use his fingertips. masturbation can cause a loss of feeling in the penis which might be what he is experiencing.
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One key is to have him masturbate in front of you so u can see his techinque..that WILL help you when you perform oral since he's had no other sexual experience other than what you have both been working on!
A few other tips....use you hands as well as your mouth when u perform oral sex...and u also should consider playing with his ass and fingering him down there.....if u can find the prostate, that will almost guarantee him an orgasm!
Yeah Rawbob has some good techniques but playing anal..ehh.. you might want to leave that until later in the relationship. It's scary at first... but moreso if it's your first relationship! But yes use your hands as well as your mouth... and your tongue.. use your tongue, that's a must. I remember I asked my GF to use her toungue and it was 400x better!
Drew
my tip is to grip tighter with your lips when you are actually doing the up and down movement on his shaft. that was a problem i used to have, i didnt grip tight enough. also, lick around, lick his balls..
& I wouldn't say anal play it's scary tek. Rawbob is right. A man's prostate is like finding the clit on a female. At least in my relationship it is. If someone is trying to please their male partner, I'm all about agreeing with rawbob on that tip.
I'm not sticking my expensive fingernails up a man's ass for anybody! Things like that are not done in certain circles.
Certain circles? Or certain people.
SillyFlicka, Rawbob gives very sound advise.
Watch him , try his own technique. If he can get himself off so can you. It just takes practice and the willingness to try anything. Live life. Good luck.