Sounds pretty normal for a 16 y.o. virgin! Frankly, I'm surprised you lasted 4-5 minutes. I would worry if I were you.
Just my $0.02...

Agreed
Besides... I wished my b/f would only last 5 minutes for oral. lol.
Jaw sure can get tired after 10-15 min lol
Yea Im sure you have nothing to worry about.
Was that her first time doing that to a guy?
I am sure she was a lil embarrassed that she did that too, lol, I know I couldn't believe I did it the first time.

On the other... just look under the Pleasing Her section. There are tons of threads on Fingering 101, Oral 101, etc.

Dear new_ _game,

I agree. You are normal and the situation as presented seems normal enough. I am amused by your recount of events accompanied by a timeline. Were you watching the clock? Actually, the information is great because it shows that you didn't seem to be in a rush and the twenty minutes of cuddling after the fact is to be commended.

There are two common misconceptions newbys often have. The first is that they cum way too soon; the second is that it is necessary and proper to engage in intercourse and to stroke for fifteen or twenty minutes in order to build one's level of arousal enough to climax. **

Premature Ejaculation is commonly defined as having a climax within the first minute or two of either concentrated effort by hand and/or mouth, or upon entering the vagina and stroking. Experiencing a climax after the first minute or so is not really PE, just a matter of cumming before you want to. With regard to intercourse; climaxing upon entering, during the initial return stroke, or during the first two or three strokes is considered PE.
That you lasted 4-5 minutes actually demonstrates remarkable control. You should be proud, not dismayed.

** If intercourse goes much beyond ten minutes a woman is likely to become tired, bored, sore, and maybe dry. Stroking should be used to maintain an already intense level of arousal, and, to peak that already high state in order to trigger an orgasm. A wise and caring lover will make intercourse the culmination of a grand experience of expressing his love rather than the focus. My point: devote lots of time before intercourse piquing and peaking each other's excitement and then keeping the actual act of intercourse reasonably short.

Oral on the other hand can be extended if desired, again within reason. A person's mouth and tongue can become fatigued quickly as previously noted by db. Perhaps the trick here is to take periodic breaks from oral yet continuing with hand stimulation so that her mouth and jaw do not become tired or sore. Here, too, please keep in mind that if oral stimulation goes on too long then you are probably using the technique incorrectly and for the wrong purpose. Yes, in the initial stages its purpose is to intensify a person's level of arousal, not to build it up from scratch; that's what all the kissing, caressing, of necking and petting are for.

Making love is a partnership activity. It should not be what one person does to the other; rather, what each of you do with and for the other.

> when she came back things sorta seemed awkard for the rest of the night, i'm not sure if it was just me or if it was her too but somethign jsut wasnt right...

Communication is very important. Talk to her about what seems amiss or out of sorts as well as what's right. Express to her your absolute joy at how things went and perhaps one or two specifics like "I liked it when you did this or that", or you can do "that", again, or, when you did "that" I was up in the ozone! Any concerns you have can be discussed later after the passion subsides.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

> i've read all the premature ejaculation excersizes on the site and i know that its common in most teens, but are there any other ways that i can postpone from ejaculation and hold back orgasm??

Did you read my lengthy treatise on the matter, posted yesterday?

http://www.sexinfo101.com/cgi-bin....ry49995

At the very end is a link to a page describing and detailing the Squeeze technique. I understand that there is similar info elsewhere on the forum.

If you did not read the information, above, please read the part that describes the arousal curve. If you receive stimulation be it by hand and/or mouth, or intercourse, it seems logical to keep your level of arousal fairly low if you want ot extend the timeline.

There are potions and creams available that are supposed to dull the nerves in the Glans. Do they work? Dunno, but it seems like a Band-Aid approach to solving a problem. Of course, with regard to intercourse (which you are not yet ready for), using a condom will definitely raise the threshold level of your climax.

You are normal and sound more intelligent than a lot of 16 year olds talking about sex. First blow job for both of you I take it? and you lasted about five minutes then came? Sounds like a perfect, normal first blow job. I think maybe she got embarrassed because she kept going after you came (we girls who are doing things for the first time can sometimes really have no idea what to do, how guys like things, etc). My first time when I was about your age, my boyfriend didn't cum and I ended up crying lol. But we kept trying and of course it gets better and more fun. You have nothing to worry about. Girls can feel vulnerable afterwards (their first time), so it was very good of you to cuddle. Always be sweet to her during and don't be afraid to ask her if anything is wrong. So many times misunderstandings cause unnecessary problems.

Feel free to ask questions and to keep the thread going. The only dumb question is the one not asked.