Ive been going out with my girlfriend for a little over 3 months now and every time she gives me head i cant cum. I have no clue why i cant, shes amazing and it feels incredible but i just cant. We are both getting discouraged. The first like 5 or 6 times we had sex i couldn't cum either but then one day i did and ive every time after that. She doesn't use her hand really would that help with the process?
Tue, 05/22/2007 - 01:52
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Oral sex problem
me men like the use of a hand during oral, some do not. Try it. Also try to relax! Oral is much lighter then manual stimulation and the partner varies speed, etc. Have her try taking you in her mouth and using her hand on your shaft towards the base of your penis working in unison with the mouth movement. Just enjoy it and tell her if you want her to do it firmer, lighter, faster or slower. If men do not tell us what they like we can not guess!
I think i may think about it too much. Its probably all mental.
Yeap! Stop thinking and go with it! :)
thanks Sera :) ill keep posting if problem consists.
No problem! Usually there are many other posters who can help out and give you ideas/opinions. If you still have an issue drop a note!
Don't worry yao I had the same issue with my ex girlfriend. It felt good enough but for sum reason I couldn't. I only came off of head with my current gf. Its mostly mental. My ex really didn't seem into it, so I guess it gave me a mental block. But if ur current gf is really looking 4ward to doing it and excited about it just relax wen u do cum throw ur hands in the air for victory lol
The more you think about it, the more likely it is you would fail :) I remember I once felt that way and I actually failed to have an erection. So relax buddy. :D You will get there easily.
And then you'll have the problem of always wanting it, but that's different :D
My girlfriend is in army training for the summer so i have lots of time to practice with my masturbation lol. I always masturbate pretty fast and when she gave me head i couldnt cum....i think that is the prob. The past couple of days ive tried doing it slower and i was able to cum...took between 15-20 mins though...im sure it will be better with practice. But ive heard men get used to masturbating a certain way and sometime cumming during head is difficult. So would my practicing doing it slow help? and make me cum during head possibly?
hmm, i wouldn't worry too much about practicing myself. normally practicing is suppose to make you last longer, or so i've read. but just be more relaxed the next time, it is actually a mental thing like other people have said, my ex would do it and then complain it would take too long after around minutes so i always felt bad and couldn't get off, buy with my current gf i have no problem, i can tell she's really into it and that just adds to the pleasure, also try having her use her hand, even she's not able to do it well just have her squeeze, slowly adding and releasing pressure and that might help. another thing you could try, is that when my gf is giving me oral she will sometimes just relax her mouth somewhat and have me lightly thrust
you just gotta try some different things, and whatever you do just be confident about it
My partner had the same problem. It was like a mental block. He got over that and now he can cum for England (well like U.S.A, theres so much lol)
In male oral sex, the first and most focused part by women is the head, not the shaft. Try and get more sensitivity on the head, while we masturbate, we get our focus on the shaft. Try cumming just by exciting the head / tip. When she does it, she'll be going down on the head and the shaft, giving you added exciting due to the fact that you were now used to cumming by head / tip excitement only ;) Maybe it helps
[QUOTE=nympho;182152]now he can cum for England (well like U.S.A, theres so much lol)[/QUOTE]
[SIZE="4">GOOD[/SIZE]Now maybe we should make him take TIEBREAKER KICKS for Jolly Ole in the next World Cup Soccer Finals!
thanks for the ideas :)