I know this has probably been bought up many times but I tried searching for about half an hour and couldn't find anything particularly useful, but any links to help instead of people having to explain would be great.
My girlfriend doesn't like the taste of cum, nor does she particularly find giving a blowjob erotic. I was wondering if there was any way to help her cope with the taste (we've tried flavouring stuff but it doesnt help) because it's one part of our sex life that isn't working out and it's a pain that I pleasure her orally; but she can't pleasure me. Also, is there any way I can "build in" a blowjob into our sex life so that she'll find it enjoyable. I've tried different positions and playing with her breasts as she does it but neither seems to help much. Is there any particular position that would allow me freer access to pleasure her (apart from 69 as i like intimacy in oral sex) while she's giving me a blowjob?
Thanks in advance for any advice.
How about flavoured condoms when 1st start and just work up to not using one? xx
A rule of etiquette is that it is up the the woman whether or not she wants her partner to ejaculate in her mouth. Her decision is final and we must live with it.
Not everyone enjoys the taste or the idea of it. Many of us must be satisfied with oral stimulation up to a point and then having an orgasm triggered either by hand or intercourse.
The tastes of semen and vaginal mucus are acquired. Diet can improve the taste somewhat although each is pretty much what it is. If she does want to swallow, then have her try sipping water or wine or cola along with the semen.
I do not have any suggestions for how to help a person enjoy this type of stimulation. Much has to do with perceptions of self and of genitals in general. Until perceptions or attitudes change, there is not much that will improve a person's outlook other than that s/he is enjoying it vicariously knowing that the other person is getting something pleasurable from their caresses.
Thanks for the help; you've pretty much said what I was thinking.
I'll see if I can somehow make it a more appealing part of our relationship as she likes doing it because I enjoy it, but it's not a "turn on" for her; I'll talk to her about it and we can experiment a little perhaps.
I'll probably tell her not to worry about going all the way; I'd prefer to have her finish me off another way than have her not enjoy it / feel uncomfortable.
Each woman has her limits. They may change over time but that is up to her. Many of us believe that oral should be in all our bags of tricks; many simply cannot go there. Prostitutes will tell you that this is their most requested service from married men. Your girlfriend is not alone.