i really actually enjoy going down on girls. i dont know why but i like the fact that im pleasing them i guess. its weird though because my girlfriend said she doesnt want me to, and when i ask why she wont say. She knows how much i like to receive and i just want to return the favor.
could anyone give me any reasons why maybe she wouldnt want me to. We have done foreplay many times before and are comfortable with each other. She just doesnt let me go down there
any help is GREATLY appreciated
Work your way into it. Most likely culprit is her lack of experience or fear where you find her not so pleasant. Continue to reassure her but if she is not open to telling you the truth, that's a difficult barrier to overcome, lack of proper communication.
Often women are uncomfortable with areas they have not moved into yet. Many women fear they may have a foul scent or taste nothing a bit of tidying up cannot repair unless there are underlying infection issues.
She may not be comfortable with her own body or view the act as unsanitary. She is the only one who holds the true answer.
Yea, My gf thinks its unsanitary. How can I explain to her that its not? She said she likes the feeling but is afraid of germs.
[quote=CleverName;218084]Yea, My gf thinks its unsanitary. How can I explain to her that its not? She said she likes the feeling but is afraid of germs.[/quote] I would suggest a cleaning up or shower together for foreplay. No douching though. If properly showered or a fresh bath? She may feel better about it being cleaner. Just think when you kiss, you "swap germs". Also no scented body soaps or creams applied since they cause infections. Plain old Ivory soap, lathered up on a washcloth. You clean her in the shower or tub and she gets to clean you...:)
Women have no idea of all the fun they are missing! :)
Does she think your mouth is unsanitary, or that her genitals are the cause of 'grossocity'? I had a similar problem with an ex. She wouldn't let me do anything to her ( manual or oral) because she thought I would be grossed out by her bodily fluids. Her wetness was totally embarassing to her and she thought it was very unclean. Eventually, I got her to wise up to the idea of "the wetter, the better," and we had lots of fun. Is it possible that her reluctance stems from self-consciousness as well?
At first she had the same feelings as your ex, but we got over that a long time ago.. at least I thought so, maybe she still feels this way but came up with another excuse to avoid it? The best thing I can do is talk to her about it again I suppose.